Are you afraid of aging..

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    Oct 03, 2010 4:55 PM GMT
    A topic appropriate to gay men....As we age, we obviously see the work of mother nature, gravity, follicle inactivity and the rest of the package that goes with it. There are several fine examples of men who have done an amazing job of handling that aging right here on RJ but in the end, it sometimes narrows our accessibilty to gay men in the larger view of things. To have another gay guy call me old, hits the soft spot in me, ego or not, it hurts....but if we are fortunate we all see aging come.

    So the question is: Are you afraid of aging and are you doing something to help it come with grace?

    As always I welcome your intelligent input and the floor is open gentlemen.......Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Oct 03, 2010 5:03 PM GMT
    It's not the aging that I'm afraid of. It's the narrowing of the playing field (attractive to less people).
    And yes, I've taken steps to make this come gracefully.
    The first step was to choose a career that has the potential of a high enough income where I can pay for what I like when I'm no longer able to get it with looks and personality alone.
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    Oct 03, 2010 5:11 PM GMT
    I'll be 62 in November. While I do wish I still had the agility and endurance I had ten or twenty years ago, I see it as "part of the deal." I've grown in tolerance, self-control, perhaps in wisdom and certainly in experience. Aging is part of being alive, part of experiencing all that life has in store. What's to be afraid of?
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    Oct 03, 2010 5:15 PM GMT
    tazzari saidI'll be 62 in November. While I do wish I still had the agility and endurance I had ten or twenty years ago, I see it as "part of the deal." I've grown in tolerance, self-control, perhaps in wisdom and certainly in experience. Aging is part of being alive, part of experiencing all that life has in store. What's to be afraid of?


    great attitude and great looks to!!! keithicon_cool.gif
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    Oct 03, 2010 5:16 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidIt's not the aging that I'm afraid of. It's the narrowing of the playing field (attractive to less people).
    And yes, I've taken steps to make this come gracefully.
    The first step was to choose a career that has the potential of a high enough income where I can pay for what I like when I'm no longer able to get it with looks and personality alone.

    and fewer (not less) people are attractive in your eyes.

    Exercise, diet, and rest are what are necessary.

    Exercise is the fountain of youth. Not eternal youth, but youth as best your body can maintain it. Stressful exercise stimulates the brain to produce, the otherwise declining, growth hormone. The growth hormone allows the body to restore itself as best it can.

    Diet almost goes without saying. The body has to be fed healthy to say youthful and healthy. Copper is an important nutrient in maintaining a youthful look. Cooper is necessary to bind together the collogen molecules under the skin and helps prevent wrinkles.

    And rest. The body restores itself during sleep. I have noticed lately (in fact I was going to start a thread to get others observations on this) that I am sleeping an inordinate amount of time, especially on the weekends. I attribute it to my workouts that are causing a lot of muscle growth. So I am sleeping like a growing teenager again.

    It's all the time needed to trim the nose and ear hair that gets me down ... icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 03, 2010 5:21 PM GMT
    tazzari saidI'll be 62 in November. While I do wish I still had the agility and endurance I had ten or twenty years ago, I see it as "part of the deal." I've grown in tolerance, self-control, perhaps in wisdom and certainly in experience. Aging is part of being alive, part of experiencing all that life has in store. What's to be afraid of?

    I have just read the beetroot juice is good for endurance.

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1168037

    I don't know if I could get past the taste, tho.
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    Oct 03, 2010 8:50 PM GMT
    You forgot to mention dim lighting, helps immeasurably.
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    Oct 03, 2010 9:03 PM GMT
    I'm very much afraid of aging. Luckily I lack testosterone though, so I don't have to worry about it as much as most others (at least until I'm over 30).



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    Oct 03, 2010 9:13 PM GMT
    Not at all. In fact, at 29 my life has just now started I realize. Nothing could be more perfect.

    Fortunately I was blessed with really great genes and the common sense to know how to take very good care of myself. Sure I will fight the process to the end to make my outside look as young as possible, but everyday I know my soul is growing older and older and getting wiser and wiser.

