To All My Brothers on RJ: THANKYOU

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    Sep 29, 2010 7:33 PM GMT
    for being there for me in so many different ways. Most of you know a bit of my background but suffice to say I have lived a repressed life for the last 58 years (for reasons not open to question or debate), married for 26, two adopted sons, 28 & 30, both recovering addicts, myself a recovering alcoholic, and sent to early pension by my police force for being gay.

    Now that sounds totally depressing (from which I also suffer), but here's the silver lining:

    My wife and I have lived with my sexuality for 20 of the last 26 years. She has and always will be my best friend. We mutually decided this summer to move from the fork in the road and take our respective paths into the future. She has been there everyday on the phone encouraging and supporting. Yesterday we agreed to a permanent separation and we will take it day by day; selling our assets and making plans for the future.

    Last Summer I had a long talk with my youngest son who was in recovery and told him I was, what i thought, bisexual. The support from him and the bond between us grew tighter.

    On the weekend, I stepped out and had my first date and first totally intimate experience with another guy, who now holds a very special place in my heart for putting up with me. (I love you Andrew)

    Today, I texted my oldest son at work and he called me back. I had two bombs to drop, my being gay and his parents' separation. He was totally supportive and knows how much I love him and his wife and my two grandkids and we will talk later more intimately about this.

    Today, my youngest son phoned, I knew he was losing his battle with sobriety and I just said "no lecture, I love you" I told him about his mom and I (I had come out to him a couple of weeks ago) and he was sad but loving and supportive and ended the call with "i love you dad".

    Now I'm finding it hard to type thru tears (without being a drama queen) but my growth is due in large bucket loads to you guys here. The chance to talk one on one in IMs, the emails back and forth, the wisdom from experience, the do's, don'ts and tryit's. To the Dave's, George (love you so much), Blaine, Stanislav, Riah, Brulio (I love you man), Kepa, Ken,Bry,Eric(stay strong brother) Tony, Masoud, Miguel (Angle), Chris, Jay, Kev, Bernard, Jimmy, Scorpio, Anthony, Russell, Keith, John and all my buddies, and to all of you who have made me "keep my hands in my pockets" thanks.

    To quote the great Doctor in a different context:

    FREE AT LAST, FREE AT LAST, THANK GOD ALMIGHTY, I'M FREE AT LAST.

    my apologies for this sounding like an academy acceptance speech

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    Sep 29, 2010 7:37 PM GMT
    OMG! Something this good came out of the morass of BS on RJ? How wonderful!

    Best wishes in your new life!

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    Sep 29, 2010 7:48 PM GMT

    As a mutual friend of Bill W's.(20 years last May), I will quote what I have heard many times in many meetings:
    Keep comin' back.... AND
    The best is yet to come!!

    Glad to call you a friend and know that I am ALWAYS here for you!!
    David

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    Sep 29, 2010 7:56 PM GMT
    Awesome! I'm so happy that you found this peace with yourself, and ecstatic that your entire family is so supportive! You and your family have my best wishes for a very happy future. *hugs* icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 29, 2010 7:58 PM GMT
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  • drypin

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    Sep 29, 2010 8:14 PM GMT
    That's awesome vetteset. I hope your example continues to strengthen your sons' resolve and that this is a growing experience for all of you.

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    Sep 29, 2010 8:18 PM GMT
    You're part of our RJ family, Keith icon_biggrin.gif


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    Sep 29, 2010 8:29 PM GMT
    Very nice.
  • Tiller66

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    Sep 29, 2010 8:49 PM GMT
    Happy day another dancing in sun,Welcome be happy and free we send our love to thee.
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    Sep 29, 2010 8:49 PM GMT
    The world is now yours.
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    Sep 29, 2010 9:03 PM GMT
    Keith,

    You know you always will have my support and understanding (in addition to the occasionally blunt commentary). You deserve all the enjoyment that comes with living a life free and open. Have fun! ~d

  • safety43_mma1...

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    Sep 29, 2010 9:22 PM GMT
    hey bigman just keep looking forward and dont turn back. u r doing great and keep up the good work. u need to talk just hit me up.
  • Geoedward

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    Sep 29, 2010 10:12 PM GMT
    Hi Keith,
    I am so proud of you and even more proud to call you my friend. You are an amazing man. I am so happy that you are at peace with yourself and you r family. You have been through so much. You are an awesome role model for your sons. What a wonderful and loving family you have. I wish I could give you a big hug. You will always be a part of our family. Love you Buddy, Georgeicon_biggrin.gif
    {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Keith}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} it is the best hug I can give from here.
  • GQjock

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    Sep 29, 2010 10:25 PM GMT
    Sounds like you are fitting into your life and that you're in a good place

    Good for you my man
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    Sep 29, 2010 11:39 PM GMT
    To say this has been a very emotional day for me would be an understatement. Thankyou guys for all the msgs of support and love - my only regret is that i can't return that love to each of you in person, so i send my spirit to bless you.....my deepest respect and love...Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Sep 29, 2010 11:42 PM GMT
    vetteset saidTo say this has been a very emotional day for me would be an understatement. Thankyou guys for all the msgs of support and love - my only regret is that i can't return that love to each of you in person, so i send my spirit to bless you.....my deepest respect and love...Keithicon_cool.gif
    Enjoy it..
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    Sep 29, 2010 11:44 PM GMT
    Congrats on the begining of a new journey! Wishing you the best! icon_biggrin.gif
  • tuffguyndc

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    Sep 29, 2010 11:46 PM GMT
    wow buddy, i am so happy for you. i can't believe you had such a wonderful woman supporting you all of these yes. i am really happy that everything has turned out well for you. i wish you and your family best of luck
  • metta

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    Sep 30, 2010 12:09 AM GMT

    Congratulations!

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    Sep 30, 2010 12:20 AM GMT
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    Sep 30, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    awwww thats so cool i kinda cried alsoicon_redface.gif i wish u nothing but the best of the best in the bestest lol
  • creature

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    Sep 30, 2010 12:30 AM GMT
    That's wonderful news. I'm glad to see your wife and sons are supportive with your decision.
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    Sep 30, 2010 1:27 AM GMT
    Keith,

    Congratulations! You're on your way now.........just go forward and enjoy everything, every day!

    (Great talking with you about cars too. Glad you're on RJ).

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    Sep 30, 2010 1:36 AM GMT
    thanks guys and thanks for the vids...My Gawd, i MUST be gay, for the first time in my life I was tapping my foot to Madonna....and Tony, I've never put Kool n the Gang in that perspective before,,,,,,he was a hot dude eh? icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 30, 2010 1:49 AM GMT
    Really happy for you, Keith. First, for being true to yourself and second, because you have a supportive family. Looks like you're all set to start the next chapter of your life!