My friend is being stalker-ish.

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    Sep 20, 2010 7:25 PM GMT
    My friend, Chris, (who is 27 yrs old) briefly dated a 17 yr old, Kurt. Questionable judgement on my friend's part aside, they probably had like three dates.

    So anyways, the then 17 year old added me on Facebook while they were briefly dating. To which, my friend grilled Kurt about (like who had added who, why were we FB friends). I thought it was a little, uh, overbearing.

    Fast forward to a few nights ago, Kurt is now 18 and happened to be at the same bar that I was at hanging with friends. I sent Chris a short text just saying I had spotted Kurt. Chris replied back with "Are you talking to him?" "Who is he with?" et cetera.

    Since bumping into each other at the bar, Kurt and I have been talking back and forth on Facebook. Well, last night my friend started sending me bat shit crazy texts because he saw Kurt and me posting on each others' pages. Chris is sending me texts about how he doesn't care about Kurt anymore while simultaneously asking me about why Kurt and me are talking, who Kurt is with, and whatnot.

    I want to tactfully tell Chris to stop being so damn creepy, but I don't want him to fly off the damn handle so to speak as he is prone to do.

    I dunno. I guess I just needed to vent. Advice is certainly welcome though.
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    Sep 21, 2010 12:41 AM GMT
    Sounds like gay drama at its lamest. If they're not together, you have every right to talk to him in any way you feel like!
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    Sep 21, 2010 12:46 AM GMT
    breakers saidSounds like gay drama at its lamest. If they're not together, you have every right to talk to him in any way you feel like!


    LAME!!!!!

    Call him on his Big Girl antics, and tell him to put his jockstrap back on, and/or grow a pair.

    FLMAO
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    Sep 21, 2010 12:49 AM GMT
    breakers saidSounds like gay drama at its lamest. If they're not together, you have every right to talk to him in any way you feel like!


    It sounds like someone either still has feelings for or really ended up not liking the other person too.

    Either way, exercise your right to be friends with or talk to whoever you want to talk to and that you mean no harm.
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    Sep 21, 2010 2:51 AM GMT
    Gay Drama. You started the drama by texting your friend and telling him you spotted the guy he liked at the bar, and instigated it. Then threw fuel on the fire by chatting it up online with the kid. Then complained that your friend was being stalkerish. When you invite trouble into your home, trouble will find you.
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    Sep 21, 2010 2:53 AM GMT
    Thank god you are both still in high school and have to be home by 10.
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    Sep 21, 2010 2:59 AM GMT
    sdgman saidThank god you are both still in high school and have to be home by 10.



    ROFL!!!!
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    Sep 21, 2010 3:07 AM GMT
    sdgman saidThank god you are both still in high school and have to be home by 10.


    Mom doesn't make me get offline till 11. ;)

    lol.
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    Sep 21, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    batman192 saidGay Drama. You started the drama by texting your friend and telling him you spotted the guy he liked at the bar, and instigated it. Then threw fuel on the fire by chatting it up online with the kid. Then complained that your friend was being stalkerish. When you invite trouble into your home, trouble will find you.


    I didn't instigate anything. I just let him know that the guy was out. It wasn't with malicious intent. It's more like "Oh hey there's Kurt."

    Furthermore, I can chat with whomever I like. It's not my fault that someone else acts inappropriate because of it.

    Sheesh.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Sep 21, 2010 3:14 AM GMT
    yeah, this sounds like drama to me. I just say that if Chris and Kurt have issues to sort out... let them, but don't get sucked into the black hole that is gay drama - you'll implode. I'd suggest that if you and Kurt talk on FB, do it message to message and not on the wall.
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    Sep 21, 2010 3:16 AM GMT
    He only had three dates with him?



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    Sep 21, 2010 3:19 AM GMT
    Vaughn saidHe only had three dates with him?



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    Some people get attached easily...and yes, I agree with the sentiment of your statement. Doesn't speak too deep about him.
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    Sep 21, 2010 3:20 AM GMT
    sdgman saidThank god you are both still in high school and have to be home by 10.


    How am I acting like I am in high school? I simply fail to see how I am at fault because my friend is sending me constant texts asking about someone I barely know's whereabouts.

    Other than simply letting him know that I had bumped into someone we mutually knew, I have not gotten my hands dirty in this mess. I had no idea it would set off the crazy stalker gene in my friend.

    I also had no idea that innocently communicating with someone on Facebook was off limits and makes me look immature.

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    Sep 21, 2010 3:27 AM GMT
    I kinda get his pestering. An ex of mine stole a boyfriend from under my nose using facebook.

