How Sensitive Are You?

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    Oct 02, 2010 7:39 PM GMT
    I guess another hollywood stereotype that we have to put up with or shake; but sensitivity seems to go hand in hand with being gay. From some of the posts I have read here on RJ, I would have to doubt that stereotype, but on the other hand, I have some extremely sensitive friends here.

    Now, I'm not talking sensitivity in the "you're over sensitive" sense of the word....I am referring to that inner abilitiy to feel for others, happiness, sadness, pain.....and to reach out to them... That imho is true sensitivity.


    So here goes: On a scale of 1 to 10 with one being Adolf Hitler and 10 being Mother Theresa, where do YOU fit and why?

    I'm about an 8, which can be a curse or a blessing..

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    Oct 02, 2010 7:50 PM GMT
    I'm pretty empathetic and I think I can read others' emotions well. I've developed a fairly thick skin over the years though, I tend to hide what feel from others.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 02, 2010 7:50 PM GMT
    Well I tend to be far less sensitive than I was as a teenager. Part of it is just growing up and the rest is my education. You tend to look at things very logically during law school study and that has had an impact on who I am today... not that I'm not still very sensitive about various issues.

    Teenager... probably a 7 or 8... today probably about a 3.5 or a 4.
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    Oct 02, 2010 9:12 PM GMT
    Naturally, around a 7.
    Depending on the situation, anywhere between 1 and 10.
    If someone is enough of an asshole, 0.
  • baldone

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    Oct 02, 2010 10:08 PM GMT
    most of the time around 9-10
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    Oct 02, 2010 10:17 PM GMT
    Depends on the situation and the individuals involved. Ignorance, immaturity and impulsiveness won't get an ounce of sympathy. However, if a person is struggling with concept of self or such deeper issues, then I melt. Really depends...
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    Oct 02, 2010 10:17 PM GMT
    Use to be all over the map with raising 4 teenagers aloneicon_rolleyes.gif But now 5-6icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 02, 2010 10:21 PM GMT
    I'm pretty sensitive, more paranoid than anything... If people ignore my text messages i get upset, and start thinking people hate me... it gets pretty badicon_redface.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Oct 02, 2010 10:35 PM GMT
    I'm a # 5..... People either love me or hate me icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 02, 2010 11:57 PM GMT
    I'm about a 6 now but I'm in law school so I'm trying to work myself down to about a 3.
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    Oct 03, 2010 12:56 AM GMT
    Sensitivity as you've described it I'd call empathy.

    Both of us are rather delightfully and profoundly cursed with it.
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    Oct 03, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    I'm incredibly empathetic which was irritating at times because I could understand someones pain in any situation..

    These days I'm a lot less concerned with others pain, pain encourages growth and its our choice in how we let it affect us.

    So while I'm still hugely sensitive to others I'm far less responsive.
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    Oct 03, 2010 1:06 AM GMT
    It depends on the situation and role...as a Manager when dealing with subordinates and their drama, I tend to be a 1 or 2. I have heard all excuses imaginable...so I am not empathetic since you have to really draw the line between supervisor and employee otherwise they just take advantage of you. I make it clear of who is the boss and I am expecting you to do your job unless an act of God pertains you not to be on time, sickness, etc. I was not like this before, but in the years I have changed in view of how some people just want a free ride and take advantage of others.

    From a personal level, that is a different story...I am 7 or 8 and it depends on the situation of my friend...I also tend to act more in the situation meaning if a friend needs helps with something I am there for them.
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    Oct 03, 2010 1:21 AM GMT
    meninlove said Sensitivity as you've described it I'd call empathy.

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    ah, i was going to say that,

    i am sensitive, otherwise i wouldn't be an artist.
    but empathy, not really, i'm there when someone needs me but
    i don't feel emotional about it .
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    Oct 03, 2010 1:27 AM GMT
    My inability to walk into a cat shelter without adopting a kitten combined with my penchant for only adopting the scruffiest, ugliest, most messed up kitten in the place out of some irrational fear that if i don't take it home with me, then no one will give it a home, probably makes me about a 7............but i reserve that side of myself for kittens and generally keep it shielded with a 2.........been screwed over too many times to wear my heart on my sleeve anymore and in my profession, you've got to temper the empathy and compassion with a healthy dose of skepticism or you'd burn yourself out. On the upside, people don't mess with me for the most part.........on the downside, i've heard through the grapevine that i'm perceived as too intimidating to approach.........of course, that probably saves me the trouble of meeting a lot of clingy/needy type guys too........so, i'd say it works.
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    Oct 03, 2010 1:31 AM GMT
    Robots do now feel. This does not compute.
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    Oct 03, 2010 1:47 AM GMT
    Im pretty sure Im a 10... I want to adopt orphans and elderly people and disabled people and animals and then just take care of them for the rest of my life
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    Oct 03, 2010 1:49 AM GMT
    Very nigh empathy, maybe a 6 or 7. But I keep it to myself. So I guess I'm still an asshole
  • SamSam

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    Oct 03, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
    i used to be a 8-9 then i fell in love and and then my hart got broken and now i'm either a 3-4 i dont care about people anywhere near as much now i also have trust issues lol give me a few more months and i'll get my hart back and start getting better again (hopefully)
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    Oct 03, 2010 2:26 AM GMT
    erm, i always cry when i see "step mom"
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    Oct 03, 2010 2:28 AM GMT
    ummm....is he leaving me any money?




    I need to know my motivation here.
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    Oct 03, 2010 2:44 AM GMT
    TheIStrat saidVery nigh empathy, maybe a 6 or 7. But I keep it to myself. So I guess I'm still an asshole


    Or you're just careful?
  • Leo123

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    Oct 03, 2010 3:00 AM GMT
    I'm sensitive (about a 9 probably). and I'm empathetic. I can tell when someone's hurt, sad, bothered, etc. BUT I'm also a bit paranoid thinking it's something I said, or they're just trying to ignore me.

    I know, it's bad. But this all started when I came out. Beforing coming out, I was cold like an ice block, real tough skin. nothing got through me. Selfish, insensitive, didn't care about anybody else. It was much easier back then I must say.

    Today I'm trying to balance things out. As in being sensitive with the right situations only. Tough job.
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    Oct 03, 2010 3:03 AM GMT
    skotty75 said
    TheIStrat saidVery nigh empathy, maybe a 6 or 7. But I keep it to myself. So I guess I'm still an asshole


    Or you're just careful?


    That, and extremely untrusting, so I don't express myself

    But I can tell how people are feeling just by looking at their face
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    Oct 03, 2010 3:03 AM GMT
    I wear my heart on my sleeve, so I guess I'd be about an 8...

    I tend to put other people before myself...