My str8 friend just told me (again) "if I guy gets dick in his ass that means he's gay".

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    Sep 23, 2010 11:51 PM GMT
    Like I wasn't aware of that!
    He has had sexual experiences with men. To what extent, I am only aware of him getting blow jobs. He admitted he would have "explored fucking" me in Thailand a few years ago.

    He has a girlfriend. He doesn't believe in bisexuality. He believes he is heterosexual, but has told me on many occasions that I look, "real good".
    He also tells me, "You know you're my man".
    We practice yoga together and he wears these tight black square cut spandex shorts that TOTALLY accentuate his grande cock!

    WTF?!? He's really hot of course. I have resisted having sex with him for 5 years of our friendship. If he brings it to me again... I'm going for it.
    He wants to have beers together this weekend.

    Is that wise?
    I don't think it would ruin our friendship at this point.
    Do you think he knows what he's doing?
    Am I reading too much into this?
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    Sep 23, 2010 11:58 PM GMT
    If a guy gets a dick in his ass, he's either gay, Bi or a straight who decided unwarily to experiment.

    If it's more than once, then he's gay or Bi. Your friend is Bi. Oral sex is sex.
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    Sep 24, 2010 1:07 AM GMT
    Yeah I figured that.
    Just not sure if he wants to have sex with me or is just being a jerk.
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    Sep 24, 2010 1:22 AM GMT
    meninlove said If a guy gets a dick in his ass, he's either gay, Bi or a straight who decided unwarily to experiment.

    If it's more than once, then he's gay or Bi. Your friend is Bi. Oral sex is sex.


    How about we stop at "any guy who takes yoga"
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    Sep 24, 2010 2:03 AM GMT
    The question I have, after reading this, is whether the sexual tension between you two is somehow integral to your friendship.

    If you think you can have a night of NSA fun then go for it!

    But if either of you is gonna do your head in by overthinking it, then it should be avoided. In which case you need to move on. And just chide your buddy for being a cock tease the next time he makes such remarks.
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    Sep 24, 2010 2:14 AM GMT
    O come on, Ive had a tryst with a straight friend and we're still friends, he was just horny and didnt mind doing a guy for once, plain and simple, and he's still among my best friends... he calls us "good friends who have seen one another naked" lol
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    Sep 24, 2010 2:16 AM GMT
    If he has a girlfriend, why would you pursue that? How would like to be in her shoes and be cheated on? That just seems extremely disrespectful.
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    Sep 24, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
    So the guy taking the dick in his ass is gay....but the guy putting his erect dick in a guys ass isnticon_question.gificon_eek.gificon_question.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 24, 2010 4:11 AM GMT
    Ganymede80 saidIf he has a girlfriend, why would you pursue that? How would like to be in her shoes and be cheated on? That just seems extremely disrespectful.


    I'm not pursuing him. It seems like he's pursuing me. I don't know his girlfriend. She's new and haven't met her.

    I think my friend's being a cock tease. Whether he's aware of it or not, when it happens again, I plan on calling him on it.

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    Sep 24, 2010 4:11 AM GMT
    gymguy1 saidSo the guy taking the dick in his ass is gay....but the guy putting his erect dick in a guys ass isnticon_question.gificon_eek.gificon_question.gificon_rolleyes.gif


    His logic, not mine!
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    Sep 24, 2010 4:38 AM GMT
    He's a cock tease....trust me nothing will come of it.....if you push too much...your friendship will be over....BUD
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    Sep 24, 2010 5:28 AM GMT
    5 Years and he's never, ever tried anything but says these things? He's a scared bi-curious.
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    Sep 24, 2010 5:56 AM GMT
    chasgo3 saidLike I wasn't aware of that!
    He has had sexual experiences with men. To what extent, I am only aware of him getting blow jobs. He admitted he would have "explored fucking" me in Thailand a few years ago.

    He has a girlfriend. He doesn't believe in bisexuality. He believes he is heterosexual, but has told me on many occasions that I look, "real good".
    He also tells me, "You know you're my man".
    We practice yoga together and he wears these tight black square cut spandex shorts that TOTALLY accentuate his grande cock!

    WTF?!? He's really hot of course. I have resisted having sex with him for 5 years of our friendship. If he brings it to me again... I'm going for it.
    He wants to have beers together this weekend.

