i'm in love with my bf (and he sez he is with me!)..I still stare at other guys..imagine having sex with them....

  • rnch

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    Sep 23, 2010 11:27 PM GMT
    but the few time when "push comes to shove" i can't go thru with it.

    whowuddathunkit!!
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    Sep 23, 2010 11:27 PM GMT
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    Sep 24, 2010 2:16 AM GMT
    Happens
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    Sep 24, 2010 2:22 AM GMT
    I means you're a lot like most men. You know the old saying, 'I'm on a diet, but that doesn't mean I can't look at the menu.'
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    Sep 24, 2010 2:29 AM GMT
    welcome to being human....been with my bf for 7 yrs and we dont even bother trying to hide that we were checking out another guy, so now we look together...like heartrobb said "just looking at the menu" ... were guys...guys are visual people, you dont go blind just because youre in a relationship...and if the sight of a guy sends you into an erotic thought...isnt that why you looked at him to begin with? not intentionally, but the laws of attraction and the basic needs of man, yada yada and all that jazz.
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    Sep 24, 2010 2:43 AM GMT
    Nope, I only look at my bf and he'd better be looking at me. If his eyes start wondering, then I'll know what's up.
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    Sep 24, 2010 2:43 AM GMT
    Everyone missed the point of the OP. He's surprised and happy he doesn't want to go through with it because he's got a good thing going.
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    Sep 24, 2010 2:45 AM GMT
    I think it'd be weird if you didn't look.
    To look is human, to touch is...another thing.....to look and not touch is....love.
  • rebelbeard

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    Sep 24, 2010 2:48 AM GMT
    You are married not buried lol. It is normal and healthy to check out other people and feel attracted to them. It is human nature and a basic animal need/function. What makes you human is that you do not do anything. Don't put too much thought into it.
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    Sep 24, 2010 3:15 AM GMT
    It means nothing man.....just don't tell your bf....BUD
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    Sep 24, 2010 4:47 AM GMT
    rnch saidbut the few time when "push comes to shove" i can't go thru with it.

    whowuddathunkit!!


    It's because nothing compares to your guy. His taste, his smell; his feel. His intent.

    -Doug

    ...then all those things gestalt...
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    Sep 24, 2010 7:26 AM GMT
    If you are in an open relationship, you can still have love and joy with your boyfriend, without all the forced celibacy and commitment drama. You can be free to be an animal as well as a lover. If a person feels like every "commited" relationship they are in has been work, that it would be natural to just.. look, flirt, or more.. it might mean they are meant to be free. Free love can be safe, can be romantic, can be classy and non-dirty. It just depends on how you do it.
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    Sep 24, 2010 3:41 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidEveryone missed the point of the OP. He's surprised and happy he doesn't want to go through with it because he's got a good thing going.
    yup!

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    Sep 24, 2010 3:48 PM GMT
    rnch said
    Ciarsolo saidEveryone missed the point of the OP. He's surprised and happy he doesn't want to go through with it because he's got a good thing going.
    yup!

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    Very cool.

    But yes, we ALL do it; especially the straights!
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    Sep 24, 2010 3:51 PM GMT
    I look but I don't touch. He looks but he doesn't touch. We look - and we touch each other icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 24, 2010 3:54 PM GMT
    The knowledge, I would never fallow thru makes me a huge flirt.
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    Sep 24, 2010 3:56 PM GMT
    It means you have a pulse.

    It's good to know you're not a zombie. Zombie's suck.
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    Sep 24, 2010 3:58 PM GMT
    I get it completely! You have to feel good about it.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 24, 2010 4:04 PM GMT
    You can't go through with it because you don't want to hurt him, or because you're not interested in going through with it because he's enough for you? Or something else?
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    Sep 24, 2010 4:08 PM GMT
    Lysander saidYou can't go through with it because you don't want to hurt him, or because you're not interested in going through with it because he's enough for you? Or something else?
    dood, if you have to ask these questions...you will never know the answers. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 24, 2010 4:32 PM GMT
    it takes way more effort to want to cheat on my boy than not to want to cheat on him. Besides He made it clear he'd chop my balls off...There are two things I love the most, my bf....and my cuban balls.
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    Sep 24, 2010 4:35 PM GMT
    charlitos said it takes way more effort to want to cheat on my boy than not to want to cheat on him. Besides He made it clear he'd chop my balls off...There are two things I love the most, my bf....and my cuban balls.


    Hottest thing I read all day.
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    Sep 24, 2010 4:53 PM GMT
    See this is what i am talking about.
    Does MONOGAMY NOT EXIST ANYMORE?
    I mean... really... What you're doing... I have nothing against from the sense that I think differently of you but stating that "You are in love with your bf" yet you enjoy staring at other men means you aren't really "in love" with your bf. Because being in love with someone means you feel such a strong emotional attachement that the feeling you get from being with them cannot be comparable to the feeling you get with others? And since you DO feel enjoyment by staring at others that means that it is at some level comparable or you wouldn't bother looking at them. Am i right or right?


    Anwyays you are probably not alone. Most gay men are like that.

    - Mohammed.
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    Sep 24, 2010 6:56 PM GMT
    mohammed250 saidSee this is what i am talking about.
    Does MONOGAMY NOT EXIST ANYMORE?
    I mean... really... What you're doing... I have nothing against from the sense that I think differently of you but stating that "You are in love with your bf" yet you enjoy staring at other men means you aren't really "in love" with your bf. Because being in love with someone means you feel such a strong emotional attachement that the feeling you get from being with them cannot be comparable to the feeling you get with others? And since you DO feel enjoyment by staring at others that means that it is at some level comparable or you wouldn't bother looking at them. Am i right or right?


    Anwyays you are probably not alone. Most gay men are like that.

    - Mohammed.


    WHAT...so by your thinking looking at someone is the same as fraking them...good luck with that.
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    Sep 24, 2010 7:38 PM GMT
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    mohammed250 saidSee this is what i am talking about.
    Does MONOGAMY NOT EXIST ANYMORE?
    I mean... really... What you're doing... I have nothing against from the sense that I think differently of you but stating that "You are in love with your bf" yet you enjoy staring at other men means you aren't really "in love" with your bf. Because being in love with someone means you feel such a strong emotional attachement that the feeling you get from being with them cannot be comparable to the feeling you get with others? And since you DO feel enjoyment by staring at others that means that it is at some level comparable or you wouldn't bother looking at them. Am i right or right?


    Anwyays you are probably not alone. Most gay men are like that.

    - Mohammed.


    WHAT...so by your thinking looking at someone is the same as fraking them...good luck with that.


    No, by my thinking, looking at someone and fantasizing about them while you are in a relationship with someone whom you claim to love is contradictory in and of itself. love doesn'tmmean you have to have sex with them. It is more deeper than that.