what's wrong with me?

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    Oct 03, 2010 5:45 AM GMT
    Ever since I came out to myself (about an year ago), I feel like I have started disliking straight couples showing their affection publicly. Before that I was usually indifferent. Everywhere I go I see couples making out. I get grossed out by the girls dirty dancing on a guys at club. Guys trying to make out with girls at the club while pretending to be dancing. I wait in line at movies and there are couples fondling with and kissing each other. If you happen to make an eye contact, they do it more just to prove a certain point (see how much we love each other? or yeah I am hitting it, or you are such a loser you are single? no idea). Then there is a couple sitting next to us at the movie theatre and they cant seem to have enough of each other, constantly kissing and pulling each other. Ugh, get a room already.

    I simply cannot stand it anymore. What's wrong with me? It is supposed to be a normal human behaviour.

    Sorry if this sounds a bit more like a rant.
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    Oct 03, 2010 5:52 AM GMT
    It's jealousy. Subconsciously, you wish you could do the same with someone you love without being scorned by society.
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    Oct 03, 2010 6:40 AM GMT
    or maybe you're just old fashioned and don't like PDA, let it go, you are the only one being eaten up by it.....think of a big hard dick next time....that'll take your mind off it and make you smile....Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Oct 03, 2010 7:11 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIt's jealousy. Subconsciously, you wish you could do the same with someone you love without being scorned by society.


    I disagree there Paul, I was raised to frown on pubic displays of affection like kissing couples... but to be perfectly accepting of close-dancing... (as we did in Miami icon_razz.gif ^_^ ) So its cultural too
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    Oct 03, 2010 7:28 AM GMT
    amar_m said
    paulflexes saidIt's jealousy. Subconsciously, you wish you could do the same with someone you love without being scorned by society.


    I disagree there Paul, I was raised to frown on pubic displays of affection like kissing couples... but to be perfectly accepting of close-dancing... (as we did in Miami icon_razz.gif ^_^ ) So its cultural too
    From the way he puts it, it seems like it stems from his coming out to himself and no longer being interested in the straight crowd. He makes it sound as if he thought nothing of it before coming out, and now it bothers him.

    Of course I could be wrong, but that's the vibe I get.

    PS. Grinding isn't close enough. Wait till you're there on a Saturday night. icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 03, 2010 7:31 AM GMT
    Its one thing to hold hands, give a quick polite asexual hug or kiss (quick, closed mouth kiss, usually on, or in the air near, one or both [facial] cheeks or a quick peck on the mouth) as a greeting or parting gesture.

    But "making out," (aka open mouth kissing with tongue involved, especially prolonged, or, to use a correct term, "necking," is entirely inappropriate behavior in public.

    Jealousy has NOTHING to do with it, it's just rude, grotesque, uncouth, impolite and shows a complete lack of regard for others and is a demonstration of low class behavior in the individuals doing it. It's just plain bad manners. What class of individual one is, does not depend on how much money they have, but on their cleanliness and level of personal and social responsibility, including acceptable behavior and good manners.

    Someone once said, "the only excuse for bad manners, is bad breeding." Although that's not necessarily true in a literal sense, it may be at least partially true in a metaphorical sense. Such behavior should be frowned on at the very least. In my opinion. :^)
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:58 AM GMT
    paparazzi66 saidEver since I came out to myself (about an year ago), I feel like I have started disliking straight couples showing their affection publicly. Before that I was usually indifferent. Everywhere I go I see couples making out. I get grossed out by the girls dirty dancing on a guys at club. Guys trying to make out with girls at the club while pretending to be dancing. I wait in line at movies and there are couples fondling with and kissing each other. If you happen to make an eye contact, they do it more just to prove a certain point (see how much we love each other? or yeah I am hitting it, or you are such a loser you are single? no idea). Then there is a couple sitting next to us at the movie theatre and they cant seem to have enough of each other, constantly kissing and pulling each other. Ugh, get a room already.

    I simply cannot stand it anymore. What's wrong with me? It is supposed to be a normal human behaviour. .


