my ex wants a Threesome

  • MrNomis

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    Sep 12, 2010 2:33 PM GMT
    okay guys here is the thing with my ex boyfriend.. He is younger than i am and we broke up became too involved in the drama and bar/club scene which i dont do.. my ex and i broke up over a year ago taking some people with him i used to call friends (but no major loss since i am better with out them) . So we went for almost a little over 6 months with out talking and i know while i was his first boyfriend of 3 yrs and prob his first love.. while we were together he learned that i had a 3 threesome once and since i suppose he has been curious.. Anyway for my birthday in August he text me again and since we been keeping contact, but he has brought up sex conversations and wanting to have a threesome with me.. I believe he has a current boyfriend but he wants it with one of my friends... I dont like the idea and well i did that when i was very young (21) not me now and i will not do that again.. How should i handle this situation considering i already know he seems hot/cold type and i am sort of confused if he really wants to be my friend now or just be his immature self?
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    Sep 12, 2010 2:45 PM GMT
    Easy - just say no
  • rnch

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    Sep 12, 2010 2:47 PM GMT
    icon_exclaim.gifan ex is called an "ex" for a reason icon_exclaim.gif


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    Sep 12, 2010 2:50 PM GMT
    "No" seems like the simplest of solutions. Are you sure there isn't more to this?
  • MrNomis

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    Sep 12, 2010 2:53 PM GMT
    oops! i neglected to say that i did fall in love with him and i also did or still hope we remained friends.. but, so true this would be the first time an ex besides my ex wife would be my friend..
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    Sep 12, 2010 2:54 PM GMT
    Does your friend knows your ex? I am sure he doesn't. He is using you. Say NO
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    Sep 12, 2010 2:55 PM GMT
    mrnomis said I believe he has a current boyfriend but he wants it with one of my friends... I dont like the idea

    Just say "no, I'm not interested"

    Staying out of someone's relationship is always a good idea.
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    Sep 12, 2010 3:03 PM GMT
    You said you're not interested in a three-way. Tell him so. Time to move on to somebody new.
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    Sep 12, 2010 3:18 PM GMT
    rnch saidicon_exclaim.gifan ex is called an "ex" for a reason icon_exclaim.gif


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    DITTO

    and 3 somes are way over-rated
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    Sep 12, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    He's immature and into partying and wants a three way and you're not into any of these things but you have this desire to be friends with your exes. Being friends with your exes is not having three ways with them.

    If he can just be friends, then maybe you'll be able to be friends with him. If you say no to the three way and he keeps sending sexual messages and pushing the issue, he's just using you for sex.

    Sounds immature all around.

    I'd move on.

  • GQjock

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    Sep 12, 2010 3:32 PM GMT
    I dont like the idea and well i did that when i was very young (21) not me now and i will not do that again.

    Umm ... I think you answered your own question here my man
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    Sep 12, 2010 3:33 PM GMT

    lol, well you could try this, just as a way of teaching yourself a painful lesson, but I don't recommend it.

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    Sep 12, 2010 3:45 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    lol, well you could try this, just as a way of teaching yourself a painful lesson, but I don't recommend it.

    -Doug


    Now Now Doug just because a burner on a stove looks hot and feels hot as you get closer does that mean he will burn himself if he touches it icon_rolleyes.gif

    Lets not be overly obvious one can never have too much drama in ones life right icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 12, 2010 3:49 PM GMT
    Just tell him the truth, if he understands then good, else do you really want more drama from him?
  • joncfernan

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    Sep 12, 2010 4:17 PM GMT
    Keep him as a friend - sure. But is the friendship really saying anything if you guys are having sex with each other? hmmm You probaly still love him but know you can't be with him for good reasons and the connection that binds you regardless of the 'ex' factor keeps you feeling good about him....I say don't screw up that feeling with this soon to be sex scandal. Keep your mind, body, spirit, and heart open for greater things to come! icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 12, 2010 4:20 PM GMT
    WARNING WILL ROBINSON>>>DANGER DANGER! Just kidding...don't do it dude...
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    Sep 12, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
    Roccoe said, "Lets not be overly obvious one can never have too much drama in ones life right "

    lol, oh teh dramaz! It sounds like the OP's ex wants some drama. icon_wink.gif
  • MrNomis

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    Sep 12, 2010 5:04 PM GMT
    makarov99 saidKeep him as a friend - sure. But is the friendship really saying anything if you guys are having sex with each other? hmmm You probaly still love him but know you can't be with him for good reasons and the connection that binds you regardless of the 'ex' factor keeps you feeling good about him....I say don't screw up that feeling with this soon to be sex scandal. Keep your mind, body, spirit, and heart open for greater things to come! icon_smile.gif

    LOVE IT!! this is how i feel... and yes it is DANGER! i wont stoop to that level and well even if he is my ex i will never be the OTHER MAN or be a HOMEWRECKER!
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    Sep 12, 2010 5:09 PM GMT
    Tell him "no"... what's the problem?
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    Sep 12, 2010 5:11 PM GMT
    agri_sci saidWARNING WILL ROBINSON>>>DANGER DANGER! Just kidding...don't do it dude...


    Dude I didn't know you saw Lost In Space the first time around awesome icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 12, 2010 5:14 PM GMT
    sdgman saidTell him "no"... what's the problem?


    Meninlove pointed it out "We Need our Daily Drama"

    liltanker can't be the only one to provide it.......Hmmmmm.....maybe there are a few hundred more that are helping......Just saying icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 12, 2010 5:18 PM GMT
    Negative GhostRider
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    Sep 12, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
    Personally I have no problem with 3somes, but i would have to agree with every one else i would suggest saying No, not interested.

    now that being said, it does not matter what anybody else says, we can suggest you say no til we are blue in the face, it is ultimately your decision.

    just try to think of the consequences. some people are able to keep sex just sex but some are not.

    feel free to email me if you need.
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    Sep 12, 2010 9:59 PM GMT
    DRAMA OVERLOAD!!
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    Sep 12, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    Say no.

    Otherwise, livin' in sin is the new thing!

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