May/December relationships..What's your Experience

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    Sep 28, 2010 7:28 PM GMT
    If you've read my profile, you know I'm into younger guys, but I qualify that by requiring them to be mature beyond their years. To me there is nothing sexier than a young good looking guy who can carry on good stimulating conversation and also identify with some of the things I like as well. I love to find out from him about his world and share mine. I had a date this weekend that was 18. He wasn't a hookup...he loves Sinatra, Buble, doesn't like guys his own age because of the maturity level, short: he's an older guy in a younger body. I loved being with him.

    What about you guys, how has your experience been with a younger OR older partner, I'd really be interested in your input.....Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Sep 28, 2010 8:41 PM GMT
    vetteset saidIf you've read my profile, you know I'm into younger guys, but I qualify that by requiring them to be mature beyond their years. To me there is nothing sexier than a young good looking guy who can carry on good stimulating conversation and also identify with some of the things I like as well. I love to find out from him about his world and share mine. I had a date this weekend that was 18. He wasn't a hookup...he loves Sinatra, Buble, doesn't like guys his own age because of the maturity level, short: he's an older guy in a younger body. I loved being with him.

    What about you guys, how has your experience been with a younger OR older partner, I'd really be interested in your input.....Keithicon_cool.gif


    that's me. i like older guys because they are mature, are very experienced, they can help me with advice. i have many in common with 40 year old men i like how the conversations go almost every time and they make me feel more secure that young ones.

    i've only been with men that could have been my fathers (well, only two) and i enjoyed my time with them
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    Sep 28, 2010 9:37 PM GMT
    The only downside was after the steam settled he looked over and said " I just fucked somebody 3 years older than my dad" He didn't mean to hurt me, i think it just hit him...well my Johnson stick fell pretty fast....keithicon_cool.gif
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    Sep 28, 2010 10:16 PM GMT
    vetteset saidIf you've read my profile, you know I'm into younger guys, but I qualify that by requiring them to be mature beyond their years. To me there is nothing sexier than a young good looking guy who can carry on good stimulating conversation and also identify with some of the things I like as well. I love to find out from him about his world and share mine. I had a date this weekend that was 18. He wasn't a hookup...he loves Sinatra, Buble, doesn't like guys his own age because of the maturity level, short: he's an older guy in a younger body. I loved being with him.

    What about you guys, how has your experience been with a younger OR older partner, I'd really be interested in your input.....Keithicon_cool.gif



    That guy sounds like me... icon_biggrin.gif I'm the reverse of you, basically the young guy you dated. I'm into guys who are much older than me because they are generally more mature than guys in their young 20s and younger.

    The guy I'm dating right now is 34 ... a good 10+ years older than me. He's definitely my type and he gets me. I guess that's not a huge gap in age, but the ones who were 40+ turned out to be flakes looking for quickees.icon_cry.gif
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    Sep 28, 2010 11:14 PM GMT
    I know of some guys who are only into really older guys, and it works for them, one couple i know have a "dad/son" relationship and they are perfectly happy together and with each other.

    But guys are guys, the younger guys that I've been with were only into my body or my cock, age was irrelevant.

    Those relationships last for 6 months or a year or longer but never last. But then, they do keep coming back in a FWB situation, and sometimes I just cut them off and sometimes I don't.

    Overall, I'd say no, they don't work over a long term. Take it for what its worth and enjoy it for what its worth.
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    Sep 28, 2010 11:22 PM GMT
    They can be fun.........but they'll bite you in the @ss every time!
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    Sep 28, 2010 11:24 PM GMT
    CaliBoySwag said

    Overall, I'd say no, they don't work over a long term.


    Which is the conclusion I've come to, very quite recently. I would ideally be in a relationship with an older man (by older I mean 20-30 years older than me, so mid 40's to mid 50's but I don't discount 60's). However I've come to find out, with infallibility, that if an older man takes an interest with me he sees me as something quite temporary. And I can't have that anymore. Because I have no interest in beginning something with a proximal end. So I'm now forced to shut off that spectrum completely.
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    Sep 29, 2010 12:00 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo said
    CaliBoySwag said

    Overall, I'd say no, they don't work over a long term.


    Which is the conclusion I've come to, very quite recently. I would ideally be in a relationship with an older man (by older I mean 20-30 years older than me, so mid 40's to mid 50's but I don't discount 60's). However I've come to find out, with infallibility, that if an older man takes an interest with me he sees me as something quite temporary. And I can't have that anymore. Because I have no interest in beginning something with a proximal end. So I'm now forced to shut off that spectrum completely.


    That's disappointing to hear. I always thought it was the other way around, that the younger guy got tired of his mate and dumped him. I think there is an insecurity sometimes with the older partner worrying about the relationship ending because of this.