    Now that you are out you want to experience the same thing you see. But you notice that pretty much just straight couples are lavishly displaying their affection, while you notice a complete lack of gay couples doing the same (unless you're at a fag bar). Even those homosexuals who are "out" probably don't bother being open about it to the form of PDAs up to par with their straight counterparts.

    The other day there was this obnoxious straight couple in line at the grocery store behind me kissing each other so much I almost shouted "MAKE A FUCKIN PORN ALREADY!" If this were a gay couple I'm pretty sure someone would have been like, "Please stop making a scene." But not for the straight couple no.

    I assure you I will help mollify your plight by making out with the guy I'm currently seeing, in straight public. You can live vicariously through us as we find the busiest straight public venue and rape each other's tongues.
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    Oct 03, 2010 11:00 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    amar_m said
    paulflexes saidIt's jealousy. Subconsciously, you wish you could do the same with someone you love without being scorned by society.


    I disagree there Paul, I was raised to frown on pubic displays of affection like kissing couples... but to be perfectly accepting of close-dancing... (as we did in Miami icon_razz.gif ^_^ ) So its cultural too
    From the way he puts it, it seems like it stems from his coming out to himself and no longer being interested in the straight crowd. He makes it sound as if he thought nothing of it before coming out, and now it bothers him.

    Of course I could be wrong, but that's the vibe I get.

    PS. Grinding isn't close enough. Wait till you're there on a Saturday night. icon_razz.gif


    No way, we is going to Ft Lauderdale icon_razz.gif Im already doing me research babe
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    Oct 03, 2010 11:01 AM GMT
    I'm pretty sure PDA pisses everyone off.
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    Oct 03, 2010 11:05 AM GMT
    Sylas saidI'm pretty sure PDA pisses everyone off.


    LOL so true
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    Oct 03, 2010 12:22 PM GMT
    Behaviour? Even my Firefox says that is misspelled.
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    Oct 03, 2010 2:48 PM GMT
    Fearthefall saidBehaviour? Even my Firefox says that is misspelled.



    Here Fearthefall:

    http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/behaviour


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    Oct 03, 2010 3:49 PM GMT
    You live in Tysons Corner, Virginia and spell it "behaviour." That's what's wrong with you. You're fucked up.
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    Oct 03, 2010 3:49 PM GMT
    amar_m said
    paulflexes saidIt's jealousy. Subconsciously, you wish you could do the same with someone you love without being scorned by society.


    I disagree there Paul, I was raised to frown on pubic displays of affection like kissing couples... but to be perfectly accepting of close-dancing... (as we did in Miami icon_razz.gif ^_^ ) So its cultural too



    Paul, I suspect I might be little jealous too. But then when I think about it, if I could, I wouldnt do the same things with my partner as these people are doing. As Kell_la said, a quick hug or kiss is ok.

    Amar, I think it's cultural too. PDA is not seen as commonly where I grew up.

    I think with me coming out to myself and finally accepting that a gay relationship is a normal way or life (and actually having seen so many couples here), I might be distancing myself from the straight couples. I probably think of straight couples making out in public like straight couples would think of a gay couple kissing in public. Straight is the new deviant for me? Or in other words, "it's gross because I cannot imagine myself enjoying it"? Sounds very naive and conservative (from a homosexual's point of view).

    I have no idea what's going on but I dont think this is healthy.
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    Oct 03, 2010 3:53 PM GMT
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    Fearthefall saidBehaviour? Even my Firefox says that is misspelled.



    Here Fearthefall:

    http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/behaviour


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    I grew up learning British English. I also spell aluminium, and call a cell phone "mobile". My friends get angry when I refuse to pronounce them differently.
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    Oct 03, 2010 3:56 PM GMT
    Caslon15000 saidYou live in Tysons Corner, Virginia and spell it "behaviour." That's what's wrong with you. You're fucked up.


    lol Caslon, you are my favourite.
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    Oct 03, 2010 3:59 PM GMT
    paparazzi66 saidI have no idea what's going on but I dont think this is healthy.

    Ok, seriously. I agree that you are just experiencing the normal desire to have a bf and be able to do the same. In fact, you are at the age where the urge to couple is very strong. You probably have some pent up resentment at the straight world for having been forced to be in the closet. We all experience those feelings. You may think it's not healthy. And in a sense, it's not. But understand it's normal. You will get thru this. You will find a bf and be able to enjoy your own PDA. And whatever you do, don't go jumping off the American Legion Bridge*. Get help if you feel really down.




