tbakes18 saidOkay so I play volleyball, I grew up with sports when I was a kid, i did soccer for 14 years volleyball for 9 years, gymnastics for 8 years, basketball for 3 years, you get the point....and so I play volleyball, and a lot of people kind of dislike playing with me sometimes because if we lose, I get extremely upset, it's just my dad always put in me this competitive drive, and i pretty much go no mercy at all times in sports...how do i change this extreme competitive-ness. my team just lost to a team that we should have beat in volleyball and i'm like so close to putting my fist in the wall...
so any helpful tips on being less competitive to a more normal kind of competitive.
Thank you for asking everyone's opinion on this topic. All of us are competitive in various parts of our lives (personally, financially, athletically, etc.) Since you draw awareness to this issue, you may need to take a step back and review yourself in slow motion. What is the mental difference between you on the field and off the field? How does you mind think? What process do you develop to achieve each goal and how does it affect you after the game? Did something go wrong, if so what? I ask these questions because I'm am relaxed and down to earth guy in all areas except in my professional environment. Growing up with an entrepreneur, I believe in one thing: production and achieving goals. Unfortunately, not everyone views work life comparatively; therefore, I adjusted my thought process and focused on each step of the process. What do I have to do to achieve each step of my goal? How do I open my communication to others to assist or facilitate? How should I react at the end if a deadline is not met? Similar process for you. How do you communicate? What is your process? How do you react when you lose? Why? When you figure out each step of the process, you will begin figuring out each step of your thought process and why you react.
Changing is a habitual process, but learning to focus your energy toward each step will help you deal with the results. If you win, great, if not, no big deal. Have a beer and congratulate the team.