so I found my aunts husband on MANUNT

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    Sep 24, 2010 10:17 PM GMT
    So i was on manhunt chating and browing when i saw my aunts husband on there,his face was covered up but i knew that pic he had up of him and my aunt he just cut my aunt out.I know she doesn't know nothing about this and i never knew he was gay or bi wetever,what do i do,what would you guys do in my situation
    A.)tell me aunt
    B.)mind my own business
    C.)send him a message asking him whats up with that


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    Sep 24, 2010 10:24 PM GMT
    PRINCETONY saidSo i was on manhunt chating and browing when i saw my aunts husband on there,his face was covered up but i knew that pic he had up of him and my aunt he just cut my aunt out.I know she doesn't know nothing about this and i never knew he was gay or bi wetever,what do i do,what would you guys do in my situation
    A.)tell me aunt
    B.)mind my own business
    C.)send him a message asking him whats up with that




    C. Let him know that you saw his profile. At this point, don't threaten to spill the beans to your aunt. Let him explain himself.

    This IS your business. If he's engaging in high-risk behavior with ANYONE...regardless of gender...he could be endangering your aunt's life.

    Good luck, and keep a cool head, my brother.
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    Sep 24, 2010 10:27 PM GMT
    What is your relationship like with your aunt? If the situation were reversed what would you want someone else to do? If you do decide to tell her, be kind and non-judgmental. She could be shocked and crushed or maybe they have a private agreement and she already knows. Perhaps you can just sit down with her and give her the link prefacing it with "I don't know if this means anything but it's something I thought you should see." maybe let her decide if it's her husband or not. Just some thoughts on a hugely difficult situation. Wish you the best of luck!
  • GQjock

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    Sep 24, 2010 10:30 PM GMT
    Definitely C

    and just send him a message subtly saying that you know it's him

    Like Funny seeing you here
    or
    How's work doin Unc'?

    It gets the message across but it doesn't address the fact that he's cheating on your Aunt
    When you see him
    That's where you pull him aside and say

    We gotta talk
    and then don't say anything .... Let HIM do all the talking
    but after just let it be known if you get any Further wind of this Then you'll go to your family
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    Sep 24, 2010 10:45 PM GMT
    The humane thing to do is talk to your uncle. Don't send him a message on ManHunt. Meet him out for lunch so you two can privately talk about this. If it is not him, then you will have saved him, you, and your aunt a world of embarrassment.

    What happens from there depends on how the conversation goes. Maybe you discover they have an open relationship. Maybe you discover they no longer sleep together. Maybe you discover that you are totally wrong, and oh by the way he doesn't have a tattoo of Tweetie bird on his ass.

    If you have caught him red handed and he has been cheating do not threaten him. Council him into coming clean with his wife. Be understanding "I am gay too, as you know, and I understand how difficult it can be to come to that realization. I will help you out every step along the way. But you need to do the right thing to save Aunt Mildred more heartache."
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    Sep 25, 2010 1:07 AM GMT
    while i have no respect for people (especially married men) who cheat on their wives with men or women, it is common. The only way to be sure is to arrange a meeting with him under an alias and then confront him at the time. Catch him red handed. It is presumptuous to suggest that he is engaging in high risk behavior, that is pure speculation, as is the fact that it is him. Arrange a meeting under an alias and find out who it is.

    If you do drop the bomb you'll be the one who gets the blame for it. Right or wrong.
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Sep 25, 2010 1:14 AM GMT
    Tell your Dad...
    that should seal the deal with getting back at him.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 25, 2010 1:14 AM GMT
    I'm sure this is beside the point, but is your uncle good looking? I'm just saying.., my aunt married this crazy hot Italian guy and if I saw Him on ManHunt,..well, it's all in the family...
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    Sep 25, 2010 1:15 AM GMT
    Another thought...could someone else be using his pic?
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    Sep 25, 2010 1:20 AM GMT
    Pimp for him and charge a percentage.
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    Sep 25, 2010 1:20 AM GMT
    C.
  • d_1M

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    Sep 25, 2010 1:34 AM GMT
    C. also
    and you sure your aunt doesnt know?

    you never know!!!!
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    Sep 25, 2010 1:37 AM GMT
    is he cute?
  • dfrourke

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    Sep 25, 2010 1:38 AM GMT
    Wow.

    I quickly read through most responses...and the only thing I would add about picking option C is that when you let him know you've seen his profile, you give him a deadline to tell your aunt.

    I don't necessarily agree that you get to know "why" he has a profile on MANHUNT [that part is none of your business]. What IS your business is that your aunt is well informed about what is going on with her husband.

