Have you ever seen public displays of affection (pda's) among same sex couples, specifically two men?

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    Sep 27, 2010 3:30 PM GMT
    I was reading an obituary in the paper yesterday and a 58 year old man died after an 8 year battle with prostate cancer. He was survived by his husband and children. So sad! Every so often I see an obituary like this which mentions a same sex partner.

    It got me thinking about gay marriage in MA, how long it’s been around, yet I’ve never seen a same sex couple involved in a pda. Not even once in my entire life. At least not a male couple. One time I saw a couple holding hands, and one was definitely a woman but I was unsure if the other person was a man or a very masculine looking woman. I won't count that couple.

    Everywhere I go, whether it’s the supermarket, a mall, the beach, in line at a restaurant, theater, or some event, in a restaurant, at a sporting event, at the beach, anywhere (fill in the blank), I always see heteros holding hands, kissing, hugging. Even something as simple as a hetero couple walking their dog down the street and holding hands.

    Before you say you’ve seen pda’s among same sex couples, I’m not talking about gay cruises, gay days at Disney, pride parades, or places like P-Town or San Fran. Eliminate so-called gay places and gay events.
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    Sep 27, 2010 3:43 PM GMT
    In the DC area, one see PDAs, like handholding, hugging, and greeting with a kiss. It's kind of funny seeing a group of gays meeting and everybody has to exchange a Hello kiss/peck.
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    Sep 27, 2010 4:01 PM GMT
    I see my friends kissing and hugging eachother at the airport when the arrive or leave. My partner and I did the same, and used to walk around town holding hands after a movie "date". So, yes!
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    Sep 27, 2010 4:39 PM GMT

    To me, I find PDA between anyone, men OR women, same sex OR opposite, in poor taste. But first, let me say that a little peck on the cheek or handholding is fine.... in MY opinion.
    BUT tongue swapping and groping are totally de classe'... as I said, in MY opinion
  • rnch

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    Sep 27, 2010 4:55 PM GMT
    in marigny-bywater, the gayest neighborhood of one of the great gay cities (new orleans) of America; two guys doing PDA's is No Big Deal. icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 27, 2010 5:01 PM GMT
    Caslon15000 saidIn the DC area, one see PDAs, like handholding, hugging, and greeting with a kiss. It's kind of funny seeing a group of gays meeting and everybody has to exchange a Hello kiss/peck.


    Doesn't DC have a high gay population, like P Town or San Fran? If so, I don't mean places like that.

    Friendsrbetter said
    To me, I find PDA between anyone, men OR women, same sex OR opposite, in poor taste. But first, let me say that a little peck on the cheek or handholding is fine.... in MY opinion.
    BUT tongue swapping and groping are totally de classe'... as I said, in MY opinion


    No, I wasn't talking about tongue swapping or anything overt. I agree, that's in poor taste gay or straight. An example would be you and a partner are waiting in line at a restaurant. He's behind you, presses his chest to your back, and puts his arms around you. Or you're eating in a restaurant and he leans over the table to give you a quick peck for the hell of it, or because he liked something you just said. Just little signs of affection that straight people do all the time and nobody thinks too much of it.
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    Sep 27, 2010 5:08 PM GMT
    Only once did Dan & I kiss in a food court in an Ottawa - and that was because a straight couple was macking on each other in the food line-up and people were rolling their eyes.

    i stage whispered to Dan "kiss me!" we kissed (just a kis - not sticking our tongues down our throat just an established couple exchangng a quick kiss.
    He said "what did you do that for?"?

    I said "if they can do it, why can't we?"

    A little old lady sitting at a nearby table looked up, and smiled at us.

    The couple got REALLY embarassed and didn't even place their order - they fled - blushing.icon_twisted.gificon_lol.gif

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    Sep 27, 2010 5:59 PM GMT
    Ok, I did forget the time I saw UC on the street corner trouserless and legs in the air soliciting...hmmmm, is it still soliciting if it is free?...anyway, I digress...so he was on the corner sans pantaloons, legs in the air soliciting all comers...no pun intended. But I don't know if you would call that a PDA. I mean, it certainly was public ... and quite a display, but I don't think there was any affection in it. As far as I could see, it was wanton whoredom. But that might just be me.

    Oh this was prior to Danny so he wasn't obligated not to make himself...ummmm....available.
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    Sep 27, 2010 6:07 PM GMT
    Caslon15000 saidOk, I did forget the time I saw UC on the street corner trouserless and legs in the air soliciting...hmmmm, is it still soliciting if it is free?...anyway, I digress...so he was on the corner sans pantaloons, legs in the air soliciting all comers...no pun intended. But I don't know if you would call that a PDA. I mean, it certainly was public ... and quite a display, but I don't think there was any affection in it. As far as I could see, it was wanton whoredom. But that might just be me.

    Oh this was prior to Danny so he wasn't obligated not to make himself...ummmm....available.


