Do you prefer someone to come up and approach you or would you do the approaching?

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    Sep 16, 2010 8:38 PM GMT
    What do you think about this when you are going out to the clubs or bars? Or would you just rather have fun with you and your group of friends and not worry too much about it? Just want to see others opinion on it.
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    Sep 17, 2010 12:50 AM GMT
    luckyducky585 saidWhat do you think about this when you are going out to the clubs or bars? Or would you just rather have fun with you and your group of friends and not worry too much about it? Just want to see others opinion on it.


    I would rather someone approached me (not necessarily sexually) because I'm shy with approaching people. After the approach I can do the one-to-one conversation easily, I can handle that part. The other part that I find hard is indicating to the other person when to say goodbye.
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    Sep 17, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    I much prefer a guy to come up to me but the guys I want to come up to me never do so it just puts me in an awkward situation of having to reject the guy. I'd rather be rejected than reject someone. So, in an ideal situation, I'd rather the guy come up to me but the ideal situation never happens. Therefore it becomes a decision of being rejected or rejecting. Hence why I don't go to clubs much anymore.
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    Sep 17, 2010 12:57 AM GMT
    Am a bit shy in nature and thus would be better if someone else breaks the ice first.
  • Geoedward

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    Sep 17, 2010 1:03 AM GMT
    I would prefer being approached.
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    Sep 17, 2010 1:06 AM GMT
    I usually break the ice first, in any situation. Hell of a lot more fun...icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 17, 2010 1:10 AM GMT
    Well since I go for twinks, I always make the first move. 9/10 they are too shy or simply indifferent. And if rejection should occur, I laugh it off and blame it on the fact that their brains have not fully matured yet icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 17, 2010 1:23 AM GMT
    I love getting approached. I'll approach someone if the'll make eye contact though, but it's hard for me to act on it.
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    Sep 17, 2010 1:23 AM GMT
    Maybe we're not shy...maybe we're just too lazy to make an effort and it's easier for the other person to try. Yeah actually I think I'm just fucking lazy.

    Not a good quality there. But at least I'm honest.
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    Sep 17, 2010 1:23 AM GMT
    Achillesblade saidWell since I go for twinks, I always make the first move. 9/10 they are too shy or simply indifferent. And if rejection should occur, I laugh it off and blame it on the fact that their brains have not fully matured yet icon_smile.gif


    Thats funny, twinks usually go for me. I usually don't go for anybody. Maybe thats why I masturbate every 10 minutes.......
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    Sep 17, 2010 1:25 AM GMT
    Achillesblade saidWell since I go for twinks, I always make the first move. 9/10 they are too shy or simply indifferent. And if rejection should occur, I laugh it off and blame it on the fact that their brains have not fully matured yet icon_smile.gif


    Guys like these are the best!
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    Sep 17, 2010 1:29 AM GMT
    Eh i am always the one going up to guys and well most of the time i get rejected and well i have stopped bothering even going to the bar for "hunting" it gets tiring after awhile. I like however, the way that they stare at my ass as i turn around after being rejected. Or in general checked out. That out does the rejection.
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    Sep 17, 2010 1:45 AM GMT
    I really really prefer guys to approach me. I always plan on being more outgoing, but when I get to a bar I usually become kind of shy. So please... Come over and say hello!
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    Sep 17, 2010 2:51 AM GMT
    skywatcher saidI really really prefer guys to approach me. I always plan on being more outgoing, but when I get to a bar I usually become kind of shy. So please... Come over and say hello!


    I hate bars, i think its the worst place to go to meet anyone. Then you wake up thinking, oh shit......
  • mybud

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    Sep 17, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    I like doing the approaching....I'm pretty self confident....self assured....In the past I have gone out without friends to meet new people....Sometimes friends think they know what's best for you and judge your person of interest....I feel you lose out on a lot of great people because of others unwanted opinions.....BUD
  • fitartistsf

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    Sep 17, 2010 6:11 AM GMT
    ...to be approached... very shy, until engaged in conversation, and enjoying the topic...
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    Sep 17, 2010 12:45 PM GMT
    I like guys to come up to me because I'm absolutely oblivious and clueless to any signs that someone is attracted to me.
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    Sep 17, 2010 1:00 PM GMT
    I like to approach a guy -- but have been rejected more times than I can count.
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    Sep 17, 2010 1:44 PM GMT
    I think I would prefer the guy to approach me. I rarely pick up on signals and even when a guy is flirting with me I can be oblivious.

    What surprises me is how many people prefer to be approached. No wonder everyone is complaining about how they haven't found the one. It sounds like we're too afraid to actually go after what we want (or what we really deserve) so we end up with what we get.

    Glad to read this forum because it's given me courage to approach a guy that I think is cute.
  • michxman

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    Sep 17, 2010 1:47 PM GMT
    i prefer to be approached. i just get tired of hearing "no thanks" all the time....lol
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    Sep 17, 2010 1:58 PM GMT
    A2rower saidI think I would prefer the guy to approach me. I rarely pick up on signals and even when a guy is flirting with me I can be oblivious.

    What surprises me is how many people prefer to be approached. No wonder everyone is complaining about how they haven't found the one. It sounds like we're too afraid to actually go after what we want (or what we really deserve) so we end up with what we get.

    Glad to read this forum because it's given me courage to approach a guy that I think is cute.


    Do it man next time to see some cute man, the worst thing he can say is "get lost." At that point it's his loss, you have a lot to offer. icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 17, 2010 2:58 PM GMT
    michxman saidi prefer to be approached. i just get tired of hearing "no thanks" all the time....lol


    Ugh i heare you man! Me too!
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    Sep 17, 2010 3:10 PM GMT
    Shy. Really shy. I don't think i've EVER approached a guy.
  • mizu5

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    Sep 17, 2010 6:49 PM GMT
    I've neverbeen approached. I always have to approach them. Which often leads to dirty looks from his friends, and maybe form the guy.

    I've learned your average jock0sh boy doesn't take kindly to a twink who doesn't know his place ; D
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    Sep 17, 2010 6:58 PM GMT
    I'm a dork when it comes to telling if a guy is gay or not. I've got weak gaydar and I also pretty much don't think about approaching people. Even if I am attracted to them i just make a mental note and keep walking.