Need some advice

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    Oct 03, 2010 1:11 PM GMT
    Hey guys, I'm kinda stuck in this weird situation and I would really appreciate if you can give me some advice on how you would approach this. Thanks in advance for reading and helping me out!

    So I met this guy online like 2 months ago. We agreed we would start as FWB and see where it goes. We've been hanging out like twice a week since then (dinner, movies, drinks and in the bedroom too). I started having very strong feelings for him and want something more than just FWB. I brought it up at dinner last night. He said he could feel that we're sliding towards a relationship but he would really want to keep it just friends. I could tell he likes me and enjoys spending time together, but he's a first-year law student and he said he has set other priorities over having a boyfriend - I do really understand this considering I have a quite a few friends in law school and I know how busy they get and considering the school he goes to, it's very competitive. He told me he's not looking for a relationship right now and he's not sure if he's looking for one anytime soon or at all. So he suggested that we continue to be friends and maybe one day we can bring this up again.

    We are really compatible and we did connect at so many different levels. I think it's rare to meet someone like that and I do like him a little "too much" to just be friends. But at the same time he has made it clear this is not what he wants right now or maybe for a long time. This is where it gets difficult for me - I do want to spend more time and continue to be friends but I'm worried spending time together will just make it even harder for me. I don't know if any of you has been in similar situations - I would love to get some advice.

    Please go easy on me and thanks again for taking your time to read this and helping me out!
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    Oct 03, 2010 3:33 PM GMT
    This is why FWB rarely work out in the long term; life circumstance change and feeling increase: it’s all fun and games when it’s just a occasional thing, but when it’s weekly/nightly it becomes a sexual relationship without benefits.

    My advice is to try and keep the friend and drop the benefits.
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    Oct 03, 2010 5:11 PM GMT
    I've been there brother, and you have to listen to the other guy...He doesn't want anythiing more serious and you have to respect that.. It is a very hard decision, but really, you have to mature in this and realize it is part of life and love.....Enjoy the friendship and what comes with it or leave it. Otherwise you will irrepairably damage what you have....all the best,,,Keithicon_cool.gif