    Although this is different, and they never really were together. Hm.
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    Sep 21, 2010 3:41 AM GMT
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    batman192 saidGay Drama. You started the drama by texting your friend and telling him you spotted the guy he liked at the bar, and instigated it. Then threw fuel on the fire by chatting it up online with the kid. Then complained that your friend was being stalkerish. When you invite trouble into your home, trouble will find you.


    I didn't instigate anything. I just let him know that the guy was out. It wasn't with malicious intent. It's more like "Oh hey there's Kurt."

    Furthermore, I can chat with whomever I like. It's not my fault that someone else acts inappropriate because of it.

    Sheesh.


    You started some shit by texting him you saw the dude and now your bitching about him being upset
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    Sep 21, 2010 3:45 AM GMT
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    Ganymede80 said
    batman192 saidGay Drama. You started the drama by texting your friend and telling him you spotted the guy he liked at the bar, and instigated it. Then threw fuel on the fire by chatting it up online with the kid. Then complained that your friend was being stalkerish. When you invite trouble into your home, trouble will find you.


    I didn't instigate anything. I just let him know that the guy was out. It wasn't with malicious intent. It's more like "Oh hey there's Kurt."

    Furthermore, I can chat with whomever I like. It's not my fault that someone else acts inappropriate because of it.

    Sheesh.


    You started some shit by texting him you saw the dude and now your bitching about him being upset


    I'm sorry that I didn't realize texting someone that you saw someone they went on three dates with six months ago warrants an entire barrage of texts asking a million questions about someone I barely know. If that is my fault: fine.

    Addendum:

    By-the-way, these texts started last night at 1:20am and continued this afternoon at 1pm, AND these were sparked by him seeing that we had communicated on Facebook... not by the text that I had seen Kurt out. That's just not sane, even if I am at fault for failing to forsee my friend's bat shit crazy reaction.
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    Sep 21, 2010 3:47 AM GMT
    I have to agree that it is kind of your fault by doing so. Instead of just casually mentioning it to them the next time you see them.

    However, it's not your fault he is freakish about it.

    So while you semi-started it, your friend needs to get over it.
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    Sep 21, 2010 4:27 AM GMT
    Conflama.

    Conflict mixed with a generous amount of drama.

    Here's how it will end... (1:40 is where it gets good!)

    http://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=25905614
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    Sep 21, 2010 4:43 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidConflama.

    Conflict mixed with a generous amount of drama.

    Here's how it will end... (1:40 is where it gets good!)

    http://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=25905614


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    Sep 21, 2010 4:59 AM GMT
    Friends don't let friends get bitchy. icon_idea.gif
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    Sep 21, 2010 6:48 AM GMT
    Every year, a whole new group of pretty young men come of age and ruin somebody's day. ;) It's a right of passage. We only gripe about it more the older we get.
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    Sep 21, 2010 6:56 AM GMT
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    sdgman saidThank god you are both still in high school and have to be home by 10.


    How am I acting like I am in high school? I simply fail to see how I am at fault because my friend is sending me constant texts asking about someone I barely know's whereabouts.

    Other than simply letting him know that I had bumped into someone we mutually knew, I have not gotten my hands dirty in this mess. I had no idea it would set off the crazy stalker gene in my friend.

    I also had no idea that innocently communicating with someone on Facebook was off limits and makes me look immature.

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    LOL... actually... I didn't "blame" you for anything. Was pointing out the "high school" ness of your drama... and yes... high school.
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    Sep 21, 2010 8:01 AM GMT
    dude you started the drama to begin with. there's such a thing as too much information. No reason to text your friend to tell him so and so is at the bar unless you wanted to make him jealous, which it did. Its called bar games. The kid has a right to privacy and you have the right to mind your own business.
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    Sep 21, 2010 8:14 AM GMT
    batman192 saiddude you started the drama to begin with. there's such a thing as too much information. No reason to text your friend to tell him so and so is at the bar unless you wanted to make him jealous, which it did. Its called bar games. The kid has a right to privacy and you have the right to mind your own business.


    Genius... my friend started psycho texting because of Facebook. What part of that don't you get? Regardless of even if it was wrong to text that I just happened to see someone out somewhere (because oh I dunno... normally I wouldn't expect someone to be that obsessed with someone he had three dates with half a year ago. It wasn't like they were engaged, and I most certainly didn't text intending to make him jealous.), texting me questions about that person's private life (which I don't even know the answers to anyway) in the middle of the night and through the next day is completely uncalled for.