Tired of dating

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    Sep 11, 2010 11:04 AM GMT
    Hello

    Haven't you guys ever felt sick and tired of dating? That routine... getting ready, going out, "making it work", trying to find something good in the other guy and just hoping that THIS time it will work out better? Most of the time you end up just having sex with the guy and then nothing.
    This year I have been on 20-30 dates probably and last year they were more for sure. I've slept with some of them, I became friends with some of them and the rest I never saw again. Is that what our life is always gonna be like? Dating, fucking and going out with friends?

    I wonder if it is just me having these thoughts....
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    Sep 11, 2010 12:15 PM GMT
    Morning Dude,

    Been there, done that,and WTF...Yes, one of the aspects of living in the gay world is the prolific date. You summarized it well: get ready, hoping and praying, then maybe we'll meet again. Okay, is this a routinized lifestyle of gay men, of course; however, I found myself in your shoes approximately six or so months ago after breaking up with my ex (more like he stopped speaking to me).

    I recommend letting go of the date and live your life as you please. Take a hard look at some of the men online, in particular the 40+ crew. Read there words and ask for advice. Most of them have been there and done it all without breaking a sweat and will recommend to the young and restless crew to go out, have fun, play safe, but more importantly, live a grateful no bar limit life. Why? Because life is short. Think about your gay friends in relationships, now think about about those single. Do you notice the differences in the healthy relationships and healthy friends living single? Most of them view life like an adventure, so jump, skip, run, and fly to your next destination and console your soul without giving it up lightly.

    You only live once, so why not live it to your fullest potential. Besides, if you get bored, invite one of the RJ guys out and at least have a great laugh.

    Best to you,

    Michael
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    Sep 11, 2010 12:49 PM GMT
    Oh bitch your life is over...... gawd that was short wasn't it... 19 and already over..... damn.... can I recommend asphyxiation from the car exhaust, now, you can route the fumes using rubber tubing but I'd recommend you just breath directly outta the tail pipe, it'll mean your next of kin will have an easier time sellin the car cause they wont need to say you died in it!
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    Sep 11, 2010 1:04 PM GMT
    You only live once, so why not live it to your fullest potential.

    What if your fullest potential is not good enough?
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    Sep 11, 2010 1:41 PM GMT
    fivetenn saidMorning Dude,

    Been there, done that,and WTF...Yes, one of the aspects of living in the gay world is the prolific date. You summarized it well: get ready, hoping and praying, then maybe we'll meet again. Okay, is this a routinized lifestyle of gay men, of course; however, I found myself in your shoes approximately six or so months ago after breaking up with my ex (more like he stopped speaking to me).

    I recommend letting go of the date and live your life as you please. Take a hard look at some of the men online, in particular the 40+ crew. Read there words and ask for advice. Most of them have been there and done it all without breaking a sweat and will recommend to the young and restless crew to go out, have fun, play safe, but more importantly, live a grateful no bar limit life. Why? Because life is short. Think about your gay friends in relationships, now think about about those single. Do you notice the differences in the healthy relationships and healthy friends living single? Most of them view life like an adventure, so jump, skip, run, and fly to your next destination and console your soul without giving it up lightly.

    You only live once, so why not live it to your fullest potential. Besides, if you get bored, invite one of the RJ guys out and at least have a great laugh.

    Best to you,

    Michael


    hehe of course I agree with you, it's not like I am depressed or anything, I was just thinking about it. I like the way I live in general and I appreciate it, but there are somе things (like dates) that you can't really control - I mean yes, you pick the guys but at the end you are just hoping the guy is OK. And then the guy is just another good looking (or not so good) ordinary someone, whom you can just have sex with. If it is really like this, then wouldn't it be better to have less dates with guys that you are more sure are dateble?

    @lilTanker, you are twisting my words. And btw usually irony is funnier than this
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    Sep 11, 2010 7:24 PM GMT
    gentle with lilT, he's going through a spell right now.
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    Sep 11, 2010 7:41 PM GMT
    The only reason I would go out on a date, is to have fun on the date itself, and to get to know someone... I just don bother expecting or hoping for anything lol
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    Sep 12, 2010 6:44 AM GMT
    amar_m saidThe only reason I would go out on a date, is to have fun on the date itself, and to get to know someone... I just don bother expecting or hoping for anything lol


    Yeah, that's a good strategy, but it doesn't really always work. Even if you don't expect anything from the person, you do expect something from dating itself. And after a while, you start to wonder if you really get anything from these dates, or you are just wasting yourself with jerks.

    southbankguy , that's no excuse for being bitchy.
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    Sep 12, 2010 7:10 AM GMT
    fulldelight said@lilTanker, you are twisting my words. And btw usually irony is funnier than this

    I wasn't using irony, I was being honest...

    At nineteen your already tired of it.... So, time to get outta the game cause we really don't need to hear you complain about it
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    Sep 12, 2010 7:15 AM GMT
    Just take a break. I'm on a dating hiatus now. It's healthy and will give you time to focus on yourself. Soon you'll be wanting to date again.
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    Sep 12, 2010 7:15 AM GMT
    jprichva said
    lilTanker said
    fulldelight said@lilTanker, you are twisting my words. And btw usually irony is funnier than this

    I wasn't using irony, I was being honest...

    At nineteen your already tired of it.... So, time to get outta the game cause we really don't need to hear you complain about it

    Oh Ben, don't slap the kid around.
    Come to Florida. I'll let you slap me around for a bit.

    You'd like that wouldn't you bitch huh....... Yeah.... You would.... Being smacked around a little.... Mmmmhmmmmmm
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    Sep 12, 2010 7:33 AM GMT
    myjeep saidJust take a break. I'm on a dating hiatus now. It's healthy and will give you time to focus on yourself. Soon you'll be wanting to date again.

    Yes, I am taking a break. And it feels a little lonely, but thank God there are good friends you can always hang around with icon_smile.gif It's just that I have been on this business trip for a week now and it is sooo shitty being all by myself for a whole week. I tried dating some guys from around here but it was a little disappointing.

    Anyway, I think what I am trying to say is - do we really value the journey, or is it only the destination that matters??

    @sxydrkhair I don't see how that's relevant, but yes, they do know. However, I doubt age is always a factor. Yes, time and experience change the way you act and think, but it's been a few years since I started dating and in my world that's a lot : )
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    Sep 13, 2010 1:55 PM GMT
    Where are all the RealJock dating nazis in this thread? They usually jump up in arms whenever I complain about dating...

    As for your post fulldelight, it sounds like you're doing pretty well for yourself. You're enjoying your time with your friends and your dates and even getting occasional sex out of it...It could always be worse.

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    Sep 13, 2010 2:04 PM GMT
    at least you can get dates. I haven't been on a date in over a year.
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    Sep 13, 2010 2:09 PM GMT
    cee87 saidat least you can get dates. I haven't been on a date in over a year.


    been longer than that for me
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    Sep 14, 2010 9:19 PM GMT
    ok... you are not going on dates because you don't want to or for some other reason? Because that's a long time.

    Anyway, I've decided to stop dating for a while, so I deleted all of my profiles (this one doesn't count cause Bulgarians don't use this website) and decided to just take a break.
    I think it would be nice for me to just concentrate on other things than sex and guys and whatever else comes along with dating :-)