Sex Phobia or Sex Aversion...

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    Oct 03, 2010 9:19 PM GMT
    OK so since a few days, whenever I think of sex, (hear about it, talks about it, look at it etc), all of a sudden i feel uncomfortable, I get depressed and i push it out of my head... Its gotten so bad that even when people flirt with me, anything sexual at all, I feel rotten

    This is a big problem, becuase well, I cant function socially like this.. I cant go out in the island, because well, island people flirt all the time...

    And yeah, it is annoying for myself, because wel, being male, means sex is on my mind all the time, so now im just all the time unhappy

    Before I never had this, I found the thought of sex exciting and very enjoyable before

    This has only started yesterday, as soon as anyone around me mentions any thing sexual, i just competely loss all sense of well-being and I just feel terrible

    HELP!!!! Hs anyone been through this and does anyone have any advice? i think this is really terrible

  • Oct 03, 2010 10:49 PM GMT
    This sounds like some behavioral psychological problem, you need some kind a counseling or therapy,

    sometimes after hooking up i feel guilty and a little depressed afterwards (not always), and the cases seem somewhat similar but it sounds like you need to find the cause for this manner of thinking. because sex is a very normal part of life for people..especially men! now im not saying your crazy or nothin, but it would probably be best to talk about it with someone who you either trust or are willing to pay for to keep their mouth shut (therapist).

    hope you get to the bottom of your problems
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    Oct 03, 2010 11:10 PM GMT
    Could you elaborate on what's been going on in your life that may have triggered this? Bad date, relationship, hook-up, work stress?
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    Oct 03, 2010 11:20 PM GMT
    Sounds like you need to just get laid and in a bad way too. LOL. It's just a mild phase you are going through. You will be fine.
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    Oct 03, 2010 11:44 PM GMT
    Guy101 saidSounds like you need to just get laid and in a bad way too. LOL. It's just a mild phase you are going through. You will be fine.


    I hope so, I loved everything about it before icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 03, 2010 11:47 PM GMT
    I think in your case you might just be a little tired about how much emphasis is put into sex when people talk about it so much especially considering where you are at.

    Take a break and go on a vacation that is quiet, calming and not so pushy on the topic of sex. Soon as you come back you will be back to your old self (in a good way). There is nothing wrong with you, physically or mentally. You just need a break is all.
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    Oct 04, 2010 12:03 AM GMT
    Ive been in counseling already for several months due to depression after a an former love stopped talking to me, but I still enjoyed thinking about sex, flirting, dating everything else. So, I did as much as I could, becuase well, i really like doing it.... I had been improving from the depression, but this weekend , somebody talked to me about how i wasnt trying hard enough to meet guys and I became anxiuos. Since then when anyone mentions a guy or sex or flirting or shows me porn i get a panic attack

    Probably my inadequacies of being able to date or meet other gay ppl (I mostly am surrounded by a straight crowd and dont get approached by gay men) triggered this response. But I dont understand why this happened now,.... I knew I had trouble meeting ppl before ...., maybe i was in denial and blaming anything but myself, and now i started blaming myself... self-criticism can be a bitch to your sex drive I guess
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    Oct 04, 2010 12:05 AM GMT
    Paging Ciarsolo... Ciarsolo, please report to this thread.
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    Oct 04, 2010 12:06 AM GMT
    Global_Citizen saidPaging Ciarsolo... Ciarsolo, please report to this thread.


    LO I was totally thinking about Ciar solo when this started happening icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 04, 2010 12:18 AM GMT
    marcobruno1978 saidCould you elaborate on what's been going on in your life that may have triggered this? Bad date, relationship, hook-up, work stress?


    Thanks for that, I think I figured it out... after so many failed attempts at meeting ppl, I have grown a pervasive sense of inadequacy with myself in gay relationships...... when somebody said to me I was simply not trying, that self-rejection blew up and now I feel like sex is something I am pressured to do and unable to handle at all.. The very thought brings up nothing but unpleasant feelings now

    Thanks for the question icon_smile.gif I figured it out now... that helps me to jsut come to terms with it
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    Oct 04, 2010 12:21 AM GMT
    PseudoArchetype saidThis sounds like some behavioral psychological problem, you need some kind a counseling or therapy,

    sometimes after hooking up i feel guilty and a little depressed afterwards (not always), and the cases seem somewhat similar but it sounds like you need to find the cause for this manner of thinking. because sex is a very normal part of life for people..especially men! now im not saying your crazy or nothin, but it would probably be best to talk about it with someone who you either trust or are willing to pay for to keep their mouth shut (therapist).

