Advice/Resources for couples looking to adopt???

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    Sep 23, 2010 2:59 AM GMT
    Hoping to get advice from any couples or single gay dads that became fathers through adoption.

    How did you find a friendly agency?
    How long did the placement process take?
    Any things you wish you knew going in that were a surprise?
    If partnered how did you secure parental rights for both parents?

    Any thoughts, advice, or resources are gladly appreciated.
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    Sep 23, 2010 3:01 AM GMT
    Have you read Dan Savage's book on that?
    Good luck with your endeavour!

    Someone I knew used adoptionhelp.org. I don't know how long it took them, or how much it cost. But it was almost 2 years. It depended on the child's age, sex, behavior-any diabilities, or if it was even born yet, if they had a parent-their preferences, how much money, what type of adoption-open/ closed.

    Through personal experience from work, the younger the kid the harder it is to adopt them. As bad as it sounds, it will be harder for you to adopt a white child compared to other races. The agency try to pick as socially normal a family as then can. If you can show them that you are, they are going to help you as much as the next person. Let them know if it's a girl that you will have plenty of female role models. Support from your families will be very important-agencies often want letters of recommendation from friends/families.
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    Sep 23, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    carmineastoria saidHave you read Dan Savage's book on that?
    Good luck with your endeavour!

    I haven't, but I will definitely check it out. Thanks!
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    Sep 23, 2010 3:49 AM GMT
    if you want a real challenge in life, you might want to consider 'special needs kids'. They can be everything from older and considered unadoptable to mentally and/or physically handicapped. My wife and I adopted two half brothers aged 9&11. They're now 28&30. They gave us a run for our money and special needs are not for the weak of heart, but they are wonderful and loving sons and we are very proud of them. the systems are backlogged with these unwanted kids and you can probably go to the front of the line. A very rewarding, albeit on the edge undertaking......good luck Keithicon_cool.gif