Hitting on someone who is on a date

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    Sep 11, 2010 7:21 PM GMT
    I was at lunch today, sitting at a table next to a pair of gay dudes. The one I was facing was freaking handsome as hell and I couldn't stop looking. I couldn't see the other guy, but he was a great looking guy too.

    Turned out they met a week ago and the one with his back to me came down to visit. Their conversation was a bit loud as they were having margaritas so I inserted myself into the conversation (rude... I know, they were funny).

    The guy I had the hots for offered to set me up with a friend of his, and when I begged off, he said "hell, I'm not going anywhere with this guy, give me your number and we can go out"...

    The guy was sitting right there and it was about the most awkward situation I have ever been in.

    Would you have given him your number?
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    Sep 11, 2010 7:31 PM GMT
    Absolutely Not.
    Who cares how hot he looks. What kind of person is that?! Fooey!
    (Alcohol in moderation can be good, but be accountable!)
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    Sep 11, 2010 7:39 PM GMT
    Well, you've already seen what kind of guy he is.
    No, I would not have given my phone number to him.
    Besides, it's wrong to ask for someone's number.
    One can only offer theirs.

    When the beauty fades, this guy will be mighty lonely...
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    Sep 11, 2010 7:41 PM GMT
    Haha I can't believe you just joined in on their conversation, that's awkward. No on the number, that would be too much of a dick move to the guy he was sitting with... that whole scenario is just a what the fuck? situation
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    Sep 11, 2010 7:42 PM GMT
    It's evil.

    You're 46, you should know better. If you continue on this path, you will probably die from violent murder.
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    Sep 11, 2010 7:49 PM GMT
    WTF
    GAMRican saidIt's evil.

    You're 46, you should know better. If you continue on this path, you will probably die from violent murder.


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    Sep 11, 2010 10:36 PM GMT
    He was capable of dumping the guy he was with in his presence and didn't seem to have the slightest qualm about it.
    That means he could do the same to you if the opportunity came up. Who needs that?
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    Sep 11, 2010 11:20 PM GMT
    You should have given your number to the guy who got dumped. You could have said, "Your date is obviously an asshole. I'd be happy to treat you better."
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    Sep 12, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    KardioKing saidHaha I can't believe you just joined in on their conversation, that's awkward. No on the number, that would be too much of a dick move to the guy he was sitting with... that whole scenario is just a what the fuck? situation


    They were pretty obnoxious.. had cocktails at noon, so it was pretty easy... I ended up giving my number to his buddy instead. He lived out of the area but I told him to call me when he came back... He's from PA but we actually have friends in common in San Diego. Small world.

  • EricLA

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    Sep 12, 2010 12:57 AM GMT
    I've had that happen to me and I feel it's the height of disrespect. If someone ever handed me their number while I was on a date and I thank them but nicely point out I was on a date.

    I may be taking a leap here, but if the guy doesn't respect the boundaries of other people's relationships, what's the likelihood he's going to respect his own?
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    Sep 12, 2010 1:04 AM GMT
    I would have called you the perfect example of arseholeish behavior but the other fella topped out just slightly above you...

    Perhaps next time to save you finding an arsehole you not be one your self.
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    Sep 12, 2010 1:07 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidI would have called you the perfect example of arseholeish behavior but the other fella topped out just slightly above you...

    Perhaps next time to save you finding an arsehole you not be one your self.


    LOL... subtitles please.
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    Sep 12, 2010 1:09 AM GMT
    Fuck man the answer is very obvious about what you should have done but what did you do? I am thinking you did give him your # hahaha anyways i have been in that guy's spot, but i have never acted on it. Yesterday i was out with a guy i am seeing and man there were a couple of guys that were eyeing me and well i eyed them back but i didn't react, and no i didn't do it obvious that i checked them out, because one i respect the guy i am with and well i am not going to dis him because i wouldn't want someone to do that. Remember:
    "Do not do unto others as you wouldn't have them do onto you!" - Buddist Proverb
    two if the guy came barging into our date did that to us what makes me think he didn't do it to others already.
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    Sep 12, 2010 1:13 AM GMT
    Grimaldi01 said i eyed them back but i didn't react, and no i didn't do it obvious that i checked them out, because one i respect the guy i am with.

    People always know when you are checking them out. Efforts at stealth are useless.
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    Sep 12, 2010 1:14 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidIt's evil.

