Are you only attracted to your own race? a certain hair color? or eye color?

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    Sep 27, 2010 5:23 PM GMT
    I'm white and only find myself sexually attracted to other white guys.
    Not just any white guys. I like dark-haired guys, who are fit, and have some body hair. Some real "blondes" I am also attracted too. But I've never found myself attracted to guys with really red/orange hair or guys with bleached out hair.

    I was talking to some gay black guy earlier and he told me I'm racist
    because I only will date within my own race pool!

    But it's not like that all. I'm seriously only attracted to white guys.
    I've never thought about having sex with a black guy or an asian guy or
    even a guy with red hair. Only white guys with dark or naturaly blonde hair
    I think about and have lustful eyes for.

    There are many attractive guys in different races but they do nothing for me.
    Does this make me racist? Ignorant? I think my attraction to white guys is
    much like my sexuality (being gay). I didn't choose to only be attracted to
    white guys with certain features, but it is what it is.

    How about you?
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    Sep 27, 2010 5:33 PM GMT
    While it might seem racist we all have our unique preferences. And if you don't like to be intimate with say a Black guy, that's your preference. You are missing some flavor in your life but is your preference.icon_wink.gif What makes it racist is if you make negative comments on top of saying you won't date Black guys or any guy from other race or religion.

    EDIT: I might add that while others are superficial and go for the abs and no brains, for me is not entirely how you look but how you present yourself. I have a wide range of taste. Just to give you an example I find Actor Ty Olsson hot and Bryan David Thomas not all.
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    Sep 27, 2010 5:52 PM GMT
    I'm the exact same way, I'm white and only attracted to other white guys. Asians, blacks, middle eastern men, etc. pretty much fall into the same category as chicks in my case. I can appreciate the sexiness but it doesn't do anything for me. Like you, I've always felt this way so I'm guessing it's hardwired that way much like your sexuality. I can understand why it could be misconstrued as racism, but it isn't at all.
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    Sep 27, 2010 5:53 PM GMT
    I'm the same way only attracted too other white guys and Latino guys. I normally find dark haired guys more attractive than blonds or red heads.
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    Sep 27, 2010 5:57 PM GMT
    I´m only attracted to hot guys.
  • Timbales

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    Sep 27, 2010 6:08 PM GMT
    I find many different 'kinds' of men attractive, depends on the guy.
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    Sep 27, 2010 6:11 PM GMT
    I'm attracted to guys with lots of green! ... icon_wink.gif

    I find it curious how a person is wired. What causes one to have such predilections?
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    Sep 27, 2010 6:16 PM GMT
    JasonRI said... Some real "blondes" I am also attracted too. ...

    Aren't "blondes" female and "blonds" male?
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    Sep 27, 2010 7:26 PM GMT
    Caslon15000 said
    JasonRI said... Some real "blondes" I am also attracted too. ...

    Aren't "blondes" female and "blonds" male?


    I have no idea, is that the case?

    I like natural blond hair, but not the dyed or bleached out hair some guys have.
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    Sep 27, 2010 9:59 PM GMT
    Racist? No.
    Ignorant? Maybe.
    Picky? Yes.

    Edit: I was referring to the OP, not myself. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 27, 2010 10:24 PM GMT
    I'm attracted to all types of guys and builds. As long as the guy has a cute face, his body can be whatever (to an extent).

    I like Dark-haired or medium blonde/brunette guys.

    I'm not in to colored/dyed hair like red/orange/silver, etc.

    I'd like to go out with a guy who has red eyes... I think that's awesome and creepy at the same time.

    Eye color isn't too big an issue for me.
  • Webster666

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    Sep 27, 2010 10:30 PM GMT
    Goodness, no.
    I don't want somebody who looks like me.

    As for racism, some white guys who prefer non black guys, exclusively, are racist.
    And, some white guys who prefer non black guys, exclusively, simply prefer non black guys, exclusively.
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    Sep 27, 2010 10:32 PM GMT
    I never used to like asian guys at all, perhaps due to the portrayal of asian gays guys in porn films.

    But ever since going to CHina I am in love with them. There are some pretty hot Chinese guys around!
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    Sep 27, 2010 10:35 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidI´m only attracted to hot guys.


    THIS , then phase two is listen to what comes from their mouth and brain, phase three gets harder....Keithicon_cool.gificon_cool.gif
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    Sep 27, 2010 11:14 PM GMT
    I just asked my mother about this and she said " People with racial dating "preferences" are stupid" LOL.

    This is coming from a white lady that has dated every race under the sun. icon_wink.gif


    For me though. I do not have a racial preference at all. People that do have a racial preference usually got their preference from something they were exposed to when they were younger.


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    Sep 27, 2010 11:16 PM GMT
    vetteset saidphase three gets harder....


    I bet it does
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    Sep 27, 2010 11:18 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo said
    vetteset saidphase three gets harder....


