Why are you a Top or a Bottom

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    Sep 28, 2010 10:14 AM GMT
    Most of you know i'm new in this traffic lane. Last weekend I got my cherry popped as a top, a fulfilling and ticket validating experience. Being in a straight role all my life, I guess Iunderstand the top role, but I'd really be interested in why you guys prefer what you do. I had an interesting question and answer with my partner after the steam subsided....well guys, why? Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Sep 28, 2010 10:43 AM GMT
    Getting your prostate slammed into repeatedly feels great.

    That's why
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    Sep 28, 2010 10:56 AM GMT
    I suppose because I'm generally quite a controlled person, I prefer to top because I feel I have more control than bottoming, and I'm the active partner and 'doing' something as opposed to having something done to me.
  • massbuildah

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    Sep 28, 2010 11:02 AM GMT


    I love both, I like to experience pleasure both ways

    But i don't really like the labels "top" and "bottom" because I don't necessarily think you have to give up control to be on the receiving end!
    ...sometimes it's nice to give up control and just get nailed!
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    Sep 28, 2010 11:24 AM GMT
    I like to do both and I prefer partners who also like to do both. If someone is 100% top or 100% bottom I generally do not invite them back for a second time.
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    Sep 28, 2010 12:11 PM GMT
    God gave me a clitoris in my anus.
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    Sep 28, 2010 12:14 PM GMT
    I prefer to bottom! I guess I had a really good doc give me a circumcision at birth. Really managed to cut most (if not all) of the pleasure nerves so that topping a guy isn't all that magical. Its actually pretty desensitized, which is great for the receiver as I can go a loooong time without cumming. Yet all the nerves are still there in the ass. And it feels absolutely amazing to get fucked. So from the pleasure stand point, I most definitely enjoy to bottom.

    But what really sux is that oral, hand jobs, etc are also desensitized. I love to make a guy cum but its VERY difficult for a guy to make me cum. But being a bottom doesn't exactly make you passive... I really like to be a "take charge" bottom. Nothing like tying your partner up to the bed post, work his body, then ride him to near climax, and then jump off and work the nipples or taint. Then jump on the ride again, and again, and again, all the while he is at your mercy to cum.
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    Sep 28, 2010 12:19 PM GMT
    I'm both, but i bottom a lot more, I think it is about giving up control the most, not that it doesn't feel good when it is in, though i love being teased before things commence
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    Sep 28, 2010 12:45 PM GMT
    I like both.
    I like giving my body for another man's pleasure and accepting that gift.

    Reading all this made me horny.
    Again.
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    Sep 28, 2010 1:05 PM GMT
    NoCityGuy saidI prefer to bottom! I guess I had a really good doc give me a circumcision at birth. Really managed to cut most (if not all) of the pleasure nerves so that topping a guy isn't all that magical. Its actually pretty desensitized, which is great for the receiver as I can go a loooong time without cumming. Yet all the nerves are still there in the ass. And it feels absolutely amazing to get fucked. So from the pleasure stand point, I most definitely enjoy to bottom.

    But what really sux is that oral, hand jobs, etc are also desensitized. I love to make a guy cum but its VERY difficult for a guy to make me cum. But being a bottom doesn't exactly make you passive... I really like to be a "take charge" bottom. Nothing like tying your partner up to the bed post, work his body, then ride him to near climax, and then jump off and work the nipples or taint. Then jump on the ride again, and again, and again, all the while he is at your mercy to cum.


    Stud: U r sadistic!!! lol And that's HOT!!!
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    Sep 28, 2010 1:44 PM GMT
    fastfreddie saidI like to do both and I prefer partners who also like to do both. If someone is 100% top or 100% bottom I generally do not invite them back for a second time.


    Slut! lol icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 28, 2010 1:45 PM GMT
    I am a top, i prefer to be inside rather than be penetrated. I like having the control and I like performing in bed.

    I have bottomed only in one relationship because I cared about the guy. Outside of that, my experience was too much prep time, its cleaner and easier to just remain in the top role, and I like it best that way.

    I don't think anyone should be put down because they prefer one role over another. Its a matter of preference, just like I don't like coffee, but you do.

    I like to perform in bed, it excites me to power top and pleasure another man who enjoys being in the bottom role.

    Mild to wild, I can be dominant or be slow and deliberate, just because I like one role doesn't mean I can' be creative and take on many shades of the same color.



