LIFE CHANGING EVENTS?

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    Sep 27, 2010 6:10 PM GMT
    We all have those moments in our lives where we say to ourselves: There was my life BEFORE that happened, and my life CHANGED forever AFTER that moment....

    For some people it can be a car accident, a sudden death or deaths in the family, crime committed that leads to jail time, being maliciously Outed, losing a job suddenly, Parents getting divorced, heart-attack or medical issues, etc...

    At times I can be a little self-centered but then I hear about some event or events that others have overcome and it puts things in perspective that we ALL go through tough times.

    I'm not sure if this thread will get many replies, but I thought it'd be interesting to share stories of LIFE CHANGING EVENTS for us that have defined who we now are today (for better or for worse) compared to the person we were before that moment.


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    Sep 27, 2010 6:14 PM GMT
    I'm on week #5 of sciatica with no sign of improvement.
    Neurosurgeon appointment scheduled for first week of October, but I don't have high hopes.
    I've almost accepted the fact that this is permanent, so I'll have to find a new career that does NOT require any sitting or lifting.
    As for working out, I can do some upper body stuff, but no legs or anything that will put any pressure on my lower back (no standing exercises with weight).

    Suicide has already crossed my mind a few times.
    I'd trade this for HIV... ANY day!
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    Sep 27, 2010 6:17 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI'm on week #5 of sciatica with no sign of improvement.
    Neurosurgeon appointment scheduled for first week of October, but I don't have high hopes.
    I've almost accepted the fact that this is permanent, so I'll have to find a new career that does NOT require any sitting or lifting.
    As for working out, I can do some upper body stuff, but no legs or anything that will put any pressure on my lower back (no standing exercises with weight).

    Suicide has already crossed my mind a few times.
    I'd trade this for HIV... ANY day!


    I guess I'm trying to ask what was it like when you FIRST got the diagnosis? Or first showed symptoms that let you know something may have been wrong?
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    Sep 27, 2010 6:20 PM GMT
    Indy404 saidI guess I'm trying to ask what was it like when you FIRST got the diagnosis? Or first showed symptoms that let you know something may have been wrong?
    That's hard to say because I'm still in the beginning stages of it...haven't gotten all the medical info I need yet. But it still changed my life already. I had put EVERYTHING I had into aviation as a career, and now I cannot do that anymore...possibly never. I'll have to wait for the neurosurgeon's opinion before the final decision is made. However, due to the cost of neurosurgeons, I won't be able to afford a 2nd opinion, so whatever he says will be law.
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    Sep 27, 2010 6:21 PM GMT
    There was the day my iPod died! ... icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 27, 2010 6:25 PM GMT
    For me, when I was 12 my father was fighting a losing battle to Cancer...He eventually died. I started having questions about God being that my family was somewhat religious and prayed a lot during his illness. I never got the answers I wanted. It was always just a "God works in mysterious ways" and "You will NEVER understand why God does what he does" type answer. I wasn't angry at God, I just wanted to understand this logic in that a good man that took care of his family could die slowly from Cancer while criminal deadbeats could go on living and enjoying life. Also, how did this death benefit my now widowed mother raising 2 young boys on her own. I guess that was when I started becoming an Atheist...at 13 years old...

    At that age I was just getting a sense that I may be Gay. So now I was a confused teenager that had no positive male role model and had to see my mother scrape by from the now single income. That was one big life changing event for me.
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    Sep 27, 2010 6:39 PM GMT
    For me is the lost of income. The lifestyle I had versus the lifestyle I currently have now. It's been very difficult to re-adjust, and I don't think I ever will. Getting rid off properties in order to survive has been hard. I have had always a strong temper but now it seems I flip off very easy. I tend to fall into mini-depressions whenever I see cars on the roads that I use to own too or go to Walmart instead of shopping exclusively at Costco and Publix. At the beginning of the year I contemplated suicide, but Then I thought That would be selfish of me to terminate my own existence without thinking the burden that I would had brought over my family.
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    Sep 27, 2010 6:39 PM GMT
    My story is in my profile.


    Paul - been there. Still there. More imortantly, ièm still HERE.

    You will be all over the emotional map for a long time.

    There are a lot of issues of identity and feelings of self-worth involved.

