Flipping the question, when I meet closeted folks online I immediately block them. While I pity them to an extent, I refuse to act as an enabler to all their garbage. Yes, many queers and their bad behavior make me cringe, too, but, folks with bad behavior make me cringe, period.
From my personal experience, I'm not willing to deal with all the mental baggage, lying, guilt, games, that closeted folks put upon themselves. I want NOTHING to do with them.
To me, sexuality is a SMALL part of my life. It's mostly a non-issue except with whomever I've having sex with.
Some queers think that because that they identify as "gay" they've automatically got a pass for bad behavior and good judgment...not at our house. Regardless of your sexuality, if you behave badly (that includes being a closet case and all the useless baggage that entails), you're going to get rejected. We exercise sound judgment in whom we choose to call our friends and business partners, and really don't give a hoot about who you fuck, but...if you're dishonest, a game player, and self-loathing,...those are all traits we want NOTHING to do with.
Lying is not something someone should have as part and parcel of their existence and we actually work to discourage that and distance ourselves from those kinds of folks (closeted).