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    Sep 28, 2010 1:59 PM GMT
    CaliBoySwag saidI am a top, i prefer to be inside rather than be penetrated. I like having the control and I like performing in bed.

    I have bottomed only in one relationship because I cared about the guy. Outside of that, my experience was too much prep time, its cleaner and easier to just remain in the top role, and I like it best that way.

    I don't think anyone should be put down because they prefer one role over another. Its a matter of preference, just like I don't like coffee, but you do.

    I like to perform in bed, it excites me to power top and pleasure another man who enjoys being in the bottom role.

    Mild to wild, I can be dominant or be slow and deliberate, just because I like one role doesn't mean I can' be creative and take on many shades of the same color.






    I'm a bottom because there are tops out there like this.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Sep 28, 2010 2:02 PM GMT
    There's no such thing as a "Straight role." Your likes are your likes regardless of sexuality.

    I LOVE IT ALL and all positions. Sex is suppose to be getting to know someone physically and understanding each other intimately whether it's 1 on 1 OR 1 on 1 on 1 or etc. Sex is fun and NOT A CHORE.

    BTW ... what's my true position ... HORNY. Whatever feels awesome at that time is what I'll be doing. icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 28, 2010 2:02 PM GMT
    NoCityGuy saidI prefer to bottom! I guess I had a really good doc give me a circumcision at birth. Really managed to cut most (if not all) of the pleasure nerves so that topping a guy isn't all that magical. Its actually pretty desensitized, which is great for the receiver as I can go a loooong time without cumming. Yet all the nerves are still there in the ass. And it feels absolutely amazing to get fucked. So from the pleasure stand point, I most definitely enjoy to bottom.

    But what really sux is that oral, hand jobs, etc are also desensitized. I love to make a guy cum but its VERY difficult for a guy to make me cum. But being a bottom doesn't exactly make you passive... I really like to be a "take charge" bottom. Nothing like tying your partner up to the bed post, work his body, then ride him to near climax, and then jump off and work the nipples or taint. Then jump on the ride again, and again, and again, all the while he is at your mercy to cum.


    just dont masturbate for a few weeks, I promise the sensitivity will come back
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    Sep 28, 2010 2:11 PM GMT
    love both... I'm more into my partner enjoying himself and getting him off....
  • Red_Marx30

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    Sep 28, 2010 3:00 PM GMT
    ]This is the closest thing to a war I thought. I like to be Top because I enjoy dominate, giving pain and pleasure on bed. I recognize that be clumsy and dork but is part of dinamic. Usually likes me rough sex when goes to conquer. Bottomed to myself, eeeehh??? Just sometimes when I feel very very pissed off and want some challenge to down my adrenaline. It just for couple of minutes. Pain with pain, things can be solve
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    Sep 28, 2010 3:05 PM GMT
    I am a bottom because i like to be submissive. i take pleasure in being slightly dominated and penetrated as well as to use my mouth a lot. icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 28, 2010 3:40 PM GMT
    I like both equally. When I see a nice ass I just want to pound that ass till the guy feels satisfied. When I see a hot take charge guy, I love to bottom.
    But either way am not passive, I love to be passionate and feel the other guy close to my body. When he is sweating badly I know I have done a good job. icon_biggrin.gif
  • liftordie

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    Sep 28, 2010 3:43 PM GMT
    TOP only i like to be the dominant in control one. how hard how deep how fast or rather slow cuz i prefer to fuck slowwwwwly i'm jus sayin!!
  • JESIE

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    Sep 28, 2010 3:47 PM GMT
    i like to bottom b/c I am pleaser. I like to be dominated and I'm good at it ;D
  • rnch

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    Sep 28, 2010 3:51 PM GMT
    rbdude79 saidDefinitely like to do both and prefer to be with guys who are willing to do both.
    YESSSSS!!! my kinda guy!! icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 28, 2010 3:55 PM GMT
    Because my boyfriend won't bottom.
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    Sep 28, 2010 4:06 PM GMT
    Bottom cos I like it. LOVE pleasing my man. Plus, I'm usually the one in control at work and in my social life so I like giving up that control.
    But I can be very aggressive at being a bottom as well. A bottom can just as well fuck the top while receiving his cock in the ass.

    Too bad I am in bottom central!!! icon_cry.gif
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    Sep 28, 2010 5:02 PM GMT
    I'm more gifted out back than I am out front lol.

    Plus I like the ideas of a guys using me to plesure himself... I'd rather the other guy be in control. I'm attracted to dominant guys.