First (sex)experience

  • Nayro

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    Feb 28, 2008 7:08 PM GMT
    Hello all,
    I'm 18 years and I'm still a virgin. Ofcourse I'm very curious about the real thing. Do you have any advice or can you tell me about your first experience? Cause I have no clue what and how to do it...
    Thanks in advance..
  • BlackJock79

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    Feb 28, 2008 11:50 PM GMT
    You a top or a bottom or you just don't know yet?
  • BlackJock79

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    Feb 28, 2008 11:54 PM GMT
    I thought I was a bottom when I first started having sex, I just thought that dick would like into my ass as effortlessly as the pornstars I had so admired. NOT the case. LOL, I bottomed (or tried to) for the first few times and then I figured out that bottoming wasn't for me.
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    Feb 29, 2008 1:21 AM GMT
    Don't do any harm to yourself or others.
    Always practice safe sex no matter what your partner(s) say.

    Other than that, don't expect the first time to be magical. Have fun with it and work on the second time.

    Enjoy.


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    Feb 29, 2008 1:52 PM GMT
    Make sure you know about safer sex and what you are comfortable doing. If the guy wants to do something you are not comfortable with tell him so. If he does not listen don't proceed.

    Once you get started you will probably find like I did that everything comes naturally. Don't think too much, matter of fact don't think at all, like most physical activities sex is best when it is spontaneous.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 29, 2008 2:57 PM GMT
    Do it with someone you care about.
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    Feb 29, 2008 5:16 PM GMT
    I wouldn't worry about it to much. It's just sex. When it happens it will happen.

    Be sure not to confuse sex with affection nor love. While sex can be connected with the two, that's often not the case, especially with gay folks. Sex is what it is: sex, and has no special connection to other emotions / feelings.

    Just have a good time, and try not to get to self-involved about it. It's just sex.

    Remember to have fun with sex, and not be self-loathing, conflicted, insecure, and so on. (I notice your a pictureless and that's almost always a tip off to low esteem.) It is what it is, and you are who you are.

    Like yourself, and the rest will follow.

    Folks that live for sex often are real shallow, and as you go along, you'll likely see that. Remember that your sexuality, and sex, are just a small part of your life.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Feb 29, 2008 5:28 PM GMT
    Youngguy24 saidHello all,
    I'm 18 years and I'm still a virgin. Ofcourse I'm very curious about the real thing. Do you have any advice or can you tell me about your first experience? Cause I have no clue what and how to do it...
    Thanks in advance..


    As Tim says, do it with someone you care about. Don't just do it for the sake of it.

    When you meet someone you care about, you will work out how to do it. Don't worry about that.

    Mike
  • GQjock

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    Mar 02, 2008 12:48 PM GMT
    Find a person X....
    preferably an X with the same equipment that you have
    talk...laugh
    either bring him home or go to his home
    close the door
    disrobe and find any various parts that seem attractive and see what they doicon_wink.gif

    I believe you'll do fine
  • zakariahzol

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    Mar 02, 2008 2:57 PM GMT
    You mean first time bottoming...

    I have my first just a couple of month ago at 42 year old. I do it just because I am curious what it all about. I heard this thing about earth shattering orgasm, g-sport, rubbing the postate and etc. I really prepare myself for this experience, I select my top carefully, learn about safe sex, prepare the condom and lube and I go to internet to learn about postate that suppose to be the male pleasureable point.

    Guess what,it was kinda painful first , but my top are considerate and do it gently .I learn to relax and strangely it one of the most amazing sexual experience of my life. I have bottom a couple of time after that, well, I have not felt those earth shattering orgasm yet. But it kinda getting there. Slowly but surely I am turning from top to bottom.
  • Jonesy08054

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    Mar 03, 2008 5:48 PM GMT
    I had sex with a man for the fist time about 4 months ago, but before that, I played with toys. I think this is a very safe way to figure out what it is you like. I had some masturbaters (flesh light is popular), and I had some anal toys (but plug, dildo, and eventually got anal beads) I was very adventurous with myself before ever letting someone else play back there. With my toy experiences, I realized that I really wanted to bottom, and when I was ready, I already new how to relax, and go slow. If you think you're going to perform like a porn star your first time and bury a 12" cock, it's not going to be a fun experience. A good top will know how to slowly loosen you up. If you know how to relax from playing with your own ass, then things will go that much more smoothly, and you will enjoy yourself better.
  • Nayro

