Bullied for Being Gay - 13 yr old hangs himself

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    Sep 27, 2010 11:06 PM GMT
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    September 27th, 2010


    TEHACHAPI -- Friends and neighbors of Tehachapi 13-year-old who attempted suicide Sunday, Sept. 19, said the boy is openly gay and was taunted by bullies for years, at school and at a local park.

    The bullying might have been what led him to try to take his own life, friends said. The boy hanged himself at his own home from a tree and has been on life support since Sept. 19, according to the Tehachapi Police Department.

    He previously attended Jacobsen Middle School, but was put on independent study this year. Friends said he was still bullied outside of school for being gay and bisexual, but he didn't tell close friends how the bullying affected him.

    Police said they are investigating whether the attempted suicide was linked to bullying.

    District administrators said they have no reports of the teen being bullied at school, but they take bullying very seriously and address the issue multiple times throughout the school year.

    But some parents said the school hasn't done enough to prevent bullying and they are concerned about their children's safety at school.

    Jacobsen Middle School has provided grief counselors to students all week, but students said morale is low even for those who didn't know the teen well.
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    Sep 27, 2010 11:10 PM GMT
    The family of a 13-year-old Tehachapi boy who attempted suicide on Sunday, Sept. 19, has issued a statement asking for privacy.The statement was sent to the Tehachapi News on behalf of Seth, Wendy Walsh and family.“Seth is a 13-year-old kind-hearted boy whom is fighting for his life in a coma in ICU in critical condition,” the faxed message reads. “The circumstances which led to Seth’s current condition are neither his family’s nor his friend’s focus at this time. Seth’s family is simply requesting respect for their privacy, positive support and prayers for Seth!”The family’s message continued: “A negative action... by adults and children... will not solve or help anyone! Violence is not the answer. Please everyone, be kind and love one another!”Monetary donations to assist are being accepted at Union Bank of California, the Seth Walsh Faith Fund. Out-of-town donations may be sent to Jamie Phillips, c/o Seth Walsh, P.O. Box 94, Tehachapi, CA 93581. Make checks payable to Wendy Walsh.Meals for the family are being coordinated by Cheryl Lutge Stephens. Those wanting to help can call her at 972-2171.
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    Sep 27, 2010 11:27 PM GMT
    It's common. I had 12 years of relentless hell growing up (Ahhh grade school, middle school, and high school). Physical, emotional and psychological abuse day in and day out. I poured me a glass of bleach once but I didn't drink it.
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    Sep 27, 2010 11:28 PM GMT
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    This is the worst kind of news to read. period.

    13...fuck the kid was so brave to come out that early too.

    Are there any sites that are the essence of Realjock (gay oriented, not fitness oriented) but are geared toward teens and coming out? There needs to be and it should be HEAVILY advertised. These kids need an outlet.

    I was fucked with in high school too, but I never thought I was the misfit. I just thought everyone else was evil and I was in the wrong place.
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    Sep 27, 2010 11:44 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidIt's common. I had 12 years of relentless hell growing up (Ahhh grade school, middle school, and high school). Physical, emotional and psychological abuse day in and day out. I poured me a glass of bleach once but I didn't drink it.


    I did the same thing as a kid. I was bullied every day from 2nd grade until my sophomore year of high school. When I was 11-12 I poured a glass of bleach and tried to swallow it. Thankfully I threw up before it even hit my throat and I just had a chemical burn on my tongue and lips for a few weeks.
    I never told anyone that before. But the story was so similar I felt like sharing.

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    Sep 27, 2010 11:53 PM GMT
    Oh my God
    This is horrible I don't care how old these kids are
    I truly hope this haunts them for the rest of their living lives

    For this child to have to be taken out of school and then to have it continue to this point it had to be relentless
    What kind of monster kids are these people breeding???
    Very sad
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    Sep 28, 2010 12:16 AM GMT
    it really sucks, and it is common. needing to belong and being alienated is destructive to your mind and soul. I read about this kind of stuff all the time and it is really sad and depressing.
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    Sep 28, 2010 12:17 AM GMT
    This reminds me of another horrible event that happened a few years ago!




    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m73I5klLVgU
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    Sep 28, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    Man, this sucks. What a fucked up situation.

    This is exactly why there are so many closeted guys out there.
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    Sep 28, 2010 12:52 AM GMT
    This really is fucked up. But the teachers, administrators, etc. should have put an end to this shit. It is a damn shame that the parents had to take their child out of the school and do independent study.

    But my boyfriend and I were talking about this. I think that gay kids need to realize that they can fight back. Taking your own life is not an option. If a kid is bullying you, get a book and go upside their fucking head. All it takes is one good beatdown and for the kids to realize that they are fucking with the wrong kid for them to realize that that shit doesn't fly.
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    Sep 28, 2010 1:45 AM GMT
    Hearing things like this just infuriates me! Kids in school, even pre-teens and barely teens, are bullied mercilessly to the point of thinking suicide is the best way to make it stop.

