Meeting Guys

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    Sep 30, 2010 8:48 PM GMT
    Does anybody else find it difficult to meet attractive, genuine guys in places that dont require an internet connection? Maybe Im just not looking in the right places, or maybe my standards are too high lol. Anybody know what I mean?
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    Sep 30, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    Meeting a genuine person nowadays is few and far between as it is.

    I suggest keep looking everywhere. There is bound to be a diamond in the rough even if it takes years.
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    Sep 30, 2010 10:13 PM GMT
    i find having a genuine conversation with any person these days that doesn't involve an internet connection or short, abbreviated 5-word sentences sent by text to be pretty challenging. i'm not opposed to technology, but i'm pretty certain it's expediting the devolution of our language and interpersonal skills.
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    Sep 30, 2010 10:15 PM GMT
    tdg2014 saidDoes anybody else find it difficult to meet attractive, genuine guys in places that dont require an internet connection? Maybe Im just not looking in the right places, or maybe my standards are too high lol. Anybody know what I mean?


    Being gay is a minority. Being attractive is a minority. Being genuine is a minority. Why are you surprised it's hard to find a genuine, attractive, gay man?
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    Sep 30, 2010 10:17 PM GMT
    LOVALOT saidactually, u meet them everywhere it's just a matter of determining whether or not they're gay! it's not always easy to tell and a lot of em never make a move possibly thinking the same thing about you and deeming you straight.. happens to me all the time.

    Yeah, we need to wear a special ring, like wedding ring only meaning Im gay and available, not the other way around...or something.
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    Sep 30, 2010 10:18 PM GMT
    I think the internet is the worst thing to ever happen to relationships gay or str8. But I'm sure most won't agree
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    Sep 30, 2010 11:17 PM GMT
    josephga saidI think the internet is the worst thing to ever happen to relationships gay or str8. But I'm sure most won't agree

    Yes... and no.

    It's become easier on so many fronts to do so many things but has made it also easier to disregard a lot more. I.E.: It's much easier to cheat on someone nowadays.
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    Sep 30, 2010 11:19 PM GMT
    Being gay is a minority. Being attractive is a minority. Being genuine is a minority. Why are you surprised it's hard to find a genuine, attractive, gay man? [/quote]

    --A genuine, attractive, gay man...who doesn't like 500 miles away, lol.
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    Sep 30, 2010 11:25 PM GMT
    ShinyToyTrev saidMeeting a genuine person nowadays is few and far between as it is.

    I suggest keep looking everywhere. There is bound to be a diamond in the rough even if it takes years.


    The truth......sometimes you have to dig deep into the rough to find that small diamondicon_exclaim.gif
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    Sep 30, 2010 11:36 PM GMT
    I feel like every time I go looking for something I never find it, but when you least expect it, there they are. Happened to me once, and I don't doubt it will happen again.
    Putting yourself out there can only do so much. You can go to bars, you can go to clubs, you can go to grocery marts, gyms, beaches.. but never find what you're searching for is because you're searching for it. Live your life a little and let some people come to you.
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    Oct 01, 2010 12:16 AM GMT
    Yeah I started college two months ago, and I haven't really made any new friends, yet I was thinking like "out of high school yay! College friends awesome", but due to the fact that I'm a really shy person. I guess I have issues meeting people in general, so meeting other guys is pretty much out the question until I break out of my bashfulness. Try finding info about a GLBT group, I attended one. It was actually quiet weird for me. Funny I don't even fit in with a group full of gays and lesbians.

    I asked a guy from my hometown how can I meet other gay guys at the university; he is gay also. He said the library. "There are gays everywhere in there he said",so I did. Eyeballing random dudes in the library.. I would'nt do...again, although there definitely were some gay ones, but that does not mean they are gonna talk to you. XD
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    Oct 01, 2010 12:47 AM GMT
    Cupid saidYeah I started college two months ago, and I haven't really made any new friends, yet I was thinking like "out of high school yay! College friends awesome", but due to the fact that I'm a really shy person. I guess I have issues meeting people in general, so meeting other guys is pretty much out the question until I break out of my bashfulness. Try finding info about a GLBT group, I attended one. It was actually quiet weird for me. Funny I don't even fit in with a group full of gays and lesbians.

    I asked a guy from my hometown how can I meet other gay guys at the university; he is gay also. He said the library. "There are gays everywhere in there he said",so I did. Eyeballing random dudes in the library.. I would'nt do...again, although there definitely were some gay ones, but that does not mean they are gonna talk to you. XD


    I'll be your friendicon_biggrin.gif and look, we both live on the eastern coast.icon_wink.gif


    I don't think I've ever tried looking for guys in real life, atleast on the internet it's easy to know who's whom (well, not in terms of diseases/sickness/personality, but in terms of gay/straight). I've never been to a gay bar, so that could be completely different.
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    Oct 01, 2010 12:52 AM GMT
    I went to a bar (gay) in Miami for the first time and like, almost nobody even talked to me... :-S ... I have a better time just meeting people in normal bars, at least ppl there talk to me and socialise... If one happens to be gay (seems never to happen, but I guess its possible icon_razz.gif) thats cool, Im not lookign for it, it just happens I guess

    My take on life, yes shit happens... its true, all the time, good shit bad shit, just takin it as it comes (but not takin any shit!!! lmao)
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    Oct 01, 2010 12:57 AM GMT
    quadraticequation saidI'll be your friendicon_biggrin.gif and look, we both live on the eastern coast.icon_wink.gif


    I don't think I've ever tried looking for guys in real life, atleast on the internet it's easy to know who's whom (well, not in terms of diseases/sickness/personality, but in terms of gay/straight). I've never been to a gay bar, so that could be completely different.


