Is gay life all about sex only?

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    Sep 10, 2010 9:14 PM GMT
    Is gay life all about sex only? I don't atleast see gays nearby where i live take a good look at my soulful heart...all they ever need all time is sex...i bewitch sex too i agree but off late just sex is frustrating....no heart to care for...How unfortunate is a lifestyle without a good love and then sex.

    Please wait God until i tell you to make me straight..wait a minute..its never gonna happen:/

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  • kinetic

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    Sep 10, 2010 11:55 PM GMT
    Men are ruled by their hormones, gay and straight.
    I guess that makes sex very important. I wouldn't say it's only about sex, but commercial gay culture mos-def seems to be. Which is sad when you think about it -Especially for gay kids who who need someone to look up.
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    Sep 11, 2010 12:14 AM GMT
    VenkyJock saidIs gay life all about sex only? I don't atleast see gays nearby where i live take a good look at my soulful heart...all they ever need all time is sex...i bewitch sex too i agree but off late just sex is frustrating....no heart to care for...How unfortunate is a lifestyle without a good love and then sex.

    Please wait God until i tell you to make me straight..wait a minute..its never gonna happen:/

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    You get a virtual hug for me. It's not only about sex for everyone. It may be tougher over where you live.
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    Sep 11, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    I don't go look for sex, never did, and I don't agree when someone says men aren't supposed to be monogamous blah blah blah...

    I value a healthy, caring, romantic, loving relationship, and I found one. So my answer is no. icon_smile.gif Hugs!
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    Sep 11, 2010 1:30 AM GMT
    I don't think so, but it is something we all think about. Sometimes though guys get so wrapped up in the pursuit of it that they lose sight of anything else.
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    Sep 11, 2010 2:28 AM GMT
    Hugs to you.

    Nope gay life is not all about sex. I have no idea what the gay infrastructure in Bangalore is like, but I'd recommend joining any gay groups there, just to make friends.

    when I became tired of the bar-scene I joined a gay volleyball club. Since that was in Germany, we would even shower together afterwards and absolutely nothing ever happened.
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    Sep 11, 2010 2:35 AM GMT
    I'm gay and my life is not all about sex. And I'm sure there are millions more like me, as you can see from the previous answers.
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    Sep 11, 2010 2:45 AM GMT
    Sex? That only exists on pay-per view.
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    Sep 11, 2010 2:46 AM GMT
    Yes.
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    Sep 11, 2010 2:54 AM GMT
    Yes it is. And the meth. Don't forget the Crystal Meth
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    Sep 11, 2010 8:59 AM GMT
    Thanks everyone for taking your time to respond.. I felt a feather rub...I am actually moved...i have hope instilled with the replies...Warm Hugs

    Venky
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    Sep 11, 2010 10:37 AM GMT
    VenkyJock saidIs gay life all about sex only? I don't atleast see gays nearby where i live take a good look at my soulful heart...all they ever need all time is sex...i bewitch sex too i agree but off late just sex is frustrating....no heart to care for...How unfortunate is a lifestyle without a good love and then sex.

    Please wait God until i tell you to make me straight..wait a minute..its never gonna happen:/

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    I hate these self hating posts! why is it that there is a segment of Gay men out there that can't take a firm grasp on life and realize that there is a whole world out there in the Gay community? They wish to make blanket statements based off of there personal experiences only.
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    Sep 11, 2010 10:39 AM GMT
    YES
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    Sep 11, 2010 10:52 AM GMT
    Damnit, you're not suppose to talk about this! Of course gays ONLY care about sex! Just don't tell anyone you know this now... we're trying to keep it a secret from the breeders.

    All that gay marriage shit---just a ruse to save money and recieve protections... we can have more sex more often while appearing as a regular couple!

    DADT--gay soldiers wanna be able to openly "serve" each other in the showers... they care about nothing else.

    There is no love--only SEX! Love is for breeders and lesbos.








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    Sep 11, 2010 11:23 AM GMT
    Can i turn the question back on you? Is your life only about being gay?

    Maybe that's too harsh, I don't know. In my experience, I am more free to embrace my own sexuality when I am also embracing all those other parts of who I am: musician, writer, athlete, friend, brother, neighbor, person-who-dances-in-the-kitchen-when-no-one's-home...

    I mean, if you live in an culture or region where people are homophobic and/or associate "gay" with "promiscuous," then of course people are going to focus on that issue, even inside the gay community. What would it take for you to find some peace and acceptance as a human being? Follow that path, maybe it will also lead to better things in terms of your connection to the non-sexually-addicted members of the gay community.

    Just thinking off the top of my head. Hope it's helpful.

    Peace.
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    Sep 11, 2010 1:15 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidMen are dogs, well...maybe 97.884448% are.
    This post started over five hours ago and look how many people. Only a half a dozen responses. The rest of the RJers are whoring it up no doubt. [...]


    Yup.
    Probably.

    But like dogs they should be properly trained (lots already are). And like people they should be shown the advantages of viable priorities (fine-tuning is always necessary anyway). Those makes a huge difference. Finding the gems in the muck is still the desirable goal in the long run.
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    Sep 11, 2010 1:35 PM GMT
    BuddyinNYC said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidMen are dogs, well...maybe 97.884448% are.
    This post started over five hours ago and look how many people. Only a half a dozen responses. The rest of the RJers are whoring it up no doubt. [...]


    Yup.
    Probably.