    You're 46, you should know better. If you continue on this path, you will probably die from violent murder.



    lets not exagerate... its not nice doing it as a person,but ....icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 12, 2010 1:21 AM GMT
    sdgman said
    lilTanker saidI would have called you the perfect example of arseholeish behavior but the other fella topped out just slightly above you...

    Perhaps next time to save you finding an arsehole you not be one your self.


    LOL... subtitles please.


    it means the man was a dick to offer his time and number to you while he as on a date with someone else, but you were bad to accept it
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    Sep 12, 2010 1:26 AM GMT
    Pure assholery!
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    Sep 12, 2010 1:28 AM GMT
    @TEXDEF07 there are ways of getting away with it trust me.
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    Sep 12, 2010 1:28 AM GMT
    Karma one day will hit the OP back. He will be on a date and someone else will hit on his date and his date will find this other guy more intresting and attractive. If that is game you play don't dare complain when it is played back on you.
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    Sep 12, 2010 1:39 AM GMT
    Glad you didn't give your number to one you had the hots for. But are you sure you should have given your number to his date? You described them both as being obnoxious. Don't be surprised by any obnoxious demeanor you may later encounter as you have witnessed it before your first date.

    If you don't mind sharing, let us know how everything turns out.
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    Sep 12, 2010 1:44 AM GMT
    nope.
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    Sep 12, 2010 1:47 AM GMT
    Judge let's he be judged. You've gotten a pretty good lashing for your part in unfortunately someone who doesn't value feelings and sensitivity situation, so I'll leave that one alone.

    I will touch on the other gay who was sitting there while this was going on. Lucky it wasn't me. I would have done a sophisticated "Jet Blue" at that guy who gave you the number. Not create a scene though for sure let him know that's so not cool.

    So many gays trade up and are always looking for the next best thing. Sometimes they need to enjoy the journey they're currently on.

    Just my two cents ;-)
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    Sep 12, 2010 2:19 AM GMT
    at the OP: I think what you did was the right thing. You'll tell if they're a lout soon enough. icon_lol.gif

    Almost kinda distantly related (yet not): I was on a date with a rather handsome man a number of months back. We went to an intimate restaurant that was kinda packed. Two gay guys were sitting a few tables down - my back was to them, but I could hear them (British accents). Dinner was a bit long but they'd arrived after us. We were having a touch-and-go date, but we got along well, and were laughing together (good sign... right?)

    A block away after leaving the eatery we hear someone running up behind us. When we turn around it's one of the guys at the other table who turns to my date and says: "Hey - I know this is awkward, but ... umm... I was wondering if you'd like to go on a date with me?"

    I said nothing but didn't really know what to do but wait. My date said: we're kinda busy right now... ummm. but I'm ****, and this is ***** (introducing ME to this random guy!). They didn't exchange anything else. The guy sorta got the message but...

    The whole thing was so randomly awkward and kinda funny that I/we just laughed it off - but later, the more I thought about it, I was kind of insulted. The correct response on my date's part should have been something like: "Hey - thanks for the offer, but I'm on a date with ****. Have a good night."

    Awkward much? I could have been upset and pouty, but chose the path of least resistance. How would you have reacted? As him, as me? And - NO... no second date. icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 12, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
    sdgman saidI was at lunch today, sitting at a table next to a pair of gay dudes. The one I was facing was freaking handsome as hell and I couldn't stop looking. I couldn't see the other guy, but he was a great looking guy too.

    Turned out they met a week ago and the one with his back to me came down to visit. Their conversation was a bit loud as they were having margaritas so I inserted myself into the conversation (rude... I know, they were funny).

    The guy I had the hots for offered to set me up with a friend of his, and when I begged off, he said "hell, I'm not going anywhere with this guy, give me your number and we can go out"...

    The guy was sitting right there and it was about the most awkward situation I have ever been in.

    Would you have given him your number?


    NOPE!

    Douchebaggery always trumps hotness.

    But it might be a different story if they'd mutually agreed--before your "arrival"--that they had no future. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 12, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
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    sdgman said
    lilTanker saidI would have called you the perfect example of arseholeish behavior but the other fella topped out just slightly above you...

    Perhaps next time to save you finding an arsehole you not be one your self.


    LOL... subtitles please.


    it means the man was a dick to offer his time and number to you while he as on a date with someone else, but you were bad to accept it


    I didn't accept his number.... I guess I wasn't clear about it. He went to the bathroom and I did give my number to his "date", who appeared very nice and more than a bit put off by the whole thing.