    I bet it does


    Ya saxy thang, not that way....lmgfao....keithicon_cool.gif
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    Sep 27, 2010 11:31 PM GMT
    Nah, based on what you said it doesn't sound like you are a racist. I think everyone has their own preference on who they find attractive. Now if you start to treat people differently because of their ethnicity then that's another story.

    I am attracted to all. Bring it! icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 28, 2010 8:19 AM GMT
    In the stream.-- Mighty waters draw much stone and rubble along with them; mighty spirits many stupid and bewildered heads.

    from Nietzsche's Human, all too Human, s.541, R.J. Hollingdale transl.
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    Sep 28, 2010 12:30 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidI´m only attracted to hot guys.


    Dammit Lostboy! You stole my thought!

    I really appreciate the "not me" types of guys. (Red heads, Blonds, Non whites.) I don't know how to explain it, but there is always some curiosity there.
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    Sep 28, 2010 3:14 PM GMT
    I'm more curious about why a hidden/deleted member creates these type of threads?
    Why do you all even bother responding to them, the topics been so hashed over
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    Sep 28, 2010 3:18 PM GMT
    My preference is for white guys but I've been with latino and mixed race white/Chinese before. Never been with a black guy, but just so happened that is because none of the ones who hit on me I found attractive.

    I think it's fine to have a preference for your own race, or particular races, I don't think that's racist at all. I prefer dark-haired guys to blonds and red heads, but that doesn't mean I would never find one of them attractive.
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    Sep 29, 2010 6:20 AM GMT
    I've always been a passive reader of this forum (not sexually though -- haha, excuse my lame attempt at a joke.) But this issue of race comes up so often that I decided to create an account and give my 2 cents.

    Is this only a matter of preference or is it racism? To some people it is racism, to some it isn't. I guess it all boils down to your definition of racism. One thing is for sure: whining about it is not going to help much. Guys like what they like and you CANNOT force them to act differently. Even if you could (imagine we lived in some crazy dystopian society where affirmative action had entered the realms of dating -- and people were forced to date every race,) would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you? I don't think so.

    Yes, it does suck if you happen to be born gay and of certain ethnicities. But it's all a matter of perspective. Imagine you were born gay in an authoritarian conservative country where homosexuality is a crime (sometimes punishable by death.) Or that you were born in a poor underdeveloped country, with no decent housing, no safe drinking water, amid civil wars, etc, etc, etc. We all have it pretty good in this country (I'm assuming most readers reside in the US -- or some other developed country,) and sometimes people seem to forget that. Just keep that mind next time you're crying about how a certain race of men doesn't hit on you, like it's the end of the world. It's not.

    Also, it seems that the guys who complain of not getting action from white men are the ones who obsess of having a white boyfriend -- and nothing else will do. Well, you need to change your mindset, because this obsession will only lead bring you heartache. You cannot change other guys minds and make them be attracted to you -- but you can change your own mentality and be open to the possibility of finding someone attracted within your own race or a third one.

    One final thing. While racial preferences also exist in the straight world (let's not be naive here,) I've never seen anything like the kind of animosity that emanates from some gay men when approached -- whether online or in person -- by a person from a certain race they're not interested in. You go to a straight bar and everyone, regardless of color, seems to get along fine and have a good time. But in a gay bar, if someone of a certain race only dares look at someone who doesn't happen to be into that race, he sometimes gets the coldest, deadliest look someone could imagine. If online, the other person simply will not respond. This is not limited to white men. It can also happen with other races (eg. a gay black man gives a friendly look to a gay asian who's obsessed with white boys, and gets the death stare.) Why is that? What happened to just giving a smile? It can be an awkward, shy smile. It doesn't have to be a big smile -- you don't want to give the wrong idea, that's fine. Or, if online, a short courtesy reply. You can have your preferences regarding race, that's fine. But BE KIND TO EVERYONE. Is that so hard to do?

    I'm not religious at all, but karma IS a bitch. Sooner or later, all that hatred and bigotry will catch up with those who foster it.


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    Oct 20, 2010 8:34 AM GMT
    NickFit saidMy preference is for white guys but I've been with latino and mixed race white/Chinese before. Never been with a black guy, but just so happened that is because none of the ones who hit on me I found attractive.

    I think it's fine to have a preference for your own race, or particular races, I don't think that's racist at all. I prefer dark-haired guys to blonds and red heads, but that doesn't mean I would never find one of them attractive.



    I guess i need to come to UK to Hit you on then icon_biggrin.gif
  • Buddha

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    Oct 20, 2010 11:35 AM GMT
    I'm also mostly attracted to white guys; I'm wondering if it's a cultural thing. I used to attracted to white guys exclusively but as time passed by I found myself being attracted to other ethnicities as well. Ironically, it's my own race I'm most seldomly attracted to.