ughh another wedding(rolls eyes)

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    Sep 20, 2010 6:00 AM GMT
    what is up with everyone getting married lol,i have been to like 5 already,anyways i have another one coming up this weekend and the girl getting married is my cousin and she told me to bring a date or she would not let me in.

    my question is this-do i bring a date when i know my family and DAD is going to be there also.you all know the story with my dad so i dont know if i should.

    who wants to come to wedding hahaicon_redface.gif
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    Sep 20, 2010 11:45 AM GMT
    i mean personally I wouldnt stir the pot by bringing a boy "date." I'd being one of your girl friends and just make it easy for yourself. Why do people have to have dates to go to weddings anyway? So silly.
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Sep 20, 2010 11:54 AM GMT
    My brother just got married in August and asked/requested I use my +1. I brought one of my best friends, a chick. My brother knows I'm gay and even said he hoped I'd use it to bring a guy, but shocker of shockers, I had no man to take.
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    Sep 20, 2010 1:13 PM GMT
    I assume your cousin knows that you're gay. If so you are very lucky that she is so supportive and encouraging. Bring a date as your cousin requested of you, it's her day- it's all about her and her fiance - no one else. While you're there everyone will see that you are cool/comfortable and not ashamed being gay. As long as you don't put on an act (drama) it'll work out just fine. Let your father realize that it's (hopefully) only him that has a problem with it. You might also meet 'someone' there; and your father might "see the light."
  • Timbales

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    Sep 20, 2010 1:34 PM GMT
    Go solo and dance with all the middle aged women. They only get to dance at weddings and their husbands always make them dance by themselves, maybe allowing themselves to get dragged onto the floor for one slow dance.
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    Sep 20, 2010 3:33 PM GMT
    In the last two years I've been to six weddings; one was a commitment ceremony between two men. It was held at this mansion just outside of San Francisco, in Marin, and the entire thing was really beautiful. I was the plus 1, and it was probably my favorite "wedding circus" I've been invited to, sort of.
    After the ceremony, the one groom looked like he was obsessing about little details so I offered to help and he asked me to help him with a few gifts he'd bought the wedding party. We went out to the limo and while he was making sure all the presents were in order, he grabbed my junk and tried to kiss me.. Seriously tacky. I left him in the limo, went back inside and proceeded to drink about two thousand dollars worth of champagne, but I never told my friend because I was just a guest and he is the hardcore romantic type.
    C'est La Vie.
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    Sep 20, 2010 3:36 PM GMT
    Egh...mix it up...bring someone you know you're gonna be able to make fun of people with. Weddings are fun people watching times....seriously!
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    Sep 20, 2010 3:40 PM GMT
    Well, if you're dating a guy that you'd like family to meet, then do so. Otherwise, bring a girl, or pair up with a single gal (can be a relative) that is also going to be solo.

    -Doug
  • LJay

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    Sep 20, 2010 4:01 PM GMT
    There is just not enough information, but with the situation with your dad being what it is, it sounds like your cousin is saying that if you want to play along and bring a girl as a date, then it is OK to come.

    This is, to me, a sort of blackmail, though the idea to bring a casual female friend or relative would be one way to handle it diplomatically.

    On the other hand, I would feel that cousin was not being very cool and take the excuse to not attend. Be polite. Send your regrets and best wishes. Send the couple a nice card wishing them well. This way, nothing really clouds the future and you don't have to put up with another wedding or deal with another tense situation. Why subject yourself to a confrontation that would mess up someone else's day?
  • auryn

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    Sep 20, 2010 7:48 PM GMT
    Does your cousin expect you to bring a guy in order to parade him in front of your dad and any others that may have a problem? Or does she not care who you bring as long as you bring someone to enjoy her day?

    If she's pushing the envelope, then it's her day. Have fun with it and record the drama on youtube. icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 20, 2010 7:55 PM GMT
    LOL can I come? I love weddings icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 20, 2010 8:13 PM GMT
    EccentricStud said ... he grabbed my junk and tried to kiss me.. Seriously tacky. I left him in the limo, went back inside and proceeded to drink about two thousand dollars worth of champagne, but I never told my friend because I was just a guest and he is the hardcore romantic type.
    C'est La Vie.


    Props to you for that choice not to disrupt the proceedings and spoil your friend's happiness of the moment.

    If it was a one-off transgression (yeah, rrrrright) then wish them the best and no harm is done.

    (In fact, your friend will undoubtedly have his heart broken, but he is entitled to his happy day)


    Reading that story left me a bit sad.


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    Sep 20, 2010 8:17 PM GMT
    I had 6 weddings last year, 5 this year....it would have been 6 but i was out of the country for 1. I have my last one this coming weekend. Cant wait until they are all over.
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    Sep 20, 2010 8:58 PM GMT
    amar_m saidLOL can I come? I love weddings icon_biggrin.gif


    sure u canbe my date haha
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    Sep 20, 2010 9:00 PM GMT
    PRINCETONY said
    amar_m saidLOL can I come? I love weddings icon_biggrin.gif


    sure u canbe my date haha


    ME?? A DATE?? Yay!!! Im honoured!! icon_biggrin.gif I know I'm pathetic but I never get dates icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 20, 2010 10:05 PM GMT
    PRINCETONY saidshe told me to bring a date or she would not let me in.

    my question is this-do i bring a date when i know my family and DAD is going to be there also.


    Sweet fucking Christ. Please stop living your life for your dad.

    It is your cousin's wedding, not your dad's. Get out from under your father's shadow. You are an adult now. If your dad has a problem that is your dad's problem, not your problem, your dad's problem. If he wants to make an ass out of himself he will be the one in the wrong. You simply followed your cousin's wishes at her wedding and if your father acts out he is the asshole.
  • mizu5

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    Sep 21, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    ahaha I'll come!

    Weddings are funn.
  • HankFit247

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    Sep 21, 2010 12:30 AM GMT
    Take your favorite Fruit Fly.

    BTW, we no longer call them Fag Hags!
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    Sep 21, 2010 5:38 AM GMT
    Having been in a wedding this past weekend, if I was seriously dating or in relationship I would have included them. Being single i attended alone as part of the wedding party.
    You should do what makes you happy...and to hell what your father or anyone else thinks.
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    Sep 21, 2010 6:06 AM GMT
    Jimac saidHaving been in a wedding this past weekend, if I was seriously dating or in relationship I would have included them. Being single i attended alone as part of the wedding party.
    You should do what makes you happy...and to hell what your father or anyone else thinks.




    can not be said any better. u have to live life for yourself and your dad will comearound eventually and if he doesnt then it is his loss not your handsome.
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    Sep 21, 2010 6:13 AM GMT
    I wouldn't worry about "stirring the pot," or nothing will change. We all do our part just by treating our lifestyle as normally as everyone else. If a heterosexual can bring a date, why the hell can't we in 2010? Progress, people - keep moving forward.

    I think sometimes the USA is in a backslide of religious zealotry that few of those ensconced in the gay ghettos see. We take for granted that things are changing, but we've got to help in some places, too.

    The very least a responsible gay person can do today is to act in a manner that his life is completely normal - because it is and this is how it should be. If we go hiding off the whole gay thing because we are uncomfortable, we are sowing the idea that something is abnormal, which should not be felt abnormal.