    Is that wise?
    I don't think it would ruin our friendship at this point.
    Do you think he knows what he's doing?
    Am I reading too much into this?



    sorry to get off track..but you dont look 42 at all...whats your secret? And yea stay away from him.
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    Sep 24, 2010 6:20 AM GMT
    You may not even take my relationship advice seriously because i am 18 but, common sense is telling me (if I was in your shoes) that since he has a girlfriend, I should leave him out of anything sexual until a) he breaks up with her, or b) he is open to her about being interested in me sexually. Then at least you will not or should not feel guilt if anything goes awkward. IF you know what I mean. You won't be the epicentre of the catastrophe if anything does happen.


    At least that is what I would do. But every man is different.
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    Sep 24, 2010 6:41 AM GMT
    In my experience, bi guys are fucked in the head. They're fun to play around with, but they don't clean themselves properly before sex, and do wierd things like wash their ass with toilet water after sex. It's understandable. They're constantly battling the tension between being with guys and being gay outcasts, or being with a woman and doing the family and kids thing. It messes them up mentally. Your guy sounds like the latter.
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    Sep 24, 2010 7:53 AM GMT
    chasgo3 said
    Ganymede80 saidIf he has a girlfriend, why would you pursue that? How would like to be in her shoes and be cheated on? That just seems extremely disrespectful.


    I'm not pursuing him. It seems like he's pursuing me. I don't know his girlfriend. She's new and haven't met her.

    I think my friend's being a cock tease. Whether he's aware of it or not, when it happens again, I plan on calling him on it.



    You're going to have sex with a guy who's in a relationship. Doesn't matter if you know her or not.

    Grow a pair
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    Sep 24, 2010 10:00 AM GMT
    The dude likes cock. End of discussion.
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    Sep 24, 2010 10:12 AM GMT
    Fearthefall saidThe dude likes cock. End of discussion.
    yup pretty much. he told you had bj's and wanted to fuck you. what more do you need
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    Sep 24, 2010 10:13 AM GMT
    Barriehomeboy.......As much of the 'obvious' sex guru and source of all life knowledge that you seem to be, try not clumping all us bi guys as mentally unstable.....o no wait "fucked in the head".

    No matter how many experiences you've had.
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    Sep 24, 2010 10:33 AM GMT
    No, it is not wise.

    It would be in your best interest if you tossed off immediately before you two go out (or stay in) for beers.

    If you engage him, you will lose. If it matters little, fine. If it matters at all, you will let your brain maintain control of your cock.
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    Sep 24, 2010 10:35 AM GMT
    There is a good reason they came up with the term msm (men who have sex with men) and that is because there are people that don't consider themselves gay or even bi, but that like to play with other guys. To me, bi or gay is when you have a genuine attraction to a male, not when you will let another guy rub your cock until you cum. I will let a chock do that to me fi I am horny but that does not make me bi.

    Straight guys can have sex with guys and still be straight. Coz...fuck it feels good... now don't expect kissing...that's gay (lol) (and why I don't like sex with straight dudes, I need kissing)
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    Sep 24, 2010 11:17 AM GMT
    [quote]sorry to get off track..but you dont look 42 at all...whats your secret? And yea stay away from him.[/quote]

    Not sure myself. But when I find out, I'm gonna bottle it and become wealthy.
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    Sep 24, 2010 11:18 AM GMT
    mohammed250 saidYou may not even take my relationship advice seriously because i am 18 but, common sense is telling me (if I was in your shoes) that since he has a girlfriend, I should leave him out of anything sexual until a) he breaks up with her, or b) he is open to her about being interested in me sexually. Then at least you will not or should not feel guilt if anything goes awkward. IF you know what I mean. You won't be the epicentre of the catastrophe if anything does happen.


    At least that is what I would do. But every man is different.


    Your advice is great and I think you are totally right!
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    Sep 24, 2010 11:20 AM GMT
    reppaT saidNo, it is not wise.

    It would be in your best interest if you tossed off immediately before you two go out (or stay in) for beers.

    If you engage him, you will lose. If it matters little, fine. If it matters at all, you will let your brain maintain control of your cock.


    This is great advice too! Especially the "toss off" before beers!
    Will do.
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    Sep 24, 2010 11:34 AM GMT
    Hey guys thanks for the great responses. Most of you were right on point.

    When he came on to me a few years ago and I rejected his drunk advance, he became very angry with me and was kinda "off and on" mean to me for a while.
    I thought I was doing him a favor but guess not. It's weird that he won't let our sexual tension go away.
    I even tried not calling but he comes after me!

    This is so weird!

    I would never initiate anything with him, I'm kinda shy about stuff like that.