    Can you imagine jumping from that bridge? Forget about your life flashing before your eyes! You'd have time to write the script, hold auditions, pick the cast, shoot the scenes, edit the film, and have your life story in the can before you hit the water! icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 03, 2010 4:17 PM GMT
    Caslon15000 said
    paparazzi66 saidI have no idea what's going on but I dont think this is healthy.

    Can you imagine jumping from that bridge? Talk about your life flashing before your eyes! You'd have time to write the script, hold auditions, pick the cast, shoot the scenes, edit the film, and have your life story in the can before you hit the water! icon_confused.gif


    While I mull over rest of your reply, where are you reading about the legion memorial bridge? It doesnt seem all that high.
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    Oct 03, 2010 4:21 PM GMT
    It does sound like your projecting. The only problem here is you, these couples aren't doing anything wrong, its your anger. Perhaps deep down you want to do the same but never felt it was okay, or comfortable enough to do it.
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    Oct 03, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
    Easy one.

    Just flirt madly with the guys pashing their girls.

    one day, one will sway your way.
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    Oct 03, 2010 4:25 PM GMT
    paparazzi66 said
    Caslon15000 said
    paparazzi66 saidI have no idea what's going on but I dont think this is healthy.

    Can you imagine jumping from that bridge? Talk about your life flashing before your eyes! You'd have time to write the script, hold auditions, pick the cast, shoot the scenes, edit the film, and have your life story in the can before you hit the water! icon_confused.gif


    While I mull over rest of your reply, where are you reading about the legion memorial bridge? It doesnt seem all that high.

    Reading? I live in Alexandria! I was driving over that bridge when they were calling it the Cabin John. I have to remember it's the American Legion Bridge now.
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    Oct 03, 2010 4:27 PM GMT
    Caslon15000 said
    paparazzi66 said
    Caslon15000 said
    paparazzi66 saidI have no idea what's going on but I dont think this is healthy.

    Can you imagine jumping from that bridge? Talk about your life flashing before your eyes! You'd have time to write the script, hold auditions, pick the cast, shoot the scenes, edit the film, and have your life story in the can before you hit the water! icon_confused.gif


    While I mull over rest of your reply, where are you reading about the legion memorial bridge? It doesnt seem all that high.

    Reading? I live in Alexandria!


    er, sorry, I fail at paying attention to details :-)
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    Oct 03, 2010 4:30 PM GMT
    paparazzi66 said
    Caslon15000 said
    paparazzi66 said
    Caslon15000 said
    paparazzi66 saidI have no idea what's going on but I dont think this is healthy.

    Can you imagine jumping from that bridge? Talk about your life flashing before your eyes! You'd have time to write the script, hold auditions, pick the cast, shoot the scenes, edit the film, and have your life story in the can before you hit the water! icon_confused.gif


    While I mull over rest of your reply, where are you reading about the legion memorial bridge? It doesnt seem all that high.

    Reading? I live in Alexandria!


    er, sorry, I fail at paying attention to details :-)

    But you notice everbody shmooching in public. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 03, 2010 4:35 PM GMT
    Caslon15000 said
    paparazzi66 said
    Caslon15000 said
    paparazzi66 said
    Caslon15000 said
    paparazzi66 saidI have no idea what's going on but I dont think this is healthy.

    Can you imagine jumping from that bridge? Talk about your life flashing before your eyes! You'd have time to write the script, hold auditions, pick the cast, shoot the scenes, edit the film, and have your life story in the can before you hit the water! icon_confused.gif


    While I mull over rest of your reply, where are you reading about the legion memorial bridge? It doesnt seem all that high.

    Reading? I live in Alexandria!


    er, sorry, I fail at paying attention to details :-)

    But you notice everbody shmooching in public. icon_rolleyes.gif


    The difference is amount of effort required, which is in negative (effort is towards trying to look away) in case of people smooching in front of you.
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    Oct 03, 2010 6:23 PM GMT
    yeah i get jealous like that all the time. but it's just jealousy nothing more than that