Meeting people over the internet

  • Stin7

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    Sep 20, 2010 1:14 AM GMT
    So I basically met this guy on man hunt I'm seriously looking for friends, I'm not interested on dating people. I think this guy was cool and then he asked to do something with him, so he can meet me. I made clear I don't wanna have sex and he was all "hey relax"

    Was my attitude too defensive? what do you think?
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    Sep 20, 2010 1:39 AM GMT
    Manhunt is a sex site not a place to make friends. He wanted sexy regardless of how upfront you were.
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    Sep 20, 2010 1:59 AM GMT
    The truth of meeting people from online is that most are emotionally unavailable for any type of relationship. He just wants sex from you. Why would you be separating gay friends from straight friends?
  • Stin7

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    Sep 29, 2010 10:21 PM GMT
    thanks for the honest replies.

    I met a person and he invited me to the cinema... I don't know what to do.. I'm not prepared to date yet, I just finished a relationship a month ago but I do want to meet new people..

    besides the guy is cute.
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    Sep 29, 2010 10:23 PM GMT
    I'm writing a hybrid novel on this subject. Come to my book signing y'all!
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    Sep 29, 2010 10:29 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidI'm writing a hybrid novel on this subject. Come to my book signing y'all!


    Isn't that a line ..for meeting through an online post? icon_smile.gif LOL..j/k

    Very cool if you are!
    See you at obelisk!
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    Sep 29, 2010 10:37 PM GMT
    Why do people go to sex sites to meet friends? And why are you doing the same thing that stupid straight men do (assuming every gay man on the earth automatically wants to have sex wit you)?

    Go meet people in the real world through real things that people do (sports, etc) and you won't have to worry about people on cock sites possibly wanting.. cock.
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    Sep 29, 2010 10:46 PM GMT
    badmikeyt saidWhy do people go to sex sites to meet friends? And why are you doing the same thing that stupid straight men do (assuming every gay man on the earth automatically wants to have sex wit you)?

    Go meet people in the real world through real things that people do (sports, etc) and you won't have to worry about people on cock sites possibly wanting.. cock.


    Sometimes you meet really great guys on the internet. It also opens you up to many more guys who aren't in to the bar scene,etc. Maybe go out for a date, it doesn't workout, but you become great friends. Of course compared to the amount of Flakes and dickheads it's a miniscule amount. There are risks :/, but that's the case in the real world as well.

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    Sep 29, 2010 10:48 PM GMT
    Risk is in everything we do, of course. But your chances of finding friends successfully using a site that is intended for hookups is counterintuitive. Would you go to the grocery store to buy a car?
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    Sep 29, 2010 10:50 PM GMT
    You shouldn't be looking for guys on ManHunt, period. It's for sex only, I don't know why anyone would even attempt to find friends on there (without hooking up first, at least). Meeting guys online can be OK, just stick to sites like RJ, or something like okcupid.... I agree that it's hard to meet guys if you aren't into the bar scene, and just in general, being gay, it's hard to meet other gay men! It's so hard to tell these days icon_razz.gif So I'm all for meeting online, just be smart about it.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Sep 29, 2010 10:53 PM GMT
    Depends on where you're looking on the internet. If it's RealJock, chances are you will meet some interesting, quality, intelligent, health & fitness-minded people for friendship...possibly even more. Not that there are not flakes here too. If it's Manhunt, Adam4Adam, Craiglist and others like them, the flake-factor is likely a lot higher. Regardless, the internet is as viable place to meet a friend or boyfriend as anywhere, just proceed with caution.
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    Sep 30, 2010 12:12 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidDepends on where you're looking on the internet. If it's RealJock, chances are you will meet some interesting, quality, intelligent, health & fitness-minded people for friendship...possibly even more. Not that there are not flakes here too. If it's Manhunt, Adam4Adam, Craiglist and others like them, the flake-factor is likely a lot higher. Regardless, the internet is as viable place to meet a friend or boyfriend as anywhere, just proceed with caution.

    This. Let this post ring throughout the rest of the thread.
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    Sep 30, 2010 12:20 AM GMT
    In some ways, the internet is crippling people's ability to have real human relationships. And I'm no critic of technology, it's how I make my living.

    I've read news articles about this kind of thing now and then, but recently I had a first hand experience with it. After seeing a guy for a few weeks and needing to have that "sort out how we feel and where we're going" talk, I suggested we have dinner at my place and have a relaxed setting to discuss it freely.

    His response was that he didn't do very well talking face to face and suggested, in all seriousness, that we discuss it by instant messenger instead. What??

    My response to that was that we had, at that moment, had all the discussion necessary. icon_confused.gif
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    Sep 30, 2010 1:44 AM GMT
    Global_Citizen saidIn some ways, the internet is crippling people's ability to have real human relationships. And I'm no critic of technology, it's how I make my living.

    I've read news articles about this kind of thing now and then, but recently I had a first hand experience with it. After seeing a guy for a few weeks and needing to have that "sort out how we feel and where we're going" talk, I suggested we have dinner at my place and have a relaxed setting to discuss it freely.

    His response was that he didn't do very well talking face to face and suggested, in all seriousness, that we discuss it by instant messenger instead. What??

    My response to that was that we had, at that moment, had all the discussion necessary. icon_confused.gif


    I agree with you. iv met people on line in the past and found most had a problem giving it up once you get serious. I feel if your in a relationship with me then you no longer should need a profile on gay com, match com or any of the other dating sites. I think allot of people are addicted to that crap. I had a really close friend for years that use to go to the movies and dinner a few times a month. Then it got were he never wanted too do anything but talk online. spending hours on facebook playing farmville sometimes spending 6 to 8 hrs a day online. He actually thinks these people are his friends, people he has never met in real life. I told him 3 months ago that I wouldn't be contacting him any more that I wanted some real friends I could associate with outside the internet.
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    Sep 30, 2010 2:10 AM GMT
    relax_head.gif