I Came Out Last night :)

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    Oct 02, 2010 12:49 PM GMT
    I told my best friend that i was bi (although I'm gay but it felt like a safer option for now) anyway she was cool with it, this is kinda how it went...

    Me: I've got something to tell you

    Friend: What?

    Me: I'll tell you once i've had afew drinks (haha)

    Friend: (looked really confused) Who's it about?

    Me: Me!

    Friend: Are you gay?

    Me: Kind off... I'm bi

    Friend: Good!

    She said she always knew an then she started telling me about herself an when she came out and stuff. Then we went clubbing + met a hot guy lol! Then i came out to my sister, she was cool with it also! First thing she said was 'Are you sure? Lmao.
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    Oct 02, 2010 2:04 PM GMT
    Congrats! icon_biggrin.gif

    See, it's not as hard as we thought eh! ;)
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    Oct 02, 2010 2:27 PM GMT
    Congrats mate!

    Now drop the charade and tell them you're gay. Why hide behind another, even sheerer curtain? Obviously those who truly care about you won't care either way... and you'll learn that as you continue down the path.

    Good for you. Remember this day, life only gets better from here...

    Here's to you!
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    Oct 02, 2010 3:00 PM GMT
    Thanks guys icon_biggrin.gif The first night i come out ...I end up pulling << madness lol! I wasn't looking or anything, I was having a smoke with my friend outside a club an this hot guy came over an we started chatting an he said he was gay ... you wouldn't of thought he was gay he seemed straight as a pole. icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 02, 2010 3:01 PM GMT
    For me, bi was never an option. It just seems like a cop out.

    Join the rest of us who are proud to be gay. It's easier than you think, stud.
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    Oct 02, 2010 3:05 PM GMT
    woofydude saidFor me, bi was never an option. It just seems like a cop out.

    Join the rest of us who are proud to be gay. It's easier than you think, stud.


    Coming out as bi is just a shy way to say that ure gay. If they don't get it...well that's not ur problem.
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    Oct 02, 2010 5:19 PM GMT
    i first admitted i was confused, but then went right to gay lol. there was no bi for me.
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    Oct 02, 2010 5:23 PM GMT
    charlitos said
    woofydude saidFor me, bi was never an option. It just seems like a cop out.

    Join the rest of us who are proud to be gay. It's easier than you think, stud.


    Coming out as bi is just a shy way to say that ure gay. If they don't get it...well that's not ur problem.


    Unless you really are bi. If boys and girls both make your dick hard then maybe you really are bi.
  • joncfernan

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    Oct 02, 2010 5:28 PM GMT
    Congrats to you. Things will seem much brighter and easier from now on icon_smile.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 02, 2010 5:28 PM GMT
    I think she already knew, but glad you took the risk... more power to you!


    Congrats there.
  • Rightguard

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    Oct 02, 2010 5:32 PM GMT
    Maybe you are Bi. Not saying you are or arent. Just sharing my similar story that the above comments allude to...

    I'm fully gay, but when I first came out, I also said I was bi. At the time I thought it would be easier, that people would be more accepting of it. Thinking "Im not totally gay, so people wont think I'm as much of a freak." It turned out to be the opposite.

    Saying you are bi when you are actually gay gets very difficult. I continued to have to lie and friends/family tend to think you are just confused. It also gives your parents hope that one day you'll settle down with a woman when you know that is never going to happen.

    Eventually I admitted to myself and friends that I was gay and not bi. It was wayyyyyyy easier to do that than to sit in this middle area where everyone, including myself, just didnt understand what was going on.

    Props to you bi-guys out there, you have it rough!
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    Oct 02, 2010 5:34 PM GMT
    Aaww! Congrats kickstartsicon_smile.gif

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    Oct 03, 2010 8:29 AM GMT
    congrats better than my conversation lol when i came out
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    Oct 03, 2010 8:33 AM GMT
    Well congratulations on halfway coming out. At least you can sleep a little easier knowing you were partially truthful about yourself to others.
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    Oct 03, 2010 8:50 AM GMT
    woofydude saidFor me, bi was never an option. It just seems like a cop out.

    Join the rest of us who are proud to be gay. It's easier than you think, stud.


    I don't think in any way that saying your Bi is a cop out or that your not proud of yourself, he probably thinks that it's not the right time yet to come out. I find it ironic that most gays are usually so accepting to other gays,yet when someone is not out they are instantly judged as being asamed of there sexuality.
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    Oct 03, 2010 9:09 AM GMT
    Well think about it. The OP said he's gay but then tells someone that he's bi instead of just saying that's he's gay. He pretty much just lied and would have been better off staying in the closet and coming out clean later when he felt it was time instead of half-assing it and using bi as an excuse when clearly he is not (said so himself). It's rather deceitful and misleading wouldn't you say?

    The fact that he blatantly lied about his sexuality by saying he's bi is a cop out. It would be different if the OP actually was bi in which case we would all say kudos. This is not the case. By telling that lie he basically still isn't ready to tell the truth or for that matter deal with it about himself. Let's keep it real. No one is against bi people their lifestyle but people are against those who masquerade as them because they can't fully commit to who they really are hence he's gay, not bi.

