Sep 21, 2010 1:24 PM GMT
Prefixes: I am not depressed and am NOT suicidal! lol. Everyone feels blue sometimes.
I come from a very loving born-again Christian home life. My parents don`t always say they love me, but I understand that they really do.
I have been out of a relationship for one year now and immediately following the termination of the relatinoship I started to feel lonely. I have heard wisdom from some guys saying that I need to take time to work on myself. The problem is two fold - I am a better guy when I have someone to love in my life. Secondly, I have been working on my shit and accept that it is a process. I also feel like I have it together. Up to now, I have been surrounded by great friends who would keep me busy and distract me. Now that I am home for several months...I am confronted with these feelings of being alone and unloved. Yes, i am sure there are deeper rooted issues here that I haven`t delt with. When i say I have my shit together, I mean I dòn`t just hold my life together, I am generally very happy with most aspects of my life, except for my pathetic love life.
So, the answer is simple: get out there and date someone. Problem: I work for the army and will be leaving in 4 or 8 months. i realize that I am fooling myself but can`t i have a relationshp for a few months? Whatever happened to summer flings (or automn flings?).
I feel like if i go to the bar now...that I am easy because I want that connectiveness, which mistakenly doesn`t come from one night encounters. What am I doing? There are some great guys online here, and I get flattered all the time with remarks that I am attractive, but why can`t i find a decent guy who will fall for me (time restrictions aside).
Alright....here it is. I need encouragement to stay strong and focus my sexual/relationship energies towards working out. Anyone else ever feel like this?
Rejected Reject,
Dave
Note Bien: My profile says I am looking for friendship which is true BUT...I am open to meeting someone. Did that come across as desperate? dooh!
I come from a very loving born-again Christian home life. My parents don`t always say they love me, but I understand that they really do.
I have been out of a relationship for one year now and immediately following the termination of the relatinoship I started to feel lonely. I have heard wisdom from some guys saying that I need to take time to work on myself. The problem is two fold - I am a better guy when I have someone to love in my life. Secondly, I have been working on my shit and accept that it is a process. I also feel like I have it together. Up to now, I have been surrounded by great friends who would keep me busy and distract me. Now that I am home for several months...I am confronted with these feelings of being alone and unloved. Yes, i am sure there are deeper rooted issues here that I haven`t delt with. When i say I have my shit together, I mean I dòn`t just hold my life together, I am generally very happy with most aspects of my life, except for my pathetic love life.
So, the answer is simple: get out there and date someone. Problem: I work for the army and will be leaving in 4 or 8 months. i realize that I am fooling myself but can`t i have a relationshp for a few months? Whatever happened to summer flings (or automn flings?).
I feel like if i go to the bar now...that I am easy because I want that connectiveness, which mistakenly doesn`t come from one night encounters. What am I doing? There are some great guys online here, and I get flattered all the time with remarks that I am attractive, but why can`t i find a decent guy who will fall for me (time restrictions aside).
Alright....here it is. I need encouragement to stay strong and focus my sexual/relationship energies towards working out. Anyone else ever feel like this?
Rejected Reject,
Dave
Note Bien: My profile says I am looking for friendship which is true BUT...I am open to meeting someone. Did that come across as desperate? dooh!