GAY 101

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    Sep 18, 2010 4:44 PM GMT
    Once you have accepted you are gay and this is who you are, whether you are open about it to the poeple closest to you or not, WHATS NEXTt?

    Most men discover they are gay because of someone else, because they get so close to another man, true feeling come out and you eventually figure out wh., whether we are talking about a kiss, a touch or a one night stand. you can confide in this person to "guide you" through this unfamiliar path (most of the times).

    but what if you dont have that person? what if you figure it out o your own? and what if you have accepted this fact and are ok with it?

    For me I want to get to know more gay people (before going into the dating market) I want gay friends to openly talk about life, shit and stuff. but I found its kind of hard on a contry like mine, where not a lot of people are open about it unless you cant hide it. lol

    I found out facebook its a great way to start and although I have found some amazing people, Im not so sure you can start a true relationship via facebook alone.

    I wondering how was it for you? how did you found people like you? did you googled for them, did you went to bars? join the LGBT? How does one start the next stage on one's life?

    My basic question is: IM GAY, NOW WHAT?

    P.S. answers from people on small cities or towns are super-welcomed by the way
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    Sep 18, 2010 4:54 PM GMT
    I grew up in a little farm town and came out at age 21, but knew I was gay since before age 12.
    Once you come out, then you can live your own life instead of hiding.
    There are drawbacks to being open in an oppressive society, but those drawbacks are nothing compared to the mental pain from being in the closet.
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    Sep 18, 2010 5:04 PM GMT
    find local gay hang out areas and go hang out there.
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    meet other gay people. Meet them online too.
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    Sep 18, 2010 5:06 PM GMT
    I agree with you man, but how do you start your life? you know the one you will be happy with? what did you do? what's your story?
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    Sep 18, 2010 5:09 PM GMT
    ShaDoWhn saidI agree with you man, but how do you start your life? you know the one you will be happy with? what did you do? what's your story?
    There's no single answer to any of those questions.
    You have to find out what's right for you (usually through trial AND error), and go for it.
    Just be happy that you don't have to hide anything anymore. That in itself is the most important factor.
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    Sep 18, 2010 5:14 PM GMT
    ShaDoWhn saidI agree with you man, but how do you start your life? you know the one you will be happy with? what did you do? what's your story?


    Yeah, like paul said "trial and error"

    u cant really find out what u want until u start going out and meeting different types of people.
    I started exploring "the scene" so to speak around 21, im 26 now. It took me quite a few years to realize what I was comfortable with, what I liked and disliked, etc. In fact, I still sometimes feel like im figuring stuff out.

    Put urself out there tho, make some gay friends, go in a few dates. Some will be god awful, some will be awesome. u just kinda gotta do it.
  • GQjock

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    Sep 18, 2010 7:23 PM GMT
    When you wake up in the morning ....

    Brush your teeth shave put your pants on and put one foot in front of the other
    You live your life just like every other human being here on earth
    Because your gay doesn't make you any different
    If you want to know how to meet other men for friendship or sex that's a completely different question
  • mybud

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    Sep 18, 2010 9:42 PM GMT
    Gay 101...pfff...like there's a hand book....certain rules you need to follow or your on the outs......Dude be yourself.....be honest...if your sensitive be sensitive....Be YOU.... that way...your living your chosen lifestyle and your self respect is intact....It's called a win-win situation....BUD
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    Sep 18, 2010 9:44 PM GMT
    Live your own like sunshine, being gay isn't all that you are. Do what you want.