    You already acknowledged occasional suicidal thoughts.

    Keep acknowledging them

    Please do not hide them.

    The best preparation I can give you is you are about to feel like a teenager again (but not in a good way) - especially if you become dependent upon others to drive for you.

    Repeat to yourself. pilot is what I DID - it is not what I WAS.
    You wil go through a period of trying to figure out who you are now.

    Anytime those thoughts start to whisper in your ear - please reach out. We won' let you fall.


    Do not go gentle into that goodnight
    Rage, Rage against the dying of the light.


    your life is not over - just Act 1.
    act 2 will be hell, but there IS an Act 3... Act 4... Act 5 before you ri8ng down the curtain.


    (I'm 10 years ahead of yo on the journey you have just begun. I'll help you, if you need me to hold up a light from time to time.

    Caslon did it for me. I owe it to him to pay it forward.

    Trevor & Danny






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    Sep 27, 2010 6:45 PM GMT
    What is sciatica?
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    Sep 27, 2010 6:48 PM GMT
    Caslon15000 saidWhat is sciatica?


    Sciatica (or sciatic neuritis)[1] is a set of symptoms including pain that may be caused by general compression and/or irritation of one of five spinal nerve roots that give rise to each sciatic nerve, or by compression or irritation of the left or right or both sciatic nerves. The pain is felt in the lower back, buttock, and/or various parts of the leg and foot. In addition to pain, which is sometimes severe, there may be numbness, muscular weakness, pins and needles or tingling and difficulty in moving or controlling the leg. Typically, the symptoms are only felt on one side of the body.

    Although sciatica is a relatively common form of low back pain and leg pain, the true meaning of the term is often misunderstood. Sciatica is a set of symptoms rather than a diagnosis for what is irritating the root of the nerve, causing the pain. This point is important, because treatment for sciatica or sciatic symptoms will often be different, depending upon the underlying cause of the symptoms.

    In short - he is learning to live with chronic excruciating pain.

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    Sep 27, 2010 6:55 PM GMT
    UpperCanadian said

    Caslon did it for me. I owe it to him to pay it forward.

    Trevor & Danny

    oh, it t'werent nuthin' I figure every minute I've spent with you will count towards MY TIME IN HELL!
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    Sep 27, 2010 7:02 PM GMT
    UpperCanadian said ... learning to live with chronic excruciating pain.

    oh hell, in Virginia, we call that having a bf! ... icon_eek.gif

    Not making fun of your pain, Paul. I hope they can eliminate the cause so you can get back to your old life.
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    Sep 27, 2010 10:01 PM GMT
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    UpperCanadian said ... learning to live with chronic excruciating pain.

    oh hell, in Virginia, we call that having a bf! ... icon_eek.gif
    That ain't just Virginia. icon_lol.gif

    Caslon15000 saidNot making fun of your pain, Paul. I hope they can eliminate the cause so you can get back to your old life.
    Depending on how things go over the next few weeks, I might not want it back.
    I've been spending all day today doing some work on my paysite, flex-studio.com...creating video clips for advertisement pages to start marketing the fuck out of it (never put much time into marketing before...very time consuming and mundane). If it kicks off with a good profit, I'll say "fuck aviation" and go into full-time production. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 27, 2010 10:10 PM GMT
    I tore a muscle in my shoulder in 97 and suffer from chronic pain daily. I suffer from myofascial subscapular pain syndrome. Then was diagnosed with MS I hurt everyday 7 days a week. It's very tough living in pain daily.
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    Sep 27, 2010 10:41 PM GMT
    Every time I've moved, every boyfriend/partner I've had, many of the friends I've met, every job I've had, working out, and injuries, have all been life changing events. Also, in somewhat smaller ways, when I've found a great barber, chiropractor, etc. it has been a significant change in my life.
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    Sep 27, 2010 10:47 PM GMT
    After Crystal Pepsi nothing was ever the same...
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    Sep 27, 2010 10:48 PM GMT
    i had my first total sexual experience, sober and wide awake this weekend with a guy, and finally validated my ticket. Life changing is just the start of it- liberating, ecstatic, peaceful, loving, i could go on, but i finally found me after all these years, i'm home. Keithicon_cool.gif