    Yet "family" organizations like Focus on the Family and the American Family Institute insist that school anti-bullying programs should NOT specifically address bullying directed toward gay and lesbian students (or those perceived to be gay and lesbian). But that's a demographic that precisely needs protection from bullying.

    Thankfully many educators understand this and are sympathetic. But all too many ignorant self-appointed guardians of public morality think that even acknowledging that children of this age can possibly be gay/lesbian is a detestable notion.

    They are out of touch. I'm a firm advocate of Dan Savage's approach at this point. GLBT youth need to hear the message that "It Gets Better". If their bigot parents or the religious right doesn't like it, fuck 'em. One more youth suicide is one too many.
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    Sep 28, 2010 3:44 AM GMT
    I came out at 15 and ended up dropping out of highschool my junior year. It was hell and I wouldn't wish it on anybody.
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    Sep 28, 2010 3:48 AM GMT
    I came out at 12, and had a very easy time doing so. A very loving family, and a loving grpoup of friends. I left them for highschool, And found an even more loving and accepting group. I used to run events around ontario,. with the governments help, about homosexuality and acceptance.

    There are a numnber of websites, which i really wish were more popular.
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    Sep 28, 2010 3:54 AM GMT
    Jake and everyone -

    The Trevor Project is a beacon in the darkness for youth around the country...

    helping kids come out online, find resources for help and connecting with gay straight alliances...


    but most of all The Trevor Project is the nation's suicide hotline for LGBTQ youth.

    Visit:
    www.thetrevorproject.org


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    Sep 28, 2010 3:55 AM GMT
    This story reminds us that all of us, regardless of our age, need positive mentors and support groups to help us in the coming out process and with countering the isolation we can feel when we lack friends who are gay and/or bisexual. I would like to encourage all of us guys to start or join organizations, groups, or helplines in our own communities. A group of my friends started such a network in West Michigan a year ago where we plan dinners, recreational events, social outings, book clubs, discussion groups etc. It has really taken off!!
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    Sep 28, 2010 4:00 AM GMT
    Children today can be extremely cruel. It comes from upbringing. The parents are to blame for this. Don't give him/her a Wii and forget about it. Teach your children not only the basics but kindness and tolerance towards others and they will productive adults.
  • Vaughn

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    Sep 28, 2010 7:32 AM GMT
    I know someone who did that right after he came out to his parents. He was away at college and they were going to cut him off.
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    Sep 28, 2010 7:42 AM GMT
    This is really sad icon_sad.gif I was never picked on in H.S. people were scared of me they did talk about me behind my back but the way I see if you don't have the balls to say it to my face then I don't have the time to care.
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    Sep 28, 2010 9:00 AM GMT
    I grew up in Bakersfield, which is also Kern County, and the redneck lifestyle was bad enough there in the "big" city. Tehachapi is even more in the boonies / desert, so I couldn't even imagine being openly gay there, and at 13 - wow.

    Suicidal thoughts were pretty commonplace in middle / high school. Somehow I held on to the thought that things would get better once I left, and thankfully they did.
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    Sep 28, 2010 10:27 AM GMT
    Here's another one
    Boy Cheerleader Tyler Wilson Won't Quit Despite Arm Broken by Bullies

    http://abcnews.go.com/TheLaw/boy-cheerleader-stop-arm-broken-bullies/story?id=11737544&page=2
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    Sep 28, 2010 10:48 AM GMT
    Balljunkie saidThis really is fucked up. But the teachers, administrators, etc. should have put an end to this shit. It is a damn shame that the parents had to take their child out of the school and do independent study.



    The problem is when half the schools in the US are somewhere in the bible belt and half those adults beleive that gay kids get what they deserve for going against god's way. Kids don't learn homophobia from each other, they learn it from adults
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    Sep 28, 2010 1:34 PM GMT
    Read a follow up story on the way to work:

    He was just a child.

    http://www.queerty.com/shock-gay-texas-13-year-old-asher-brown-shoots-himself-in-the-head-after-horrific-school-torment-20100928/

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    RIP Asher
  • rioriz

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    Sep 28, 2010 1:41 PM GMT
    This kind of stuff makes me sick...so sad
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    Sep 28, 2010 1:53 PM GMT
    This is really upsetting... this story hits WAY too close to home for me. I (a guy who also has the first name Seth) came close a couple of times at 13 to killing myself over the same thing... and I wasn't even out or had a clue then that I was gay.
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    Sep 28, 2010 2:03 PM GMT
    SAHEM62896 saidThis is really upsetting... this story hits WAY too close to home for me. I (a guy who also has the first name Seth) came close a couple of times at 13 to killing myself over the same thing... and I wasn't even out or had a clue then that I was gay.


    Wait... there are two gay 13 years old that committed yesterday?!? Do the articles have this boys name mixed up or is this world just seriously fucked up?