    Being full blown gay but telling people that you are bi is just as bad as being gay but telling people you are straight. There is no difference. A lie is a is a lie.
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    Oct 03, 2010 9:16 AM GMT
    Congrats! Be who you are and the ones that truly love you for you will rise to the surface.
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    Oct 03, 2010 9:56 AM GMT
    Not having a go; but. I just don't see the point in this thing coming out.

    Why don't people just get on with living your life, as actions speak louder than words.

    many homosexual piss and moan about people making a big deal about their sexuality, yet they are the worst offender for making a deal about their sexuality, and other people to.

    By having to make suck a big deal of it like coming out, to me says, something is wrong with being a homosexual, when to me it's not. Some people are breeders, and others are not. I being a pure homosexual am ot a breeder.

    I think it's time the gay community moves away from this coming out thing, and just get on with living their lives, and stop shoving their sexuality down peoples throats. yet many would get up set if a straight person made such a big deal about someone being a homosexual.

    It's like when Ricky martin come out, and it was like and we needed to be told the sky was blue, and who cares.

    Now I truly was not having a go at you, but the topic at hand.
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:00 AM GMT
    Well Aunty jack you make a valid point but here is the way most people see it.

    If you can't' be true to yourself then mostly likely you can't be true to others and moving on will seem like an impossibility or at least that is how see it (my opinion).
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:32 AM GMT
    why, when she gave it to you on a plate "are you gay", did you not just say "yes"? Her response was not going to be any different to you saying you´re bi.

    anyway, well done for initiating... just follow through next time icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 03, 2010 11:01 AM GMT
    I wish i could do the same, but im so scared, i only came out to one of my gay friend.icon_cry.gif
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    Oct 03, 2010 11:40 AM GMT
    [My wife is the only woman that I care to be with but she's the only one I've been open with . I'm at a point where a guy is feeling better than anything I've done with my wife . I have always liked both had threesomes with my wife that included both a guy and a girl . We had a night with another married couple in the spring that has changed everything . Me and the other guy put on a show for our wives and made them watch . That alone was a first for me . He was my first gut that I was alone with and it was great . Then he blew my mind when he leaned down and kissed me intimately as he drilled my ass . I was lost quick in the moment and knew that if I lost my wife I would be only with a guy . So I was bi sexual but after that kiss I am more gay than bi and sites like this help because I'm only interested in one woman but know that I would enjoy multiple men and be more aroused than I ever had been . In my opinion it comes down to the question . How much do I like anal stimulation , and who can fuck me better . In the end the cock wins . A guy was able to fuck me better than my wife or any other woman had . So just call me gay cause I like a hard cock in my ass . Until my wife is gone from the picture then I'll gladly eat her pussy as a guy friend fuck me . All that matters is if it feels good as you do it .and to me it all feels good as I'm doing it . I'm just a super freak . Enough said quote][cite]KickStarts said[/cite]I told my best friend that i was bi (although I'm gay but it felt like a safer option for now) anyway she was cool with it, this is kinda how it went...

    Me: I've got something to tell you

    Friend: What?

    Me: I'll tell you once i've had afew drinks (haha)

    Friend: (looked really confused) Who's it about?

    Me: Me!

    Friend: Are you gay?

    Me: Kind off... I'm bi

    Friend: Good!

    She said she always knew an then she started telling me about herself an when she came out and stuff. Then we went clubbing + met a hot guy lol! Then i came out to my sister, she was cool with it also! First thing she said was 'Are you sure? Lmao.[/quote]
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    Oct 03, 2010 11:52 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidWell Aunty jack you make a valid point but here is the way most people see it.

    If you can't' be true to yourself then mostly likely you can't be true to others and moving on will seem like an impossibility or at least that is how see it (my opinion).


    I have no issues with someone having a diffrent opinion to I. But I have never come out per se. but i don't live in the closet or a lie, living with a guy for 20 years says it all.
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    Oct 03, 2010 7:27 PM GMT
    can't say I totally disagree with you Jack...but it's like everything else, totally up to the individual without being pressured to perform for people who have an agenda......Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Oct 03, 2010 8:08 PM GMT
    vetteset saidcan't say I totally disagree with you Jack...but it's like everything else, totally up to the individual without being pressured to perform for people who have an agenda......Keithicon_cool.gif


    Thanks Keith, I have witnessed in my life a number of bisexual men, who have had a wife and kids, pressed to come out, or even outed, then people want to force them under the gay banner, not wanting to accept there is such a thing as bisexuality; thats been all about that persons political agenda, and not the bisexuals feeling, or the pain and suffering they have forced on him either.

    But if people feel a need to come out fine, I'm not about to out them. I just don't see the need to go out of your way to cut ribbons and everything, when actions can say much more than words. Like just bring him home for dinner, and not making any deal about it before hand, and then not even saying anything, but the way you may gaze into his eyes may say everything.

    Homosexuality is normal, so why do so many have to make such a big deal about it, it's as if there is something wrong with it. lets just get on with the living and loving.

    My 94 Mormon grandmother knows about me, and loves and accepts me, and she has been in our home, and seen how normal and calm everything is, even with the four dogs and two cats; she love the peace and calm of our home, and talks about it too. But I have never gone out of my way to make a big deal about my sexuality, or my relasionship, but always been truthful to, just not forceful.