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    Sep 27, 2010 6:36 PM GMT
    UpperCanadian said
    Caslon15000 saidOk, I did forget the time I saw UC on the street corner trouserless and legs in the air soliciting...hmmmm, is it still soliciting if it is free?...anyway, I digress...so he was on the corner sans pantaloons, legs in the air soliciting all comers...no pun intended. But I don't know if you would call that a PDA. I mean, it certainly was public ... and quite a display, but I don't think there was any affection in it. As far as I could see, it was wanton whoredom. But that might just be me.

    Oh this was prior to Danny so he wasn't obligated not to make himself...ummmm....available.


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    ok, I take it all back. I didn't see anything. It must have been someone else I didn't see.
  • KepaArg

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    Sep 27, 2010 6:43 PM GMT
    Back in Buenos Aires, it's normal to give a kiss on the cheek for hello and good bye (this always includes first introductions and coming into the office for work, etc and to everyone regardless if male or female). I have seen couple hold hands, make out, kiss in various locations in the country and to some extent in Uruguay.

    Where I am now in the Middle East, I do see males sometimes walking hand in hand, but I don't think of them as gay and assume it's cultural

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    Sep 27, 2010 7:05 PM GMT
    I do it. You're probably going to ask me where and then say that it doesn't count because that's a predominately gay place so why even bother.
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    Sep 27, 2010 7:07 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidI do it. You're probably going to ask me where and then say that it doesn't count because that's a predominately gay place so why even bother.


    I am sure plenty of guys would be delighted to kiss you in a gay place.
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    Sep 27, 2010 7:38 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidI do it. You're probably going to ask me where and then say that it doesn't count because that's a predominately gay place so why even bother.


    If you read what I initially wrote, in the last paragraph I explain what I was asking. In other words, if you go to Disney World on their gay day, you'll see lots of pda's amongst gay people. If you go on a gay cruise you're going to see it. If you're in San Fran you're going to see it. I was asking if you've same sex pda's at Disney, a beach, a museum, or various other places which aren't having any kind of gay day. Not sure how else to expain it.

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    Sep 27, 2010 7:45 PM GMT
    While walking along Market Street in San Francisco, I was approaching the Grand Central Backpackers Hostel when I saw these two guys emerge from a cubicle, I can't fully remember what the cubicle was, since that was in 1995, maybe it was a restroom or comfort station. I smiled to myself. I wonder what they were up to?
    Whoops! The OP wrote that he didn't intend to focus on Gay-friendly cities or venues.
    Anyway, it looks to me that according to www.hostelworld.com, Grand Central had long closed down.
    But does Gay-friendly include Battersea Park, London (1970), Circo Maximo, Rome (1973 - yes, I was backpacking way back then), inside a cave, Silwan, Israel (1976) on the Greyhound bus from Albuquerque to Los Angeles - 1978?
  • tajsreve

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    Sep 27, 2010 7:50 PM GMT
    If my boyfriend and I have been apart for awhile and we meet in the airport I kiss him, wrap my arms around him and greet him like anyone else does their love ones.... tounge and all if the mood hits us, but do I do that anywhere else... not unless it's a gay oriented area.
    My parents were not big on pda's other than an occassional kiss or hug... I don't do it any different, I guess. Although I don't think my parents have EVER done a tounge kiss. icon_eek.gif
  • Sk8Tex

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    Sep 27, 2010 7:56 PM GMT
    When I met my partner Ray we had worked together all weekend volunteering for the San Diego Pride parade. He had finally worked up the nerve to ask me out on Sunday night so we went to this place called Bourbon Street and played some pool and had a few jose cuervo shooters (with training wheels of course icon_razz.gif ie; lime.)

    Every time he had his back to me or was leaning over the pool table to take a shot I could see the fabric in his shirt stretch again his back muscles so I couldnt resist and slid my finger down the center of his back til I reached his butt. He didn't respond at all to it so I did it again on the way out of the bar and he turned around and threw his hands up in the air and shouted "You want some of this!?" lol... so I pushed him up against his car that was parked along the sidewalk, put my arms on the roof of the car on either side of his head, and started kissing him.

    Not sure how long we were standing there doing this but two guys walked by and one said "Ugh! Get a room!", to which he responded.. "Good idea!"

    We have been together ever since icon_razz.gif
  • commoncoll

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    Sep 27, 2010 8:16 PM GMT
    Last year in a Walmart in a central Texas town I saw two men walking by holding hands. They were young early, early 20s. I couldn't believe their bravery/stupidity. No one was staring. Some glanced a second time, but no one really said anything.
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    Ciarsolo saidI do it. You're probably going to ask me where and then say that it doesn't count because that's a predominately gay place so why even bother.


    I am sure plenty of guys would be delighted to kiss you in a gay place.
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    I dunno, I can get obscenely exhibitionistic with PDA. I'm kinda shameless that way.
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    Sep 27, 2010 8:28 PM GMT
    I do it when it comes naturally, in the street and subway. I see how I have evolved over the years and know that other people will learn to accept it just like hetero PDA.
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    Sep 27, 2010 10:50 PM GMT
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    Sep 27, 2010 10:54 PM GMT
    seen a lot of guys holding hands, none kissing in public. think the hand holding is really cool. keithicon_cool.gif