    I admire my elders for this reason. I listen to anyone older than me. I was just raised this way.

    with age to me comes knowledge. The day I stop learning is the day you can just shoot me.
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    Oct 03, 2010 9:14 PM GMT
    I'll never age. I have a painting up in the attic that does that for me.
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    Oct 03, 2010 9:16 PM GMT
    Not so much. I had one of those deep face peels last year too remove sun damage from the years of tanning and stopped tanning. I figured when the day comes and I can't get anyone because of age I can always just pay for it.
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    Oct 03, 2010 9:31 PM GMT
    I don't worry about it. I had a good run and I'm still having a pretty good one
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    Oct 03, 2010 9:58 PM GMT
    Take a look at my profile leader pic and decide for yourself whether I look the 58 years that I have on my milometer.
    Having said that, despite the age-slowing weight loss program I' sticking with, age is something which is totally inevitable and it is something I have long come to terms with.
    The problem is not with me, watching my "fountain of youth" gradually fade. Rather the problem lies with the younger set, who are often put off by the presence of an older person, whether it would be facial looks, body condition, character or a combination of all three.
    Foxglove's post may reflect a good example of this. If his lead pic reflects his present looks, chances are high that he finds himself attractive to others. What he really fears is that first rejection connected with ageing.
    He must realise that when he faces the inevitable, so will all those of his age range.
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:00 PM GMT
    when im over 30 then yes, right now no!
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:02 PM GMT
    I am afraid of aging....i'll admit it, to help combat that as much as possible I make sure I eat my vitamins, eat a healthy diet and workout regularly. I say you are only as young as you feel, if you keep fit and healthy, you are more energetic you look great and feel great! forever young! icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:18 PM GMT
    no....i will be 41 next month and am in the best shape of my life, look better and feel the most self confident that I have at any other time. As you age you start to get to a place where you start to get it and live life on your own terms not others. Try to eat right, stay healthy, try to be a good person but do whats right for you. Dont get caught up in stuff like botox because its not about that at all, you will make yourself feel worse down the line
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:21 PM GMT
    I embrace it. I'm so much happier now than I was in my '20s and '30s, plus I feel that I've learned from mistakes and have been able to apply what I've learned (while still wanting to learn more). The most important thing for me is to keep my mind as active as I keep my body. Getting older has presented some physical challenges for me and I'm not able to do some of the things I used to do (like running)...but I realize it's all part of the process.

    I'm very glad I've exercised since I was a teenager, which will prolong my life. I work out with a friend who's 30 and one who's 35 and I have to admit I enjoy being able to lift a lot more than they can (although I never say anything to them).

    I enjoy my friendships with people younger and older than I am - I feel they all have something to teach me. Most of all, I try to look for the joy in just being alive as much as possible.
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:23 PM GMT
    Yeah of course it's a concern. I'd like to age gracefully and always be youthful in action and appearance. So far so good I'd like to think.

    It's definitely tough being gay and aging since anyone over 30 seems to be over the hill by a lot of guys, including guys over 30. Ha ha.
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:25 PM GMT
    Nope, enjoying it.
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:33 PM GMT
    Not at all. Life seems to get better every year so I'm not afraid of getting older. Can't do a thing about it anyway, so may as well just enjoy life and treasure it.
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:34 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidIt's not the aging that I'm afraid of. It's the narrowing of the playing field (attractive to less people).
    And yes, I've taken steps to make this come gracefully.
    The first step was to choose a career that has the potential of a high enough income where I can pay for what I like when I'm no longer able to get it with looks and personality alone.


    LMAO - where do I sign up for that catalogue?
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:35 PM GMT
    "Are you afraid of aging.."

    Considering the only alternative, no.
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:37 PM GMT
    I hope I DO age. I'm more afraid of not aging... because of course, that would mean I was dead.
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:38 PM GMT
    McGay said"Are you afraid of aging.."

    Considering the only alternative, no.


    McGay said it better than I!
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    Oct 03, 2010 10:41 PM GMT

    What would be the point of NOT accepting it?? It's like the weather... what the hell are you gonna do about it???
    I had a GREAT run... and now, I can relax and really enjoy what life has to offer...without having to deal with raging hormones!!!
    And as I always say... If I had known I was going to live this long, I would have taken better care of myself!!!