    hope you get to the bottom of your problems


    I wouldnt mind getting to the bottom of your, ehm never mind

    HAHA lol, Im cured icon_razz.gif

    Thnks guys
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    Oct 04, 2010 12:56 AM GMT
    I'm afraid I cannot help you, but I do like the Jeopardy tune.
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    Oct 04, 2010 1:19 AM GMT
    LOVALOT said


    LOVEALOT, that was HILARIOUS, why did you post that though??
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    Oct 04, 2010 12:49 PM GMT
    That happened to me after a breakup once.
    I had to force myself to have sex again.
    Now I can't stop myself. icon_lol.gif

  • Oct 05, 2010 6:55 AM GMT
    amar_m said
    PseudoArchetype saidThis sounds like some behavioral psychological problem, you need some kind a counseling or therapy,

    sometimes after hooking up i feel guilty and a little depressed afterwards (not always), and the cases seem somewhat similar but it sounds like you need to find the cause for this manner of thinking. because sex is a very normal part of life for people..especially men! now im not saying your crazy or nothin, but it would probably be best to talk about it with someone who you either trust or are willing to pay for to keep their mouth shut (therapist).

    hope you get to the bottom of your problems


    I wouldnt mind getting to the bottom of your, ehm never mind

    HAHA lol, Im cured icon_razz.gif

    Thnks guys


    LOL
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    Oct 05, 2010 4:21 PM GMT
    The fact that you were discussing your failed relationships and scarcity of future prospects is making you freak out a bit. As Guy101 recommended, you need to go on a dating hiatus. The more pressure you put on yourself, the worse it could get.

    Step back and focus on other aspects of your life. Eventually, you will renew yourself.
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    Oct 05, 2010 8:58 PM GMT
    PseudoArchetype said
    amar_m said
    PseudoArchetype saidThis sounds like some behavioral psychological problem, you need some kind a counseling or therapy,

    sometimes after hooking up i feel guilty and a little depressed afterwards (not always), and the cases seem somewhat similar but it sounds like you need to find the cause for this manner of thinking. because sex is a very normal part of life for people..especially men! now im not saying your crazy or nothin, but it would probably be best to talk about it with someone who you either trust or are willing to pay for to keep their mouth shut (therapist).

    hope you get to the bottom of your problems


    I wouldnt mind getting to the bottom of your, ehm never mind

    HAHA lol, Im cured icon_razz.gif

    Thnks guys


    LOL


    Haha, sure man ;)
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    Oct 05, 2010 8:59 PM GMT
    marcobruno1978 saidThe fact that you were discussing your failed relationships and scarcity of future prospects is making you freak out a bit. As Guy101 recommended, you need to go on a dating hiatus. The more pressure you put on yourself, the worse it could get.

    Step back and focus on other aspects of your life. Eventually, you will renew yourself.


    R U kidding, once I was over the phobia, my sex drive doubled, now Im a raging machine , look out lol
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    Oct 05, 2010 11:52 PM GMT
    amar_m said
    marcobruno1978 saidThe fact that you were discussing your failed relationships and scarcity of future prospects is making you freak out a bit. As Guy101 recommended, you need to go on a dating hiatus. The more pressure you put on yourself, the worse it could get.

    Step back and focus on other aspects of your life. Eventually, you will renew yourself.


    R U kidding, once I was over the phobia, my sex drive doubled, now Im a raging machine , look out lol
    *hides pink fuzzy handcuffs*
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    Oct 05, 2010 11:58 PM GMT
    Okay, I've had it with the Jeopardy tune. I couldn't get it out of my mind and spent all day humming the damned thing!
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    Oct 06, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    ha ha ha some of the responses are so funny. If this started yesterday it will probably clear up in a day. Take two aspirin and call me in the morning! Tomorrow is a new day.

    Oh geez i guess I'm a day late AGAIN... saw this was an older post just now....
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    Oct 06, 2010 12:28 AM GMT
    Mil8 saidOkay, I've had it with the Jeopardy tune. I couldn't get it out of my mind and spent all day humming the damned thing!


    I fucking hate things that play before I've even had a chance to scroll down and decide whether I want them to or not. Pisses me off. icon_evil.gif

    I have no idea what this thread is about, btw. I refuse to stomach that tune every time I want to read replies.