my dick´s too much for my bf

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    Sep 14, 2010 1:51 PM GMT
    I´m in love
    haven´t been in a long time
    well My bf kinda has a problem with my dick. Caus when I try to fuck him he´s in so much pain. I even finger him before with three, four fingers but it still hurts for him. We both don´t wanna use poppers and with lots of lube we tried already.
    You guys know anything else?
  • Timbales

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    Sep 14, 2010 2:02 PM GMT
    You can try different positions until you find one that works. He may want to try being on top so he can control the penetration.

    Have you ever fingered him until he cums? either stroking or blowing him at the same time? I have found that it can be easier for a guy to take it once he's enjoyed being anally stimulated that way.
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    Sep 14, 2010 9:31 PM GMT
    Timberoo saidYou can try different positions until you find one that works. He may want to try being on top so he can control the penetration.

    Have you ever fingered him until he cums? either stroking or blowing him at the same time? I have found that it can be easier for a guy to take it once he's enjoyed being anally stimulated that way.


    If you have to blow/stroke him while he's being fingered to orgasm, isn't that just trying to dissociate the pain from being penetrated and associating being penetrated with the pleasure of jacking off until orgasm? Basically, a bait and switch like with teaching pets tricks by associating a successful trick with something good like a snack or petting. Interesting. icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 14, 2010 11:01 PM GMT
    People are capable of taking whole fists up there. So everything is, most likely, in his head. Work on getting him to relax. When you finger him you aren't relaxing his muscles at all but you are letting him mentally relax so he loosens up. Keep working his ass with everything but your dick. Pleasure his ass. Lube your dick and rub it over his ass as if you were fucking him so he gets comfortable with that type of stimulation. But, if after consistently working him he still can't relax it would seem that it is the penetration itself that is making him anxious.

    If that is the case get some toys. Pleasure his ass as if you were about to fuck him. But instead give him a medium sized butt toy and let him play with himself while you do other things that pleasure him. That way he is able to mentally associate penetration with pleasure and can finally relax enough for you to slam him.
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    Sep 14, 2010 11:44 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidPeople are capable of taking whole fists up there. So everything is, most likely, in his head. Work on getting him to relax. When you finger him you aren't relaxing his muscles at all but you are letting him mentally relax so he loosens up. Keep working his ass with everything but your dick. Pleasure his ass. Lube your dick and rub it over his ass as if you were fucking him so he gets comfortable with that type of stimulation. But, if after consistently working him he still can't relax it would seem that it is the penetration itself that is making him anxious.

    If that is the case get some toys. Pleasure his ass as if you were about to fuck him. But instead give him a medium sized butt toy and let him play with himself while you do other things that pleasure him. That way he is able to mentally associate penetration with pleasure and can finally relax enough for you to slam him.

    What remarkably good advice! Follow this!
  • Beeftastic

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    Sep 15, 2010 2:42 AM GMT
    Where there's a will there's a way. I have used small toys on tight boys and that has usually done the trick. I have a few small dick sized dildos (5 inches and pretty soft) and they are great foreplay tools for a tight ass. let him get used to something like that. Then put yourselves in a position so he is in control. I find doggie style where he is doing the work and you are just being still is a good way for him to get used to my cock.
  • Timbales

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    Sep 15, 2010 2:42 AM GMT
    Animus said
    Timberoo saidYou can try different positions until you find one that works. He may want to try being on top so he can control the penetration.

    Have you ever fingered him until he cums? either stroking or blowing him at the same time? I have found that it can be easier for a guy to take it once he's enjoyed being anally stimulated that way.


    If you have to blow/stroke him while he's being fingered to orgasm, isn't that just trying to dissociate the pain from being penetrated and associating being penetrated with the pleasure of jacking off until orgasm? Basically, a bait and switch like with teaching pets tricks by associating a successful trick with something good like a snack or petting. Interesting. icon_neutral.gif


    I don't think so, it's more getting someone used to pleasure and penetration. It also puts him first.
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    Sep 15, 2010 2:47 AM GMT
    Does he like to bottom? Has he done it before?

    Unless your cock is shaped like a textbook, it should work.

    He needs to want it.

  • my8kitso

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    Sep 25, 2010 6:09 PM GMT
    Haloo1212 saidI´m in love
    haven´t been in a long time
    well My bf kinda has a problem with my dick. Caus when I try to fuck him he´s in so much pain. I even finger him before with three, four fingers but it still hurts for him. We both don´t wanna use poppers and with lots of lube we tried already.
    You guys know anything else?


    I made a "Ass Play 101 - How to take a dick up your ass AND enjoy it." video for a friend, maybe you can get some ideas from it to help you out.

    http://www.xtube.com/play_re.php?v=DqtMu-G540-&c=myv&page=1

    Good luck!

    Pete
  • rnch

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    Sep 25, 2010 6:27 PM GMT
    a couple of stiff drinks, a long, wet rimming session, lots of high quality silicone lube, one finger, two fingers, 3 fingers inserted in and out, a snort of some fresh poppers.....you will slliidddeeeeee right in! icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 26, 2010 4:39 AM GMT
    Diablo29 saidDoes he like to bottom? Has he done it before?

    Unless your cock is shaped like a textbook, it should work.

    He needs to want it.



    My thoughts exactly. Maybe he really doesn't enjoy the sensation of being penetrated. (I can relate). He might be a top, and doesn't know it yet. icon_smile.gif
  • Nizzo

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    Oct 02, 2010 2:39 PM GMT
    rnch saida couple of stiff drinks, a long, wet rimming session, lots of high quality silicone lube, one finger, two fingers, 3 fingers inserted in and out, a snort of some fresh poppers.....you will slliidddeeeeee right in! icon_wink.gif
    ha. I was going to suggeste a cocktail, too.

    Let your boyfriend ride you, reverse cowgirl works best for me.
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    Oct 03, 2010 8:21 AM GMT
    rnch saida couple of stiff drinks, a long, wet rimming session, lots of high quality silicone lube, one finger, two fingers, 3 fingers inserted in and out, a snort of some fresh poppers.....you will slliidddeeeeee right in! icon_wink.gif


    aaww! this brought me smileicon_smile.gif
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    Oct 04, 2010 2:10 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]Let your boyfriend ride you, reverse cowgirl works best for me.[/quote]

    Agreed. I found riding much more comfortable and enjoyable. All of the other positions were painful in my case. World of difference. Plus the rider can control the pace to what feels good.
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    Nov 22, 2010 4:22 AM GMT
    With all due respect to the OP, I found the title of this thread rather amusing. Sort of sounds like a guy's complaining about how his dick's too big, gas for his rolls royce is too expensive and he can't fit all of his hundred dollar bills into his wallet.