Do You Remember Who You First Told That You Were Gay

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    Oct 02, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    How did you feel prior to and after you told them and what was their reaction? keith..icon_cool.gif

    Mine was a friend in the police force when i was about 22. I was drunk and feeling weepy and decided that i should vent. He was drunk too and wouldn't believe me. End of story.....so shitty, such a waste.....Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Oct 02, 2010 3:19 AM GMT
    My online girlfriend when I was like 18...who I had flown to meet a few months earlier and returned home early because...things didn't pan out too well when I went over there =D
  • ArmsandLegs

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    Oct 02, 2010 4:24 AM GMT
    When I was 17 I came out to my dog. It didn't phase her, and she still loved me the same after.
    After that it was my 2 good female friends, one of them was my roomate at the time. It was a really awkward situation one night on our way home from another friends birthday dinner. After the whole event, they were as supportive as anyone could ask for, but I was so nervous it made me sick. I thew up 3 times that night.
  • MrPapo317

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    Oct 02, 2010 4:29 AM GMT
    My best friend just this past July 4. He asked me was i gay. Three years of knowing him. He was cool with it because his older brother is gay. I talked to him just last night.
  • OklahomaBreak...

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    Oct 02, 2010 4:34 AM GMT
    Two of the first of the people I told about my sexuality were two gay men who own a business together. I used to date one of their employees, a woman, and apparently the first time they met me they knew. It was because the way I treated her, doing everything I could to make her happy, was exactly what they did with their ex-wives.
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    Oct 02, 2010 4:45 AM GMT
    Seems like i have told a few more people lately and dont seem to remember who i told first...wow!!
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    Oct 02, 2010 4:49 AM GMT
    My brother was the first. I had just moved to California and he had moved to Florida. I went there over Thanksgiving and we were on the beach. His reaction was: "Are you sure?"

    I guess I felt that I had to put distance between me and my friends and family in case things didn't go well. I really wish I had been ok much earlier. As it turns out, just about everyone was supportive.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Oct 02, 2010 4:51 AM GMT
    Yes, I was 24 I think, and petrified. I told my younger brother (my only sibling) and he sort of freaked out.
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    Oct 02, 2010 4:53 AM GMT
    I'll never forget who I told first...it was my mom (who also happens to be my best friend). I was about 16, and I was so terrified I couldn't even say the word gay. The best I could come up with was "I don't like girls" in between sobs. She was so great about it. We stayed up talking until at least 3 that night. Admittedly, she wasn't thrilled about the news, but she hid it well, and eventually was completely accepting. Now she's wondering why I don't have a boyfriend yet lol

    Great thread, btw
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    Oct 02, 2010 4:56 AM GMT
    My sister who is the most open minded person out there when I was pretty young... I was in JH and I thought I was in love with this HS boy so I told her because she was in HS haha...

    And then my mom when I was 16.
    And then one by one with my friends when I was 17...
  • Rush_

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    Oct 02, 2010 4:57 AM GMT
    A good female friend of mine at the time. We were leaving the mall after I had been flirting with a guy I knew, my friends all assumed we were just joking but we weren't. She said something to the effect of "you're bi and you just don't know it yet" because I insisted I was straight at the time.
    I just blurted out "you're right, and I'm really into him."
    She gave me a huge hug and became my biggest supporter as I started coming out to people at 18. In fact, it was almost eight years ago because it was in October when I did it...wow, time flies...
  • Karnage

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    Oct 02, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    My first was my girlfriend, freshmen year of college, and she is now my closest friend. And when I told her I was still in the 'I might be gay' phase before I had things figured out for myself. After that I slowly began telling other friends at school until I considered myself out on campus. The following summer I told my friends from home and then my family last. I guess I saved the most difficult for last, knowing I would have a support group if things didn't go well. They had some difficulty with it, but they did come around. Btw, this whole process went from January to August of the same year, so a quick process for me!
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    Oct 02, 2010 5:21 AM GMT
    I told my best friend first on a trip from Los Angeles to Phoenix. We were playing a game of "who would you do" from celebrities and then the men celebrities came up and I got really passionate to answer and it just lead to the discussion. We talked for almost 3-4 hours about it and it was literally the most life changing convo I've had with someone so far in my life.
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    Oct 02, 2010 5:24 AM GMT
    just a quick interjection to praise you young guys to have been in the right circumstance, but mostly to have the strength of spirit to move ahead at early ages...you have my total respect and admiration.....and that is not to steal the thunder from any of us other guys, I think we are all envious of the young guys who have revealed themselves. ...................Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Oct 02, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
    My best friend in the world. or shall i say ex best friend. i told him he tried to kick my ass and i hit him once to get him away and that was that. to this day if i go home and he finds out he always looks to start something with me by calling me a faggot or bitch. i just laugh and let him know that i dont wate my time on pussies.
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    Oct 02, 2010 5:30 AM GMT
    I told my younger brother first. He said, "Yeah, I figured. Let's go eat." That was that.

  • disasterpiece

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    Oct 02, 2010 5:31 AM GMT
    One of my closest friend called me one night and told me "We have to talk". I knew what she wanted to talk about, so we had a dinner the day after.

    She told me one of her friend saw me on this gay website... icon_rolleyes.gif

    I told her everything. It was such a relief... and the very beginning of a new life !
  • Hunter9

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    Oct 02, 2010 5:53 AM GMT
    my roommate from san francisco when i was studying abroad in amsterdam.

    i was terribly nervous even though he was one of those most progressive and open-minded people i'd met. it didn't faze him at all. he thanked me and that was that. i actually had hoped to have more of a discussion from it, but i dont think he realized the significance of the moment. oh well
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    Oct 02, 2010 5:59 AM GMT
    Hunter9 saidmy roommate from san francisco when i was studying abroad in amsterdam.

    i was terribly nervous even though he was one of those most progressive and open-minded people i'd met. it didn't faze him at all. he thanked me and that was that. i actually had hoped to have more of a discussion from it, but i dont think he realized the significance of the moment. oh well


    that's what we're waitiing for in this world, an insignificant moment when no one cares about being gay.....icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 02, 2010 6:01 AM GMT
    I told my buddy Kinz. I always kind of thought he was going to be disappointed, but he was awesome! It's been so long...I think I'll catch up with him this week.

    AT
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    Oct 02, 2010 6:02 AM GMT
    vetteset said
    that's what we're waitiing for in this world, an insignificant moment when no one cares about being gay.....icon_cool.gif


    Amen, brother!

    AT
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    Oct 02, 2010 6:12 AM GMT
    The first time i told someone that i am gay was when i was proposing my good friend...dont know if its right but i felt right.
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    Oct 02, 2010 6:35 AM GMT
    I came out pretty early. I was about 10 and my twin brother actually asked me because we had gotten into a pretty heated debate. I told him I was gay and at first he seemed a little put off by it. His "awkward" phase around me soon died out after a week and life continued on. During which time (unknown to him) I had already come out to my parents a week before that. Funny thing about my parents is that they chose not to tell anyone. They said something like this was something best heard from me and on my own terms when I felt it was right.

    He was just the only one who actually asked which was weird because I thought for sure he knew. I think he knew all along but having me just say so casually that I was gay without even missing a beat must've threw him off a bit I think.
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    Oct 02, 2010 7:33 AM GMT
    a lesbian friend, last year
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    Oct 02, 2010 7:45 AM GMT
    My friend Christi. She took it with a graine of salt, and simply said 'I love you Jayson'. The next person I told was my pledge brother Jeremy, and he said 'you'll always be my brother'.