Admiring SEXY dudes WITH your dude?

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    Sep 15, 2010 3:09 PM GMT
    I've had this happen before where I been talking to a dude, we're watching movies and he says "Damn, he's sexy" about guys on the TV.

    Would this make you uncomfortable?

    Could he say that to you about other guys you both see on the street as well?

    In a bar?

    Is it just being insecure to have a problem with it or is this just a plain lack of respect he has for you?

    Thoughts?
  • rnch

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    Sep 15, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    we (bf and I) both check out other guys in the presence of the other and comment (to each other) about what looks good (or NOT so good!) on the observed guy.

    the more guys we check out and comment on; the more i realize what i like and admire about my bf.

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    Sep 15, 2010 4:56 PM GMT
    If there's a good thing about being in a gay relationship, this is it -- understanding that no matter a man's relationship status, we will always look at the sex to which we're attracted and check them out. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 15, 2010 5:00 PM GMT
    Whether it's beautiful architecture, landscaping, cloud formations, or guys, I love eye candy...regardless of who I'm with.
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    Sep 15, 2010 5:07 PM GMT
    We sometimes point guys out to each other, based on what we know the other likes! Not so much on the street, but definitely in film/TV.

    What's funny is when you get it wrong, and point out someone you think your partner would like and they are like, Er, no!

    It's all good fun, and healthy IMO.
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    Sep 15, 2010 9:16 PM GMT
    I do it all the time. I can appreciate the attractiveness of any other human being without it affecting my relationship. icon_biggrin.gif
  • MisterT

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    Sep 15, 2010 9:18 PM GMT
    My exes and I frequently pointed out guys and commented, however with the last one, we had such different taste we never agreed on anyone, lol.
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    Sep 15, 2010 9:19 PM GMT
    Dude? icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 15, 2010 9:21 PM GMT
    yeah i sometimes see a man and say, wow, he's handsome, but then i look at my man and say to myself: "wow, there's nobody like him"
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    Sep 15, 2010 9:33 PM GMT
    My bf and I go boywatching all the time.

    Sometimes we take one home lol
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    Sep 15, 2010 9:35 PM GMT
    Bf and I do it too. We both know when we see a good looking guy. Doesn't mean we don't find each other attractive anymore. We don't find the need to pretend we aren't checking them out icon_razz.gif
  • Akula

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    Sep 15, 2010 9:36 PM GMT
    Oh hell the husband and I do that all the time. its fun to watch him if a really tall guy goes by (like over 6'6") he gets all googly eyed LOL.
  • scorpiodncr

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    Sep 15, 2010 9:41 PM GMT
    True story: My London BF RJC and I were out one day, probably somewhere in Soho, and he spotted a cute young Asian thing. I caught him getting all glassy-eyed, he snapped out of it and said something like, 'sorry, just imagining what that would look like swinging from the end of my dick.' Not long afterward, a hot beefy redhead got on a Tube carriage with us. As he exited the carriage, he passed very close by myself and RJC, who gave me a significant look. 'Yep,' I said,' I was just imagining what that would look like swinging from the end of my dick.' We both fell over laughing.
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    That couldn't have happened if we didn't have the kind of relationship we did, which included a lot of trust, honesty, confidence, and feedback. Any meaningful relationship I have from now on would have to have that.
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    Sep 15, 2010 9:58 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidMy bf and I go boywatching all the time.

    Sometimes we take one home lol


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    Sep 15, 2010 9:59 PM GMT
    i agree with scorpio.
  • Neon_Dreams

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    Sep 15, 2010 10:00 PM GMT
    I have a habit of being really obdvious when I am checking a guy out. When I do look at other men, with my 'boyfriend', he always catches me and says "Joe! Really?" icon_biggrin.gif

    Haha....


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  • owen19832006

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    Sep 15, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    early in a relationship its very uncomfortable bc you feel insecure, at first it annoyed the hell out of me, but as time went by, it stopped bothering me and i started doing it myself
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    Sep 15, 2010 10:09 PM GMT
    It's called being secure in who you are and making sure your mate is on the same plane. An innocent gaga is no reason to get your shit in a knot. Everyman in the world, gay,icon_cool.gif straight or otherwise sneaks a peak......Keith
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    Sep 15, 2010 10:14 PM GMT
    I guess you both have to be conffident on each other so nobody gets gelous. I would also recomend trying not to check out someone compleatly different than your partner, (in his presence) they tend to get madicon_redface.gif
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    Sep 15, 2010 10:17 PM GMT
    My partner and I do it all the time. We're not the least bit jealous. If either one of us sees a cute guy on our own, we can't wait to tell the other one later.
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    Sep 15, 2010 10:51 PM GMT
    yup, my bf and I do it as well. .

    especially about hot guys we see on TV or in a movie.

    I'm always like "he's cute" or "daaaaaaamn, I bet he's got a big dick"

    It's fun, he does the same. We usually have a good laugh about it
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    Sep 15, 2010 10:56 PM GMT
    jealousy = insecurity, theres no need for it...

    but a lil bit is healthy, it makes you appreciate your partner
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    Sep 15, 2010 10:59 PM GMT
    This is fine. I've always had a "look but don't touch" philosophy. Sharing a fantasy with your boyfriend is ok. It's healthy.
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    Sep 15, 2010 10:59 PM GMT
    Of course it's all right.
    One of the great things about being gay is that guys understand (presumeably) what it's like to be a guy.
  • justinlee86

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    Sep 15, 2010 11:07 PM GMT
    I think it is totally fine!!! It is better to talk about it, then keeping it a secret.