Do you find that the guys who say they're the most 'easy to talk to' turn out to be the hardest to carry a conversation with?

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    Sep 14, 2010 10:04 PM GMT
    They are just so inspiring...LOL hahaha icon_wink.gif
  • slimnmuscly

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    Sep 15, 2010 1:30 AM GMT
    Yes. In other news, guys who say they're str8-acting are usually clutching pearls; people who start sentences with "Not to sound racist" always finish them with racist remarks; people who complain about rudeness are the worst offenders; and politicians who say they want to talk about the real issues never get around to it. The variations are endless.
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    Sep 15, 2010 1:34 AM GMT
    Amen! Gbob...is like puling teeth as well...they only answer open questions and when you trying to ask more questions to carry on a conversation...ZERO..icon_rolleyes.gif even when you see there interest and are trying to carry a conversation on that topic..'yes', 'no', 'not sure'...LOLicon_smile.gif)
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    Sep 15, 2010 1:40 AM GMT
    Yea it's always the same thing. Apparently in the online world of gay profile sites.

    So:

    "I'm a very easy going masculine guy, who enjoys good conversation and doesn't flaunt his good looks as currency, and will never judge people for superficial traits. I also like sports and quiet nights in"

    means

    "I'm a totally stuck up flaming fag who only talks about my own superficial interests like fashion and celebrities, and even though I'm fucking ugly I only want to surround myself with goodlooking people and spend an hour each morning to carefully style my image I know I will be judged by, as I judge others by the brand of shoes they wear; also I've seen a hockey game once in my life and hated it, and I go clubbing and prance around like a flaming idiot drinking coolers every single weekend"
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    Sep 15, 2010 1:52 AM GMT
    "totally respect that, dude" is my favourite piece of bs, especially if a person uses this phrase more than once...
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    Sep 15, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    slimnmuscly saidYes. In other news, guys who say they're str8-acting are usually clutching pearls; people who start sentences with "Not to sound racist" always finish them with racist remarks; people who complain about rudeness are the worst offenders; and politicians who say they want to talk about the real issues never get around to it. The variations are endless.


    Ditto.
  • nv7_

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    Sep 15, 2010 2:05 AM GMT
    Just keep in mind, somewhere, somebody thinks you suck too.

    Have a nice day. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 15, 2010 3:02 AM GMT
    but they are easy to talk to !!
    ... they let you do all the talking... icon_rolleyes.gif
  • barriehomeboy

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    Sep 15, 2010 6:57 AM GMT
    Survey says: people who describe other people as "good conversationalists" most often mean the other people just shut up and let them talk. We humans really don't give a rats ass about the other people. It's all about ME ME ME. Go buy the book How to Win Friends and Influence People. It's an antique, but it's even more relevant today that back when it was written.
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    Sep 15, 2010 7:12 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidSurvey says: people who describe other people as "good conversationalists" most often mean the other people just shut up and let them talk. We humans really don't give a rats ass about the other people. It's all about ME ME ME. Go buy the book How to Win Friends and Influence People. It's an antique, but it's even more relevant today that back when it was written.

    I definitely feel the sentiment of that. It's very self oriented. The first date is usually ALL about that while one just listens.
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    Sep 15, 2010 7:16 AM GMT
    What they mean is that they have no opinions on anything. They will just drag along with whatever everyone else is saying.
  • HankFit247

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    Sep 15, 2010 7:23 AM GMT
    OK, I can eat like a horse. For example: Once a week I devour a whole chicken while standing over the kitchen sink.

    Drives my roommate crazy, yet he jokes that I suck the marrow out of the bones too.

    So the guy that doesn't talk on a date, rarely gets a second date. Dude say something about yourself, so I can enjoy some of my dinner!
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    Sep 15, 2010 7:45 AM GMT
    Tazo995 saidYea it's always the same thing. Apparently in the online world of gay profile sites.

    So:

    "I'm a very easy going masculine guy, who enjoys good conversation and doesn't flaunt his good looks as currency, and will never judge people for superficial traits. I also like sports and quiet nights in"

    means

    "I'm a totally stuck up flaming fag who only talks about my own superficial interests like fashion and celebrities, and even though I'm fucking ugly I only want to surround myself with goodlooking people and spend an hour each morning to carefully style my image I know I will be judged by, as I judge others by the brand of shoes they wear; also I've seen a hockey game once in my life and hated it, and I go clubbing and prance around like a flaming idiot drinking coolers every single weekend"


    LMAO, laughed reading this... but em.. thats you isnt it? lol ;) j/k babe
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    Sep 15, 2010 7:49 AM GMT
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    slimnmuscly saidYes. In other news, guys who say they're str8-acting are usually clutching pearls; people who start sentences with "Not to sound racist" always finish them with racist remarks; people who complain about rudeness are the worst offenders; and politicians who say they want to talk about the real issues never get around to it. The variations are endless.


    Ditto.


    lol where do you meet these ppl? I must be blessed because most ppl I meet (not all) are pretty genuine, caring, polite ppl, and if they are not its always a facade of self-defense that comes down around me quickly to show a warm caring core.... its a rarity I meet someone that isn't truly like that, but yeah theres a few and when I do, its usually I avoid em like the plague or they're out of my life quickly and painfully, like a thorn in my side ^_^ lol, or maybe Im just a sap
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    Sep 15, 2010 10:38 AM GMT
    ALSO when you hear the phrase 'no offense' you better prepare for an uber bitchy comment!