    East Coast represent lol. Looking for gay guys in real life is depressing. I've been practicing my gaydar, and I'm worn out aha. The only gay event I have been to is a glbt meeting the guys were kind of stuck up.
    At least to me they were.
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    Oct 01, 2010 1:06 AM GMT
    meeting a guy is difficult if you dont know what to say thats for sure! Especially if you new to this gay thing! I see a gay guy I dont know what to say since like Im use to being straight! icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 01, 2010 1:10 AM GMT
    iv mostly put meeting people on hold. I lived in Atlanta 6 1/2 years but recently moved back home to Athens to take care of a sick parent for a few months. I figured id have more time once I move back to Atlanta at the end of the year. In the past I didn't care much for the clubs or bars I found the people to be to cliquish
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    Oct 01, 2010 1:13 AM GMT
    amar_m saidI went to a bar (gay) in Miami for the first time and like, almost nobody even talked to me... :-S ... I have a better time just meeting people in normal bars, at least ppl there talk to me and socialise... If one happens to be gay (seems never to happen, but I guess its possible icon_razz.gif) thats cool, Im not lookign for it, it just happens I guess

    My take on life, yes shit happens... its true, all the time, good shit bad shit, just takin it as it comes (but not takin any shit!!! lmao)


    So assuming you go into the straight bars looking for guys or maybe not looking, but happening to run in to, what would you say and what kind of signs would you be looking for to know that they are in to you? Or would you be the first to act (specifically in a straight bar/straight area)?

    I'm new to this whole "gay" thing. It's definitely not like talking to the ladies.

    Cupid - Sounds like you need new batteries, or turn it off and walk blindly... that's how things should happenicon_wink.gif
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    Oct 01, 2010 1:37 AM GMT
    amar_m saidI went to a bar (gay) in Miami for the first time and like, almost nobody even talked to me... :-S ... I have a better time just meeting people in normal bars, at least ppl there talk to me and socialise... If one happens to be gay (seems never to happen, but I guess its possible icon_razz.gif) thats cool, Im not lookign for it, it just happens I guess

    My take on life, yes shit happens... its true, all the time, good shit bad shit, just takin it as it comes (but not takin any shit!!! lmao)
    Hey I talked to you...and Terrence did, too. icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 01, 2010 3:43 AM GMT
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    amar_m saidI went to a bar (gay) in Miami for the first time and like, almost nobody even talked to me... :-S ... I have a better time just meeting people in normal bars, at least ppl there talk to me and socialise... If one happens to be gay (seems never to happen, but I guess its possible icon_razz.gif) thats cool, Im not lookign for it, it just happens I guess

    My take on life, yes shit happens... its true, all the time, good shit bad shit, just takin it as it comes (but not takin any shit!!! lmao)
    Hey I talked to you...and Terrence did, too. icon_razz.gif

    You're a good friend I learned... as if I didn't already know that from talking to Jen. icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 02, 2010 3:50 PM GMT
    Everyone has made valid points haha. Although my gaydar has never functioned properly! When it comes to some guys, its a total surprise (not necessarily a good one).
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    Oct 02, 2010 3:55 PM GMT
    LOVALOT said
    Allathlete saidI feel like every time I go looking for something I never find it, but when you least expect it, there they are.



    it's really that serious. im very butch when it comes to marriage. the words 'casually' and 'date' almost don't even exist for me let alone together or in one coherent sentence.
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    How can you get to know someone if you don't date them?
    What I mean is... you don't have to find your perfect guy when you least expect it, but you have to help it along. One way... date.
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    Oct 03, 2010 1:20 AM GMT
    I agree much with you guys. I am soooooo frustrated. Being in Louisville, KY is the pits....No true or real men to just hang out with and get to know without the sexual come-ons. Is there anybody out there in any city of the South preferably who is open to meeting a genuine guy like me - talented, athletic, nice looking, and has standards??????????? I am open to starting a pen pal relationship with any decent guy. I dont know where to begin. Has anyone thought that a "Jonathan/David" relationship is at all possible in this life this side of Heaven?
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    Oct 03, 2010 1:25 AM GMT
    Well I said that @Paul... you did icon_smile.gif And YOU introduced me to Terrence, that means nobody besides ppl I knew in the pace tlked to me

    Man, I think its impossible to meet gay people, all the gay people I know are from high school and their friends..

    I dont get it, why do I meet dozens of people, everyday, every time I go out, because I do, Im very sociable... that are all straight? i try, but I just cant meet gay ppl
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    Oct 03, 2010 1:39 AM GMT
    amar_m saidI went to a bar (gay) in Miami for the first time and like, almost nobody even talked to me... :-S ... I have a better time just meeting people in normal bars, at least ppl there talk to me and socialise... If one happens to be gay (seems never to happen, but I guess its possible icon_razz.gif) thats cool, Im not lookign for it, it just happens I guess

    My take on life, yes shit happens... its true, all the time, good shit bad shit, just takin it as it comes (but not takin any shit!!! lmao)


    Their loss! Gay bars can be tough places to meet people though......especially some of the really trendy type.....i've had many experiences in a crowded club and am pretty sure i didn't even get so much as a glance from anyone.
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    Oct 03, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    Meeting guys...without the internet!? Blasphemy! icon_eek.gif


    Finding a quality guy online is like browsing through a clearance rack (no stay with me on this one). Sure you gotta wade through a lot of bad stuff, but if you're savvy and dedicated and know how to look you find that one really good deal. If you pop into the store once and expect to find something great in 5 minutes you're in for a rude awakening.