Late Bloomer Gay?

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    Sep 21, 2010 8:12 PM GMT
    Are any of you guys or do you know anyone that REALIZED (not "came out") that they are gay later in life, after puberty, like in their 20's?

    I only caught myself first time looking at a guy when I was 22 and tried masturbating to gay porn at 23 (which is also the first time I tried gay sex). Before I was only interested in girls.

    I'm asking, because last few times I've been with guys, I just can't stay hard when I'm in a guy - I go flaccid really quick, and I'm wondering maybe I'm not gay at all. I've only had sex like 5 times so far with guys. I'm 25 now.

    On the other hand, I think it might be some physical problem, because I never get morning wood (and I heard most guys do at least once in awhile) and my semen is all clear- not white.

    Appreciate any insights, especially the first question, I know I digressed a bit.
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    Sep 21, 2010 9:26 PM GMT
    I pretty much knew when I was younger, but wanted to fight it and strive to be "normal" because I grew up in small town Michigan where gay was a bad thing and ohhhh, that's wrong. Eventually I saw the error of it and just said fuck it.

    But I didn't come out until I was 20 and in my first real relationship.
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    Sep 22, 2010 8:39 PM GMT
    My first boyfriend said he only became attracted to men in his early twenties. I never quite knew what to make of that. I kind of assumed he was very repressed, he was pretty confused and guilt ridden about sex when we were together. But now he has been with a man for at least 10 years, so he sorted it out!