How would you feel?

  • Stin7

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    Sep 14, 2010 4:13 AM GMT
    what if you like a guy, he is single, he starts talking to you on msn or facebook, it's your birthday and you invite him, and when dancing at the club he confesses you he is already dating someone else. This guy tells you that he likes you a lot and then after some days you start receiving text messages from him saying he likes you so bad and that he wants to be with you.

    You start dating this person after some days because he ended his previous relationship (according to him the thing wasn't doing good) to be with you and you decide to give it a try...

    Would you feel insecure that he will probably do the same thing to you?

    Would you feel like the rebound even after let's say... 7 months of dating him?
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    Sep 14, 2010 1:05 PM GMT
    There is some truth to past behaviour will manifest in current and future behaviour, however;

    go with the flow. At least the guy was honest with himself knowing that the other guy wasn't for him.

    give him a chance.. maybe he's the one for you, you for him.
  • LJay

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    Sep 14, 2010 1:38 PM GMT
    Seven months?

    I think you feel insecure and uncertain of yourself.

    If you see your guy as a free agent, it does not necessarily mean that he is seeing himself that way. He may just be comfortable where he is. On the other hand, if you are so anxious that you are uncomfortabe, then you need to deal with you. Look at ways to be more confident and less dependent on him for your security. Chances are you will both benefit.
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    Sep 14, 2010 3:31 PM GMT
    I dont see a problem
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Sep 14, 2010 3:34 PM GMT
    Stin7 saidwhat if you like a guy, he is single, he starts talking to you on msn or facebook, it's your birthday and you invite him, and when dancing at the club he confesses you he is already dating someone else. What if this guy tells you that he likes you a lot and then after some days you start receiving text messages from him saying he likes you so bad and that he wants to be with you.

    What if you start dating this person after some days because he ended his previous relationship (according to him the thing wasn't doing good) to be with you and you decide to give it a try...

    Would you feel insecure that he will probably do the same thing to you?

    Would you feel like the rebound even after let's say... 7 months of dating him?





    My advice would be to not project what might happen in the future....live in the moment...enjoy the ride.
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    Sep 14, 2010 3:37 PM GMT
    what's to lose?...nothing, so go for it.
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    Sep 14, 2010 10:51 PM GMT
    After 7 months of dating, you should have a sense of the manner of the man you are involved with. Does he act with honesty and integrity or is he more of a player?

    In either case, I've found the only way to resolve uncertainty about something going on in my head about my relationship or actually going on in my relationship is to talk to my partner about it

    ∴ talk to your guy about this. being vulnerable and baring bits of your soul is all part and parcel to being in a relationship.
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Sep 15, 2010 2:42 AM GMT
    How about you use just one 'what if' and tell the fucking story