Does the inside match the outside?

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    Sep 30, 2010 9:50 PM GMT
    I have never been the gorgeous beautiful most inshape guy. Ive always been known as the handsome, loving, dependable, and responsible guy that everyone can depend on.

    Ive always felt less of a person inside because ive never been valued for my looks, even though so many guys would tell me how beautiful in person I am.

    Being on this site seeing all the beautiful men young and old, i wonder how you feel about yourself on the inside? Do you think of yourself as a beautiful and attractive man or do you think the opposite no matter how many comments you receive?

    Do we as gay men ever get out of the rat race of trying to achieve perfection, to have the most perfect body for the world to see and feel like we are worth something?

    When is enough enough and we can value ourselves and others for who we are rather than what our outsides are or what the media perceives us as being perfect?
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    Sep 30, 2010 11:02 PM GMT
    This, I think, is a very valid question.
    When I was much younger, I was a model for several men's clothing lines...and
    to be sure, I received a lot of attention based on my looks. Yet, it was never enough. I once had a partner (of seven years) who was more on the average looking side, but people flocked to him like crazy. The guy just had a personality that people just couldn't get enough of.
    Consequently, I used to wish that I had been born a little more on the "average" side..and that my focus would be more about what was INSIDE instead of how I looked. Closets full of clothes and hours before I was ready to be "seen in public"...
    At this point in my life, let me say just one thing...
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    Sep 30, 2010 11:17 PM GMT
    Valid question, but tricky to answer, without coming across as narcissistic arrogant , overly humble or just a completely unaware ass hole......still The hope is that I project who I am fairly well and honestly, with few pretenses.....
    I am open and friendly, a hard worker and helpful, etc....just like the 12 points of the Boy Scout Law...and a smart ass too!LOL!....WYSIWYG!icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 01, 2010 12:02 AM GMT
    This is the kind of thread or forum that I love to read and keeps me glued to this website! thank you Redbull! funny thou how our perception of beauty changes as we get older!

    Some of us have been aware of this inner beauty you speak of all our lives, and as we get older and wiser beauty to us transforms into a much richer and more diverse spectrum of realities only our emotions can see and feel. And then there are those who's perception of beauty has only being limited to physical beauty or what only their eyes can see through all their lives. Unfortunately when these individuals grow older they become so paranoid or fearful of loosing that physical beauty that either they get stuck in a rut of immaturity, or simply become very fearful of death, EVEN if they admit to the contrary. Death is not just a physical event but an introduction, if you will, towards a new beginning for those of us who have become a much wiser and spiritually center being during our short human existence. I do not fear death nor in getting old because in essence I have discovered my inner fountain of youth through a deeper sense of self, the world around me, and that of others.

    Leandro ♥
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    Oct 01, 2010 12:18 AM GMT
    I've learned to put more emphasis on personality than looks.
    Looks are still important because let's face it...everyone likes eye candy. That's why decorations sell so well. But when it comes to dating, personality means more than a 6-pack. Well, almost. icon_razz.gif