Sex vs Romance

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    Oct 04, 2010 4:46 AM GMT
    What's your preference?


    It goes without saying that here needs to be a balance, however, I choose romance. With romance sex will undoubtedly follow.
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    Oct 04, 2010 2:37 PM GMT
    I vote for romance.
  • alphatop

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    Oct 04, 2010 2:40 PM GMT
    Romance is dead, I vote for sex.
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    Oct 04, 2010 2:44 PM GMT
    I'm really not romantic. I'd rather have some mind-blowing hardcore fuck-fest than a clichéd hearts and flowers evening of romance, any day!
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    Oct 04, 2010 3:03 PM GMT
    Sometimes in the hustle and bustle of life couples neglect the romance which is fine, but it's really nice to make time for the occasional romantic interlude. I think there's a place for both. It can't be wine and roses or wham bam all the time.
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    Oct 04, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    Romance does not lead to sex. It leads to a depleted bank account after that expensive dinner.
    Sex is free, which is great for people on a budget. icon_biggrin.gif
  • alphatop

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    Oct 04, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidRomance does not lead to sex. It leads to a depleted bank account after that expensive dinner.
    Sex is free, which is great for people on a budget. icon_biggrin.gif


    True!
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    Oct 04, 2010 3:15 PM GMT
    Who gives a flying fuck about romance? Just fuck me already lol... Is this really a question? SEX!!!
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    Oct 04, 2010 3:16 PM GMT
    NickFit saidI'm really not romantic. I'd rather have some mind-blowing hardcore fuck-fest than a clichéd hearts and flowers evening of romance, any day!


    ^ icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 04, 2010 3:27 PM GMT
    lol, Nick, that's an incredibly limited view of what romance is (and very cliched/hackneyed).

    Apologies if I offend, but romance gets a very bad rap, and often by those that I feel don't understand what it is.

    -Doug
  • rnch

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    Oct 04, 2010 3:34 PM GMT
    amar_m saidWho gives a flying fuck about romance? Just fuck me already lol... Is this really a question? SEX!!!



    you're SO romantic! icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 04, 2010 3:38 PM GMT
    meninlove said lol, Nick, that's an incredibly limited view of what romance is (and very cliched/hackneyed).

    Apologies if I offend, but romance gets a very bad rap, and often by those that I feel don't understand what it is.

    -Doug


    Don't get me wrong - I like intimacy - I like those moments of shared happiness and quiet, private times - I like exploring the world and all it has to offer with my partner - but to me, that is not romance. Romance is something very specific, and to me it is just cliché and over the top and forced. That is my definition of it, and it's just not something I have time for.
  • rioriz

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    Oct 04, 2010 3:45 PM GMT
    I'm much better at sex....so sex...lots of it!
  • DanOmatic

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    Oct 04, 2010 3:49 PM GMT
    As NickFit pointed out, there's a difference between intimacy and romance. Intimacy gives sex its magic and staying power. Though I've certainly had plenty of sex without intimacy, I much prefer it with.

    Romance is sort of like sugar-- a little bit sprinkled in the right places is great, but too much can make you feel sick.
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    Oct 04, 2010 3:52 PM GMT
    Nick, this "I like intimacy - I like those moments of shared happiness and quiet, private times - I like exploring the world and all it has to offer with my partner " whether you like it or not, is romantic, in one of its purest essences and unadulterated forms. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug

    Romance is like beauty, which is in the eye of the beholder, and the participants.

  • Regina_Guy

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    Oct 04, 2010 3:59 PM GMT
    Personally, I think romance is great! Last time I checked Paul, it wasn't all the expensive to go out for a long walk, come home and make a nice meal together, and ending the night cuddling on the couch, while watching a movie.

    That being said, hot wild sex is also a big plus! Although hooking up with a random stranger would quite often make me feel guilty and used afterwards. Even if I was the guy who initiated it. I much prefer having some form of relationship with the dude if sex is going to be involved.
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    Oct 04, 2010 4:03 PM GMT
    Regina_Guy saidPersonally, I think romance is great! Last time I checked Paul, it wasn't all the expensive to go out for a long walk, come home and make a nice meal together, and ending the night cuddling on the couch, while watching a movie.


    I love that too, but to me, that's not 'romance'. Romance is false empty and forced gestures for the sake of showing everyone else how much you 'love' your partner. I can do without it!
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    Oct 04, 2010 4:04 PM GMT
    rnch said
    amar_m saidWho gives a flying fuck about romance? Just fuck me already lol... Is this really a question? SEX!!!



    you're SO romantic! icon_lol.gif


    Shhh thats between us lol
  • Regina_Guy

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    Oct 04, 2010 4:06 PM GMT
    NickFit said
    Regina_Guy saidPersonally, I think romance is great! Last time I checked Paul, it wasn't all the expensive to go out for a long walk, come home and make a nice meal together, and ending the night cuddling on the couch, while watching a movie.


    I love that too, but to me, that's not 'romance'. Romance is false empty and forced gestures for the sake of showing everyone else how much you 'love' your partner. I can do without it!


    Yeah yeah, I agree with that. I always hate it when people get flowers delivered at work and shit like like. Totally makes me gag. That's also one of the reasons we've ruled out the wedding thing. Don't really need to stand in front of a ton of people and tell each other how much we love each other. Not our style.
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    Oct 04, 2010 4:09 PM GMT
    Oh Nick.

    "Romance is false empty and forced gestures for the sake of showing everyone else how much you 'love' your partner."

    Bill and I have made gestures to each other on topics and trust me they are not empty or forced. icon_wink.gif

    I'm not trying to attack or or chastise here, but rather seek to show you another perspective, and to consider a larger more expansive definition than the one you're using.

    -Doug

    PS for example, to my mother, using my father's toothbrush was one of the most electrifyingly romantic things that she ever did. Her sister, when she heard of it, nearly threw up! LOL!
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    Oct 04, 2010 4:11 PM GMT
    Regina_Guy said, " I always hate it when people get flowers delivered at work and shit like that."

    ...but it's not your romance, it's theirs!

    Some guys find a leather ball gag and hood VERY romantic. Are they wrong? Nope.



  • rioriz

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    Oct 04, 2010 4:21 PM GMT
    I tried to be romantic one time and brought my bf a leather cock ring...he decided he liked it better as a bracelet!icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 04, 2010 5:09 PM GMT
    rioriz saidI tried to be romantic one time and brought my bf a leather cock ring...he decided he liked it better as a bracelet!icon_smile.gif


    lol, multifunctional is so romantic (and in this case, handy)!

    -Doug
  • scorpiodncr

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    Oct 04, 2010 5:43 PM GMT
    Both. Lots please. Thank you.
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    Oct 04, 2010 6:02 PM GMT
    Obviously we share a very subjective understanding of what romance is. To me, romance is a simple and sincere gesture to show my man that I love him and that I'm thinking about him. Romantic gestures that I've given or received that have meant a lot to me in the past include sharing a bottle of wine, cuddling during a movie, send fresh flowers/edible arrangement, "our first Christmas" ornament, "I Love You" note in the cabinet and sendng a goofy picture of myself to my b/f on his cell with a "Thinking about you" message.

    Whether you call these gestures intimacy or romance, is completely up to you, but in my case none of these were forced or contrived.

    Thanks for the posts!