should I do the HomeAccess HIV test

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    Sep 24, 2010 9:30 PM GMT
    So I'm feeling really stupid now. I had an unprotected sex and I don't know if I have aids or not. Should I do the HomgAccess HIV test?? (North Carolina don't have anonymous tests) The reason why I'm hesitating is 1. even if I know the result I can do nothing about it, right. 2. school and work are so demading, if I know I'm positive I gotta take off some time to deal with it and apparently I don't have so much time.
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    Sep 24, 2010 9:36 PM GMT
    1) how long has it been since you had unprotected sex?

    2) go to the doctors he can check you and also prescribe HIV meeds as a preventative attempt, doctors are not 100% sure if giving meds can stop you getting the HIV virus after exposure but it's an attempt

    3) go to the doctor NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Sep 25, 2010 12:48 AM GMT
    and also did you ask if the guy you had sex with was positive, or when was the last time he got tested?

    if you still on contact with the guy or know him ask him.
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    Sep 25, 2010 2:53 AM GMT
    I think you should ask yourself what is more important, taking the test anonymously or knowing your HIV status. If the home access test is the only way you feel comfortable... either way YES you should get tested! Though they recommend waiting at least 6 weeks and up to 3 months for the test to actually show positive.

    Where in North Carolina are you? What school? You might be surprised what resources there are for free/rapid testing.
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    Sep 25, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    As far as I know these home testing kits aren't reliable at all... and not FDA approved for that very reason.

    Sit back, breathe, and take this one by one.

    If you have reason to assume that the guy was positive, go to the doctor NOW and get the treatment.

    Otherwise... it takes 3 months before antibodies are detectable. Depending on where you are, maybe you can hop to a neighboring state and get an anonymous test there?
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    Sep 25, 2010 3:08 AM GMT
    I should really volunteer and teach these ignorant young folk about PEP, HIV, and AIDS................. I don't understand how so many gay men don't know anything about them. icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 25, 2010 3:09 AM GMT
    Yes! However you do it please get tested. Hopefully you are negative, but if not, it's vital to get on a treatment plan asap. Are there and gay health services in your area? Please take care of yourself! I wish you the best!
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    Sep 25, 2010 7:09 AM GMT
    If you had unprotected sex with someone who is NOT hiv+, then you wouldn't have picked up the virus. Why don't you just ask them what their status is? Unless you're an actor on Jersey Shore and you're doing it with strangers I guess.
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    Sep 25, 2010 7:13 AM GMT
    thank all of you so much... after seeing lil tank's reply I went to university's ER right away. after waiting for like 4 hours to get to see the doctor, the doctor told me 1. I have to do the blood testing in order to get the medicine. 2. the medicine is only effective within 72 hours. saying effective is kinda misleading... it's jus "decreases the possibilities." and since I fucked on sept 18th so basically if I got the virus then I'm done with it.

    driving home, I was thinking growing up people have always been so generous about the mistakes we've made. But in the adult world, we don't always get a second chance to fix em. well I know it sounds cliche. I'm so not myself today. Anyways I hope the next time when all of you who are readin this post decide to have sex, Be Safe, and Be Reponsible to your family. AIDS is not that far away from you.
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    Sep 25, 2010 7:28 AM GMT
    Dudes, a note from my doctor here! Every sexually active adult should get tested yearly for Syph and AIDS!!! Deal with it and get it done. It's quick and easy.
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    Sep 25, 2010 7:38 AM GMT
    kc524 said...
    driving home, I was thinking growing up people have always been so generous about the mistakes we've made. But in the adult world, we don't always get a second chance to fix em. well I know it sounds cliche. I'm so not myself today. Anyways I hope the next time when all of you who are readin this post decide to have sex, Be Safe, and Be Reponsible to your family. AIDS is not that far away from you.


    And just remember that no matter how a future test may turn out, there is hope for a long a full life.

    I am "proof positive". I have been living and thriving despite HIV for over 26 years. Today, HIV is a chronic manageable condition, and no longer has to be a fatal illness.

    But just because HIV is manageable, doesn't mean that everybody is in the clear. There are still other STD's, like Hepatitis C, which ARE fatal illnesses.

    Be Safe, Be Well!
    Alan
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    Sep 25, 2010 8:43 AM GMT
    You did the right thing getting tested. Just make sure you go back in 12 weeks time for a second test. If the waiting period proves to be too difficult to handle, go back after 6 weeks and ask them to test you again. Most people will have HIV antibodies by that time, and it may give you some peace of mind until it is time to do your 12 week test.

    If you see the guy you had sex with again, pull him aside and ask him if he knows his HIV status and when was the last time he was tested. If he hasn't been tested very recently, ask him to go get tested with you. It happened to me once and I asked the guy to get tested. He did, and he showed me the negative result over a cup of coffee. It took a huge weight off my shoulders. I couldn't stop thanking him enough. Today, we are friends.
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    Sep 25, 2010 9:09 AM GMT
    kc524 saidthank all of you so much... after seeing lil tank's reply I went to university's ER right away. after waiting for like 4 hours to get to see the doctor, the doctor told me 1. I have to do the blood testing in order to get the medicine. 2. the medicine is only effective within 72 hours. saying effective is kinda misleading... it's jus "decreases the possibilities." and since I fucked on sept 18th so basically if I got the virus then I'm done with it.

    driving home, I was thinking growing up people have always been so generous about the mistakes we've made. But in the adult world, we don't always get a second chance to fix em. well I know it sounds cliche. I'm so not myself today. Anyways I hope the next time when all of you who are readin this post decide to have sex, Be Safe, and Be Reponsible to your family. AIDS is not that far away from you.


    Having unprotected sex doesn't automatically mean you contracted HIV. The other guy has to have it in order for you to be infected. Even so, it would depend on whether there was anal sex, if you were the top or bottom, and tons of other factors. The highest risk would be if he has HIV and he shot a load in you.

    However, it is good to assume you can get it just from having bareback sex. This scares you out of ever doing it which is great.

    Its only been 7 days since you were potentially exposed. I believe your body doesn't develop the antibody which these tests detect until after a few weeks, for some people months. There are tests that look for the virus itself but those won't be something you can order and perform at home. Perhaps you can ask your doctor.

    I think you'll be fine whether it turns out negative or positive. I promise.
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    Sep 27, 2010 11:42 PM GMT

    While unprotected sex is a bad idea in almost every circumstance, the chances that you have been infected with HIV are low. Nevertheless, getting tested is the right thing to do. And not tested for only HIV, there are other STI's you may have been exposed to, some of which are more prevalent and/'or easier to transmit than HIV and some of which (e.g. Hepatitis C) are potentially more dangerous and less easy to treat. Hopefully, this whole experience will be a harmless learning opportunity for you. In any case, you owe it to yourself (and to your future partners) to know your STI status.

    Side note: I was appalled to see that North Carolina doesn't have anonymous testing. What's up with that? America's Taliban hard at work?
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    Sep 27, 2010 11:46 PM GMT
    I'm sure there's a clinic nearby that offers free testing. Try to find one. I don't know about this online test thingy; I'd rather have the real deal.