I'm i a tight spot...

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    Sep 12, 2010 10:57 PM GMT
    ... of personal distress

    There's this guy at my school whom I'm utterly lost too... There's just one problem.. He's already in a relationship... And here's my problem.

    The relation between this guy and me is loose at best.. That doesn't mean that we hate each other, but what ever friendship we have is fragile at best.

    Every time I see him I wanna hold him, kiss him and keep him for my own.. Further more my feelings for him have brought me to a point where I can't stop thinking about him, I even dream about him.

    But.. As I've written, he's already in a relationship and I'm not sure where I stand with him as a friend.. I can't bring myself to tell him cause I'm afraid he might think I'm mocking him (no one knows I'm gay) and that it will ruin what ever friendship we have.. I'm not even sure how he would react if I choose to come out to him...

    Please help me

    Reguards

    Me
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Sep 13, 2010 12:38 AM GMT
    all u can do is be honest with him. friends r honest to eachother. if he walks away then it is his problem not yours u cant keep these feelings inside or it will tear u up. i know it is a scary thought but he will understand if he is really your friend.
  • commoncoll

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    Sep 13, 2010 12:41 AM GMT
    Find someone else to lust after. He's probably not going to give up an established relationship for someone else. Since you say he doesn't know you're gay, I'll assume he's straight. He's going to reject you and you will lose his friendship.
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    Sep 13, 2010 1:01 AM GMT
    He's gay aswell
  • tuffguyndc

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    Sep 13, 2010 1:21 AM GMT
    MrGlowy saidHe's gay aswell
    dude, he is in a relationship. fine someone else to crush on buddy. i think you will only hurt yourself and you will lose a friend in the process
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    Sep 13, 2010 1:23 AM GMT
    Only a doucebag would break up someone else's relationship. Keep your trap shut and move on!
  • metta

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    Sep 13, 2010 1:50 AM GMT
    Recognize that it is just a crush, a dysfunctional one at that.You need to respect that he is already taken. You may want to look inward and try and determine why you are focusing on falling for someone that is unavailable. That is just as bad as gay men that always fall for straight men.

  • chris_dallas

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    Sep 13, 2010 1:52 AM GMT
    it would be wrong to do anything for now becasue he has a bf

    dont try and be a home wrecker
    and i dont want to sound mean but if u cant even be friends....how would a relationship work?? unless u just are too shy to be friends cuz u like him then i get it...but idk hha
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    Sep 13, 2010 2:10 AM GMT
    Somebody needs some maturity pills.
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    Sep 13, 2010 6:09 AM GMT
    Thanks for all your responses.. It's really appreciated icon_smile.gif

    Reading your responses and basically just getting words put on what I was feeling helped a lot.

    I know he's not available.. And of course I don't want to be a home wrecker... That's why I haven't told him anything in the first place.

    As for our friendship I don't know.. Maybe it's just one of these instances where it just works.. And I'm dead-set on clinging to whatever friendship we have.. I can learn to live without him as a partner, but lose him as a friend, no, have to few of those as it is.

    Can't remember who said I should get some maturity pills,but.. Yea I guess you're right xD

    It's just hard to see him every day, and wanting to tell him knowing perfectly well that I can't..!

    Anyways, better stop before this completely turns in to a reply of selfrightiousness.. or maybe that's already to late xD

    Again thanks for all the responses... I'll take them all with me icon_smile.gif

    I'll work it out



    Kindest regards and kisses

    Me
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    Sep 13, 2010 6:20 AM GMT
    He is in a relationship.
    You are in the closet.
    You hardly have a friendship and you are obsessing over him.

    Get your shit together.
    You are 26 and live in LA.
    Stop your middle school crush over unattainable boys and be a man.
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    Sep 13, 2010 10:31 PM GMT
    Way to go Munching!