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    Mar 04, 2008 1:25 PM GMT
    I am a bottom, pretty sure.
    I dont have any pictures cause I'm not very sure about what i want, maybe that is a low self esteem I don't know :/
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    Mar 08, 2008 3:11 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidDon't do any harm to yourself or others.
    Always practice safe sex no matter what your partner(s) say.

    Other than that, don't expect the first time to be magical. Have fun with it and work on the second time.

    Enjoy.


    Ditto on that.
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    Mar 09, 2008 3:37 AM GMT
    One of my first rules is, I gotta like the guy !! not love, LIKE !!! A shag without the "LIKE" is far less satisfying that jacking off !!! If you like his looks, attracted to his body, think he's fun to be around, may constitute enough "LIKE" No anal sex without protection PERIOD !!!! My first time, (I was married) I had stored up desire, curiosity, interest, longing, and sexual energy, to the point it was instantaneous love making. The guy would not believe me that it was my first time, but it was. So don't worry, let "NATURE TAKE ITS COURSE" and you just follow, it'll be great !!!
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    Mar 12, 2008 1:41 AM GMT
    First of all I would like to say that you have to learn to love yourself, whether you are gay, bi oor str8.

    Second, I has my first experience when I was very very young, so my advice to you would be to take it slowly. I regret not having done my first time with someone I loved. I probably didn't love myself enough back then, but now I do, and I love me a lot.
    The first time is suppose to be magical so don't waste it. Because after that it just becomes...a sport and it's not a big deal.
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    Mar 12, 2008 1:43 AM GMT
    Jonesy08054 saidI had sex with a man for the fist time about 4 months ago, but before that, I played with toys. I think this is a very safe way to figure out what it is you like. I had some masturbaters (flesh light is popular), and I had some anal toys (but plug, dildo, and eventually got anal beads) I was very adventurous with myself before ever letting someone else play back there. With my toy experiences, I realized that I really wanted to bottom, and when I was ready, I already new how to relax, and go slow. If you think you're going to perform like a porn star your first time and bury a 12" cock, it's not going to be a fun experience. A good top will know how to slowly loosen you up. If you know how to relax from playing with your own ass, then things will go that much more smoothly, and you will enjoy yourself better.


    Do you mean the first time you bottomed or your first time period?
    I think you are kind of old for a first time experience, but then again I've had so much experience.
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    Mar 12, 2008 11:07 PM GMT
    I had my first sexual experience in an Air Force Dorm, at 23! We both never had any contact, sexually with guys. The first night, yea there where a couple nights. I was so nervous that I could not plateau.

    He was cool with it and the next morning I was more relaxed and we just had fun playing around. It was pretty cool and exciting, since it was on a military base. It was great and awkward and just a mess, but it was fun! Don't take sex too seriously, go with the flow!

    Disclaimer: always engage in safer sex practices, unsafe sexual practices can lead to head trauma, bloating, indigestion, constipation, urethral discharge, uncontrollable itching, liver failure, type I and II diabetes, dizziness, coma, and possibly death. Use only as directed by a health care provider. Sex is for entertainment purposes only and may inadvertently result in pregnancy
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    Mar 13, 2008 3:14 AM GMT
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  • Jonesy08054

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    Mar 13, 2008 8:28 AM GMT
    [/quote]

    Do you mean the first time you bottomed or your first time period?
    I think you are kind of old for a first time experience, but then again I've had so much experience.[/quote]

    Nope, I meant first time period. Some of us are just late bloomers......Now I'm get to have fun catching up for all of those missed years.
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    Mar 14, 2008 6:13 PM GMT
    dood saidDon't forget to wrap your monkey icon_razz.gif


    Does that mean your comming over to give me a big hug Dood? icon_wink.gif lol.

    Still waiting for my first time too Youngguy24 and I'm 27. Eager anticipation with a side of trepidition.
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    Mar 15, 2008 2:44 AM GMT
    First what?