    I guess it depends a lot on the commitment from both sides, but being a monogamous and one to one kinda guy, I see it from both sides and gay or straight, it takes two to tango.

    So Ciarsolo, come to Kelowna, ditch SD and together we shall pen that missive......Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Sep 29, 2010 12:16 AM GMT
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    That's disappointing to hear. I always thought it was the other way around, that the younger guy got tired of his mate and dumped him. I think there is an insecurity sometimes with the older partner worrying about the relationship ending because of this.

    I guess it depends a lot on the commitment from both sides, but being a monogamous and one to one kinda guy, I see it from both sides and gay or straight, it takes two to tango.

    So Ciarsolo, come to Kelowna, ditch SD and together we shall pen that missive......Keithicon_cool.gif


    I don't know, Keith. Bite me once, shame on you. Bite me 8 times, shame on me icon_wink.gif But I wouldn't lump you with my previous bad experiences. For all I know I was just unbearable to be with icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 29, 2010 12:23 AM GMT
    vetteset said
    Ciarsolo said
    CaliBoySwag said

    Overall, I'd say no, they don't work over a long term.


    Which is the conclusion I've come to, very quite recently. I would ideally be in a relationship with an older man (by older I mean 20-30 years older than me, so mid 40's to mid 50's but I don't discount 60's). However I've come to find out, with infallibility, that if an older man takes an interest with me he sees me as something quite temporary. And I can't have that anymore. Because I have no interest in beginning something with a proximal end. So I'm now forced to shut off that spectrum completely.


    That's disappointing to hear. I always thought it was the other way around, that the younger guy got tired of his mate and dumped him. I think there is an insecurity sometimes with the older partner worrying about the relationship ending because of this.

    I guess it depends a lot on the commitment from both sides, but being a monogamous and one to one kinda guy, I see it from both sides and gay or straight, it takes two to tango.

    So Ciarsolo, come to Kelowna, ditch SD and together we shall pen that missive......Keithicon_cool.gif


    It usually is the other way around. But I did break up with a younger guy that I loved partly to set him free and partly to avoid the inevitable. I retgret that now, in retrospect.
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    Sep 29, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    i'm now in my 50's, don't look for guys in their 20's or 30's, but that seems to be what is working for me right now. some of it is because i am active in sports where i meet younger guys, and also that i do a lot of work with new ventures with young entrepreneurs, but what starts as a friendly, mentor situation seems to turn into a sexual connection that is fun, and pretty durable. i'm happily married with kids, so the guys know that it is not going to be a primary emotional relationship. but i have now had 3 "relationships" with younger guys: one guy was 24 when i met him and it lasted for 4 years (he decided he wanted a full time bf); one guy was 22 and it lasted for a year (he met a girl he is now living with); and i am now in one with a 26 year old. nothing dad/son about it, just a younger/older dynamic that seems to work for us.
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    Sep 29, 2010 1:08 AM GMT
    Everyone's been younger than me. first bf was just a year younger and that lasted a year. everyone else was 10 years or more in age difference. At 36 I dated an 18 year old that one only lasted a few months. Its fun dating them at the time but they never led to long term and like someone else said will bite you in the ass.. I always got the same speech from them, how they can't find guys their age to be serious and how much more mature they were than their friends and how unlike other guys their own age they know what they want. which always turned out to be a load of bs and they were exactly like their friends their own age. lol
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    Sep 29, 2010 2:19 AM GMT
    josephga saidEveryone's been younger than me. first bf was just a year younger and that lasted a year. everyone else was 10 years or more in age difference. At 36 I dated an 18 year old that one only lasted a few months. Its fun dating them at the time but they never led to long term and like someone else said will bite you in the ass.. I always got the same speech from them, how they can't find guys their age to be serious and how much more mature they were than their friends and how unlike other guys their own age they know what they want. which always turned out to be a load of bs and they were exactly like their friends their own age. lol


    EXACTLY
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    Sep 29, 2010 3:00 AM GMT
    josephga saidEveryone's been younger than me. first bf was just a year younger and that lasted a year. everyone else was 10 years or more in age difference. At 36 I dated an 18 year old that one only lasted a few months. Its fun dating them at the time but they never led to long term and like someone else said will bite you in the ass.. I always got the same speech from them, how they can't find guys their age to be serious and how much more mature they were than their friends and how unlike other guys their own age they know what they want. which always turned out to be a load of bs and they were exactly like their friends their own age. lol



    I feel the same way about younger guys! but the same can be said about older men! I've dated many give and take five or ten years in age difference who bragged of how matured they were, and it turned out they were just full of hot air!


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