    Once she is well informed, she is an adult and perfectly capable of making adult decisions. She might already know, and if that is the case, [again] none of your business about their relationship.

    The deadline gives him time to tell her [if she doesn't know], but also keeps him accountable to the fact that the information will eventually end up with her...I would give him 2 weeks.

    Good luck with this one.

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  • Midas426

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    Sep 25, 2010 1:38 AM GMT
    MuscleComeBack saidTell your Dad...
    that should seal the deal with getting back at him.icon_rolleyes.gif
    LOL....this! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 25, 2010 1:38 AM GMT
    Shit I would do A especially if you don't like the husband. She needs to know, especially knowing how quickly gay men spread HIV especially the ones on the DL.
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    Sep 25, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    EccentricStud saidI'm sure this is beside the point, but is your uncle good looking? I'm just saying.., my aunt married this crazy hot Italian guy and if I saw Him on ManHunt,..well, it's all in the family...


    lmfao ewww hell no lol you guys it is him his face is covered tho but i know that pic.Well there gonna be there at the wedding tomorrow so its gonna be akward because hes a really cool guy and treats my aunt very well,they never have problems,they have no children tho my aunt cant have any and they never wanted to adopt.hes good looking in his 30's
    The thing that bothers me is if he is cheating on her he goes and sleeps with guys then comes home to my aunt i hate when guys do that or anyone its grows as hell.
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    Sep 25, 2010 1:50 AM GMT
    I would definitely opt out for sending him a message and be like wtf??? or anonymously email your family the profile lol let them decide lol
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    Sep 25, 2010 1:58 AM GMT
    C. But like everyone said, be non judgemental. And someone else raised the point that he could be putting your aunt at a health risk if he's sleeping around without protection.

    If it were me, I would take a firm hand in the situation and say "You need to tell her about this, because if you don't I will, and it will be better for everyone if it comes from you."
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    Sep 25, 2010 2:01 AM GMT
    Assuming what you're telling us is true (I'm not convinced that you're being honest), it is none of your business. Keep your mouth shut.

    On a different subject, how's that move to Miami coming along?
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    Sep 25, 2010 2:06 AM GMT
    talk to him and ask him.
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    Sep 25, 2010 2:07 AM GMT
    reppaT saidAssuming what you're telling us is true (I'm not convinced that you're being honest), it is none of your business. Keep your mouth shut.

    On a different subject, how's that move to Miami coming along?


    why do you always gotta hate do you want the link to manhunt,and its coming well thanksicon_rolleyes.gif
  • d_1M

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    Sep 25, 2010 2:08 AM GMT
    dfrourke saidWow.

    I quickly read through most responses...and the only thing I would add about picking option C is that when you let him know you've seen his profile, you give him a deadline to tell your aunt.

    I don't necessarily agree that you get to know "why" he has a profile on MANHUNT [that part is none of your business]. What IS your business is that your aunt is well informed about what is going on with her husband.

    Once she is well informed, she is an adult and perfectly capable of making adult decisions. She might already know, and if that is the case, [again] none of your business about their relationship.

    The deadline gives him time to tell her [if she doesn't know], but also keeps him accountable to the fact that the information will eventually end up with her...I would give him 2 weeks.

    Good luck with this one.

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    this practicaly telling me be a snitch droop the stone and run? wtf ?
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    Sep 25, 2010 2:08 AM GMT
    persoanlly i would eventually talk to him but without any moralizing attitude.
    he's not ready to come out yet but he may be in the process .
    I have a friend, married with two teenage kids who chatted with a young guy in NY. He finally brought it all out in the open , moved in with the boy and his wife got a new bf in no time.
    both him and his ex are in good terms still.

    so , tread lightly as we say.
    it baffles me that anyone feels entitled to inform the aunt when they have no fucking idea who and how she is .
    just go in, create a total mess and go your way, whistling away in bliss of some accomplished moral duty = irresponsible and retarded.
  • toybrian

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    Sep 25, 2010 2:14 AM GMT
    Prince,, after reading all the post on here I am shocked at how many want you to either trick him or tell him you will let your aunt know...Those that said to talk to him I agree with because he just needs to know what can happen out there...If you trick him into telling her then first you must prove he did something wrong before you tell her or you will look bad in both their eyes as well as maybe destroy a good marriage....It is a hard decision for you but I would either just talk to him on the side or ignore it and see how often you see him on there...Can he see your profile or pics of you in the same room??
    good luck to you...