    First experiment with masterbation: age 11; a friend two years older than I tried to show me...it didn't work on me, but it did work on him! At the same time, he told me about fucking...but he got it wrong. I thought he was talking about shoving his dick in a girl's ass (I didn't know what else they might have.) I told him he couldn't do it and offered to let him prove it using my ass. Well, he could do it, and I LIKED IT! He didn't know to move it in and out, but it was still fun!

    I fell in love a couple of years later, in high school, but still didn't know what to do. We'd skinny dip or play chicken in a lake sitting on each others shoulders naked...only I could spin him around...(I've always been pretty big for my age.) He knocked up a girl and left the country with their child. I've never seen him again.

    In college, I was in love with one of my fraternity "Little Brothers". We'd make out or sleep together, but I still didn't know what to do. His Catholic background caused him to tell me to get "my filthy, perverted hands off of him." I've only recently...30 years later...told him about my crush. He's married, with two kids, and claims to have forgotten the whole thing. As old, porky and dissheveled as he is, he's still very attractive to me.

    Also, in college, I was stalked/followed home from the gym by a guy in my gym class...also, in the next door fraternity house. After he did this twice, I figured out why he was there, wired the door shut so my roommate couldn't get in, even if he unexpectedly came home, and sixty-nined for twenty seconds..when we both came. I can't tell you how long I tried to gargle the "stuff" out of my mouth! I tried to find him several weeks later, but he had been expelled for conduct unbecoming....

    When I got to law school, I still tried to hang around the undergraduate fraternity chapter house. The scuttlebutt was that one of the brothers, a varsity cheerleader, was gay. I was around the chapter house, playing cards one weekend night, when the brother/cheerleader came in. He came over to kibitz on the card game and "accidentally" brushed his crotch against my elbow. After playing that and similar games for a few minutes, he announced he was going to bed. I excused myself from the game for "a minute to go pee" and followed the guy to his room. I asked him to come to my apartment for "a drink." His answer was "I don't think you want me to come for a drink." I responded: "If you come over, I don't think you're coming over for a drink." He agreed to come over and I agreed to meet him out front of the fraternity house to drive him to my place. I was so excited about finding a like-minded guy, and so anxious that he might not show, that when he emerged from the front door of the fraternity house, I shot off in my pants! That night I finally learned or experienced pretty much all the basics.

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    Mar 15, 2008 2:46 AM GMT
    first sex experience..

    i was 16, a french hot guy who claimed to be in his early twenties (later found out he was 32, but he could pass as young)...owned a few business around town..we fucked for about three months...im disgusted with myself.

    be glad ur not 16, ur 18 and still a virgin...

    so happy to be abstaining....
  • Nayro

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    Dec 29, 2008 8:17 PM GMT
    19 now and still virgin. All the ppl around me have sex. Its not like i wanna do it because others do it... but still icon_razz.gif
  • Koaa2

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    Dec 29, 2008 9:15 PM GMT
    If you have trouble meeting people for sex, and want to try it, you could go to a bathhouse, if there is one near you in the Netherlands. Just kind of hang out, talk with the guys there, and if you feel attracted to anyone, tell him it is your first time and go from there. Like the others said, learn about and practice safe sex all the time.
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    Dec 29, 2008 10:10 PM GMT
    My first sexual experience with another man:

    Home for summer from first year at college (19 y/o) working front counter at local dry cleaner. Attractive man in mid twenties enters store to drop off clothes and chats with me. I see the dude a few days later working out at my gym, and we chat again. Dude keeps coming into the store and one day mentions that he is having a few friends over for a party. I go to his house, and I'm the only one there. We sit on the sofa and chat. He leans over and kisses me (my first kiss). Lying naked side by side, he slowly inserts his dick in my ass (hurt like hell). A few thrusts and we both cum at the same time. I told him afterward that I had never done anything like that before. He said "you mean i just popped your cherry." I had no idea what that meant. He said that sometimes it takes a little practice to get comfortable with sex with another guy. We dated for about a year. My ass has never hurt so badly like after that first time.