    You know, when you're just being friendly and out there to make PLATONIC friendships, and then you get the most uninpiriing responses ever lol...it's like..'you could probably expand on the 'I'm good thanks' part perhaps?'...

    Rudeness.
  • slimnmuscly

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    Sep 15, 2010 1:20 PM GMT
    amar_m said
    GigoloAssassin said
    slimnmuscly saidYes. In other news, guys who say they're str8-acting are usually clutching pearls; people who start sentences with "Not to sound racist" always finish them with racist remarks; people who complain about rudeness are the worst offenders; and politicians who say they want to talk about the real issues never get around to it. The variations are endless.


    Ditto.


    lol where do you meet these ppl? I must be blessed because most ppl I meet (not all) are pretty genuine, caring, polite ppl, and if they are not its always a facade of self-defense that comes down around me quickly to show a warm caring core.... its a rarity I meet someone that isn't truly like that, but yeah theres a few and when I do, its usually I avoid em like the plague or they're out of my life quickly and painfully, like a thorn in my side ^_^ lol, or maybe Im just a sap


    You're right to avoid such people. But the kind of hypocrisy I'm talking about doesn't necessarily spring out of insincerity or lack of caring, though it can. Most of the examples I cited above involve people -- in many if not most cases, perfectly nice people -- genuinely believing certain things about themselves while being genuinely oblivious to how their own behavior contradicts those beliefs. We all have our blind spots; it's human.
  • turtleneckjoc...

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    Sep 15, 2010 1:38 PM GMT
    Gbob, you are spot on with this one as well...Here is a recent example:

    It was suggested in a forum to "reach out" to another RJ member you do not know to say hello, ask about their workout regimen, or find some "common ground" in their profile and mention that.

    Earlier this month, I "reached out" to a handsome, young RJer from the Boston area to chat, congratulate them on their recent MOTD selection, comment on their workout plans, and mention they amke good wardrobe selections.....

    No reply. Tried reaching out three times to say hello and never a response. And this is from someone who stated they are approachable too....

    So he might have thought there was a 50-something, pervy, ugly old troll was trying to get into his precious jockstrap, likely j/o to his pic. Nope. Far from it. How he got MOTD is beyond my comprehension here.....

    Actions do speak louder than words, and what everyone has stated here proves a point. If I receive an e-mail from another member, it is answered. To me, an e-mail from other RJers is like finding a 50 dollar bill on the sidewalk.

    Good responses, guys!

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    Sep 15, 2010 5:12 PM GMT
    turtleneckjock said

    It was suggested in a forum to "reach out" to another RJ member you do not know to say hello, ask about their workout regimen, or find some "common ground" in their profile and mention that.

    Earlier this month, I "reached out" to a handsome, young RJer from the Boston area to chat, congratulate them on their recent MOTD selection, comment on their workout plans, and mention they amke good wardrobe selections.....

    No reply. Tried reaching out three times to say hello and never a response. And this is from someone who stated they are approachable too....



    I HATE when people do that! Being boring and uninspiring is bad enough but ignoring an email is just on another level! When people ignore me I just give them the benefit of the doubt like 'oh maybe he was too busy', 'maybe he didn't see the email (even though RJ clearly mentions they've got mail)'...

    And actually most of the time when someone emails another person it doesn't immediately mean they want to get into your pants.

    Please can you mention who this twat is?
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    Sep 15, 2010 5:24 PM GMT
    I'm very easy to talk to.
    ...when I'm asleep.
  • Laurence

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    Sep 15, 2010 5:27 PM GMT
    I agree with the two posters above. It is very rude not to answer someone who messages you, if they write something nice that takes a bit of time to compose.

    But 'Wassup', or 'How R U?' from someone without a picture or any details on their profile, is not going to get a response from me.

    As for conversation. I've always found that if you ask questions then it gives the other person something to say to you. If they're only one word answers then I would hope the other person is a) gorgeous or b) paying for dinner.

    Lozx
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    Sep 15, 2010 5:36 PM GMT
    amar_m said
    Tazo995 saidYea it's always the same thing. Apparently in the online world of gay profile sites.

    So:

    "I'm a very easy going masculine guy, who enjoys good conversation and doesn't flaunt his good looks as currency, and will never judge people for superficial traits. I also like sports and quiet nights in"

    means

    "I'm a totally stuck up flaming fag who only talks about my own superficial interests like fashion and celebrities, and even though I'm fucking ugly I only want to surround myself with goodlooking people and spend an hour each morning to carefully style my image I know I will be judged by, as I judge others by the brand of shoes they wear; also I've seen a hockey game once in my life and hated it, and I go clubbing and prance around like a flaming idiot drinking coolers every single weekend"


    LMAO, laughed reading this... but em.. thats you isnt it? lol ;) j/k babe



    that is too funny, lmao icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 15, 2010 5:37 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI'm very easy to talk to.
    ...when I'm asleep.


    HAHA almost fell for that one! Sly...very sly... icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 15, 2010 5:42 PM GMT
    I think hot people have poor social skills cos they were brought up looking at themselves in a mirror all the time.
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    Sep 15, 2010 5:57 PM GMT
    Why would you want to hold a conversation with a guy at all? Seriously. Men are at their best when they're not talking.

    preferably when they're heads are planted face down in a pillow
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    Sep 15, 2010 5:59 PM GMT
    Gbob saidI think hot people have poor social skills cos they were brought up looking at themselves in a mirror all the time.


    OOoo GBob I hope your statement's a joke; You might get some hate mail. icon_eek.gif