    But like dogs they should be properly trained (lots already are). And like people they should be shown the advantages of viable priorities (fine-tuning is always necessary anyway). Those makes a huge difference. Finding the gems in the muck is still the desirable goal in the long run.



    cheers! good to see some constructive criticism for once
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    Sep 11, 2010 1:47 PM GMT
    For some gay men, their life is about nothing more than sex; but, the same thing can be said for some straight men. Some people let sex consume them and define who they are, just like some gay men let their homosexuality consume who they are, which is rather unfortunate. We have so many parts that make us...US; don't let one thing define you totally, if at all possible.

    Not only that, but so many men and women, unfortunately, have turned sex into such a recreational activity that they lose sight of the emotional, mental, and spiritual connection that happens. Through a very personal experience, I am saving sex until I am in a serious, committed relationship; I've had my heart broken a number of times and I don't want that to happen again.

    Keep your head up.
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    Sep 11, 2010 2:20 PM GMT
    Great post Venky! my friend in my opinion one of the worse things about generalization is that gays as a group ( its most liberal and controversial sector of the bunch) tend to distort and not necessarily speak for those of us who don't necessarily identify ourselves just on our sexual orientation or sexual desires alone. I have as much sexual libido as the gay guy whose life revolves only around sex or in getting laid! and yet I don't feel my human existence is all about sex or getting laid.


    To me being gay is secondary to being human such as it is being an uncle, friend, co-worker, good neighbor, being courteous and kind to a woman as oppose to just a man just because he seems more attractive or appealing to me. I am gay and I don't think about it all the time, nor had ever used people just for sex. As a matter of fact I had a great experience with an unexpected acquaintance I came across on my way to a date just the other night, and he turned out to be ten times better than the planned date itself! no sex just a good and hearty conversation made a whole lot of difference to me.

    Leandro ♥










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    Sep 11, 2010 2:26 PM GMT
    ALEZANDAR saidGreat post Venky! my friend in my opinion one of the worse things about generalization is that gays as a group ( its most liberals and controversial sector of the bunch) tend to distort and not necessarily speak for those of us who don't necessarily identify ourselves just on our sexual orientation or sexual desires alone. I have as much sexual libido as the gay guy whose life resolves only around sex or in getting laid! and yet I don't feel my human existence is all about sex or getting laid.


    To me being gay is secondary to being human such as it is being an uncle, friend, co-worker, good neighbor, being courteous and kind to a woman as oppose to just a man just because he seems more attractive or appealing to me. I am gay and I don't think about it all the time, nor had ever used people just for sex. As a matter of fact I had a great experience with an unexpected acquaintance I came across on my way to a date just the other night, and he turned out to be ten times better than the planned date itself! no sex just a good and hearty conversation made a whole lot of difference to me.

    Leandro ♥


    I like the way you think.

    I'm gay because I have a strong, consistent sexual/emotional attraction to men; other than that one slight difference, I am like any other human being. But being that we are human, some will take any difference and play it up to extreme levels.

    Talking and spending time with a guy, in a non-sexual way, is one of the simplest joys of being gay; talking with an attractive man and laughing and having fun is like nothing else.
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    Sep 11, 2010 2:55 PM GMT
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    I like the way you think.

    I'm gay because I find men sexually arousing; other than that one slight difference, I am like any other human being. But being that we are human, some will take any difference and play it up to extreme levels.

    Talking and spending time with a guy, in a non-sexual way, is one of the simplest joys of being gay; talking with an attractive man and laughing and having fun is like nothing else.



    Yes it is, I experienced it for myself just the other night on my way to a planned date! the planned date went well but the unexpected one turned out to be ten times better. I was on the train for just about an hour with this guy who approached me earlier as I was waiting for the next train to NYC! we had a nice and friendly conversation on the train, and yes he was very attractive!!

    The planned date was a little over two hours but he was very cold, and I felt as if he was judging my every gestures, words, and at the end of the night I just didn't feel any sparks even thou he didn't do anything wrong. Gosh as we talk he didn't even have eye contact with me! the other guy and I while on the train did, and he was very sweet, strangely enough we both felt a non-sexual connection, but promising nonetheless!!


    Leandro ♥
  • shy_guy

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    Sep 11, 2010 3:05 PM GMT
    I can definatly see why you would think that and the answer kinda is yes. Gay is describing our sexuality... our preferance when it comes to sex and thats what we all have in common on here and similar sites. Its the one thing we can all understand and have a gd conversation about. Unfortunatly it just means that ppl have to dig alot deeper to find less obvious interests.
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    Sep 11, 2010 3:06 PM GMT
    VenkyJock saidIs gay life all about sex only? I don't atleast see gays nearby where i live take a good look at my soulful heart...all they ever need all time is sex...i bewitch sex too i agree but off late just sex is frustrating....no heart to care for...How unfortunate is a lifestyle without a good love and then sex.

    Please wait God until i tell you to make me straight..wait a minute..its never gonna happen:/

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    No...no and no.
    Gay life is just life...it has love, hate, joy, sorrow and sex...
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    Sep 11, 2010 3:10 PM GMT
    You're kidding yourself if you think that straight people aren't all about sex too. Straight men love getting laid. But straight couples have these goals for down the road that really aren't accessible to most of us.

    Gay = Sex-->Sex-->Sex (hopefully with a longterm partner at some point)
    Straight = Sex-->Marriage-->Kids

    If we had the same options (marriage) and consequences of sex (kids), we'd be exactly like straight people, only more attractive, fit, and with better taste in music.
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    Sep 11, 2010 3:10 PM GMT
    So hard to find love now. When you in love with someone, he may not into you at allicon_cry.gif