Coming out?

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    Oct 01, 2010 7:36 PM GMT
    Hey guys. Need advice... I am taking a huge step of coming out to one of my Friends that is someone I have known for 5 years and lately been working out with. He has just gone through a Divorce with a woman that was real nasty, He tells me he is done with Women yet is always asking about my personal life, such as are you dating, what do you do on the weekends etc. And then says to me when are we gonna go out? I said whenever you want to, I suggested we can go to the bar have some drinks, he says I was thinking something nicer like a Restaurant then a movie or something. I was like cool I'm down.

    Later on I get ready to leave and he says hold on I'll walk ya to your car, so we walk out and I'm getting ready to get in my car and I turn around and he's up real close to me and he says So what's the plan? I looked at him???? and said what ya mean? He then says well, when are we gonna workout next after he paused for a while.

    Should I come out to him or wait and see if he says something? He seems confused he still talks about Women? but then pulls crap with me? It's bothering me, we get along great laugh, tease, pester each other have alot in common etc. Something is there just don't know what to do? Try it out or move on?
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    Oct 02, 2010 1:48 AM GMT
    hmmm... how recent was the divorce and is there any reason to think it might have been partly because he was gay-ish? he's probly feeling bue and lonely and he needs your friendship and he's also confused. if you want to come out to him, go for it, its a separate isue and since you're spending more time with him, its weird if you dont come out.
    but i'd keep it far, far, apart from anything to do with him. for now.
    good luck.
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Oct 02, 2010 1:51 AM GMT
    My guess is he already knows.....And he may be bi or something....who knows......icon_wink.gificon_eek.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 02, 2010 3:43 AM GMT
    Sounds like a bit of a mating dance going on between both of you. If he's a good friend and you've known him that long, just ask "ok, what's on your mind, brother" And be to the point, but be gentle, maybe he's trying to come out to you, but you both need to sit down as friends and lovingly talk this shit out so you know what playing level you're on.....Keithicon_cool.gif