Am I too unrealistic??

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    Sep 18, 2010 5:49 AM GMT
    I wish i could live in an more open country , spending my lifetime with the man i love and who loves me... but all these seem so impossible for me..few people take the internet relationship stuff serious, but i do...

    i feel so frustrated when one gradually stops chatting or emailing to me after some time( several weeks) ....maybe i should not focus too much on this stuff.. even though i still hold a dream of going abroad...

    guys , what is your opinions about love on the internet? is there really something happening in some movies?
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    Sep 18, 2010 5:59 AM GMT
    You can find a lot of things online, but not love. That would require more face time, specifically the tongue and lips and neck and then downward. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 18, 2010 3:34 PM GMT
    Love is the opposite of hate. It has absolutely nothing to do with relationships.
    What you're referring to is affection...not love. And yes, that can be found on the internet. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 18, 2010 3:54 PM GMT
    You can fall in love online but that is usually in fantasy. Meeting face to face is the only way you can know how you feel about a certain person.
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    Sep 18, 2010 4:12 PM GMT
    Dude....internet chat is a double edged sword....You get to meet and chat with some awesome guys but in the bigger picture the relationships casual at best...if your thin skinned...if you have the mindset that your gonna find love and happiness...Well that's a leap....Babe.... enjoy the chat community....make friends...Lastly....continue to develop a good sense of yourself...if you don't find love here....someone through your daily interactions will surely notice and want what you have.....All the best man....BUD
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    Sep 18, 2010 4:20 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidLove is the opposite of hate. It has absolutely nothing to do with relationships.
    What you're referring to is affection...not love. And yes, that can be found on the internet. icon_biggrin.gif


    Sorry to disagree, Paul..Love is NOT the opposite of Hate. They are closely linked. The TRUE opposite of Love is Indifference.
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    Sep 18, 2010 4:27 PM GMT
    I have met TWO wonderful men online...one here and another elsewhere.
    The first..and the one I am having the most trouble getting over, was with a guy on RJ. Those of you who know me, know about this relationship. We never met in person...but I miss him terribly. We haven't spoken since the first of July, but there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of him. icon_sad.gif
    The second guy, who I met on another site, I actually got to meet face to face... and other parts, as well.
    BOTH ended badly...and I take sole responsibility for the breakups. I took both of them too seriously, became too "clingy" and unsettled if I thought there were any other guys they were chatting with... bottom line: Jealousy

    So, I know from experience, that if can happen... IF you can keep things in perspective and realize this is the internet. Distance and face to face meetings are the ONLY possibility of getting things to the next level.
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    Sep 18, 2010 4:33 PM GMT
    danlees saidI wish i could live in an more open country , spending my lifetime with the man i love and who loves me... but all these seem so impossible for me..few people take the internet relationship stuff serious, but i do...

    i feel so frustrated when one gradually stops chatting or emailing to me after some time( several weeks) ....maybe i should not focus too much on this stuff.. even though i still hold a dream of going abroad...

    guys , what is your opinions about love on the internet? is there really something happening in some movies?


    it's not impossible to move man.

    i had lots of Chinese friends where i study. some of them will come back this year also. Romania and China are in very good relations and you can easily come here to study.
    All the Chinese students that came here studied Chinese, Romanian and English. I think you could do that also.
    you apply for the scholarship every year and after you finish school you apply for a working visa. Many many Chinese people work here. And when i say many i mean lots icon_biggrin.gif
    in few years i think you can get Romanian citizenship and then will be much easier to move in a better country in Europe.

    about love on the internet. i am doing such a thing right now. it's not easy but if you meet the right person everything will be fine as long as you communicate.
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    Sep 18, 2010 4:38 PM GMT
    I guess real love is possible on the internet, we have more access anyway.. I'v felt that way too but dont allow this situation to turn you cold towards finding true love, keep looking and just be yourself....
    Still i think getting out and meeting people is your best bet....Good Luck!
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    Sep 18, 2010 4:38 PM GMT
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    paulflexes saidLove is the opposite of hate. It has absolutely nothing to do with relationships.
    What you're referring to is affection...not love. And yes, that can be found on the internet. icon_biggrin.gif


    Sorry to disagree, Paul..Love is NOT the opposite of Hate. They are closely linked. The TRUE opposite of Love is Indifference.


    I second that
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    Sep 18, 2010 4:42 PM GMT
    Friendsrbetter said
    paulflexes saidLove is the opposite of hate. It has absolutely nothing to do with relationships.
    What you're referring to is affection...not love. And yes, that can be found on the internet. icon_biggrin.gif


    Sorry to disagree, Paul..Love is NOT the opposite of Hate. They are closely linked. The TRUE opposite of Love is Indifference.
    Nope, I disagree. Love and hate are equal opposites. Indifference is the absence of either.
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    Sep 18, 2010 4:47 PM GMT
    some people love to hate Paul. icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 18, 2010 4:49 PM GMT
    BuckYou saidsome people love to hate Paul. icon_razz.gif
    And others just tolerate hating me, because it's apparently a fun hobby. icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 19, 2010 3:42 AM GMT
    Thank u guys for your responces , i agree with most of u . internet is just one of many ways to get to know gay people. maybe i rely too much on it, and may not be ready in real life yet.

    Thanks again,,god bless us... icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 19, 2010 3:54 AM GMT
    My bf and I just celebrated our 6 year anniversary.....we met on hotornot.com
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    Sep 19, 2010 3:59 AM GMT
    cougarguy saidMy bf and I just celebrated our 6 year anniversary.....we met on hotornot.com



    thanks for your site ..lol i am checking it now lol..
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    Sep 19, 2010 4:05 AM GMT
    You can not find love on the internet, you can find some good people but love I highly doubt.

    Anything is possible however but I think you'll find lust more than love. Be careful and thread carefully.
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    Sep 19, 2010 4:31 AM GMT
    Stuff gets lost in translation. Meeting people in person can have a better appeal.
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    Sep 19, 2010 7:58 AM GMT
    Ricovelas saidYou can not find love on the internet, you can find some good people but love I highly doubt.

    Anything is possible however but I think you'll find lust more than love. Be careful and thread carefully.



    thanks. i will kepp it in mind .. wish u luck lol
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    Sep 19, 2010 8:14 AM GMT
    BuckYou said
    Friendsrbetter said
    paulflexes saidLove is the opposite of hate. It has absolutely nothing to do with relationships.
    What you're referring to is affection...not love. And yes, that can be found on the internet. icon_biggrin.gif


    Sorry to disagree, Paul..Love is NOT the opposite of Hate. They are closely linked. The TRUE opposite of Love is Indifference.


    I second that


    I third it icon_smile.gif