How do you feel about transmen?

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    Oct 04, 2010 8:22 AM GMT
    I was just curious as to this boards general opinion on transsexual men, so, good sirs, what do you say? Like them? Hate them?Could care more? blah blah, WOOOOOBS?

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    Oct 04, 2010 9:48 AM GMT
    Foxglove saidHow do you feel about transmen?
    The same way I feel about any men: With my hands. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 04, 2010 10:00 AM GMT
    Is a transman a woman who has become a man, or a man who has become a woman?

    I wouldn't date one but I have nothing but respect and compassion for those individuals, as it must be a very difficult life!
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    Oct 04, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    Transmen are women to men. The ones we've met are really great guys.

    There are some on RJ.

    -Doug
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    Oct 04, 2010 3:15 PM GMT
    I am a little confused about the question. They're just people like the rest of us. I assume there are some idiots and some great guys.

    Why should I feel any differently towards them then any other set of people?

    It might have helped if you made your own feelings known. It could have provided a little more insight into what you are trying to understand.


    Foxglove saidI was just curious as to this boards general opinion on transsexual men, so, good sirs, what do you say? Like them? Hate them?Could care more? blah blah, WOOOOOBS?

    Cheers.
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    Oct 04, 2010 5:44 PM GMT


    It might have helped if you made your own feelings known. It could have provided a little more insight into what you are trying to understand.



    I don't know; it was late. Was just trying to see the boards general behavior towards us- quite a few people I've encountered (even other gay men) have had this "them trannies don't belong in this neck of the woods" attitude.

    Either ways, all seems good.

    Cheers, and sorry for bogging this place down with a pointless topic. icon_biggrin.gif

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    Oct 04, 2010 6:20 PM GMT
    I don't think it was pointless, really.

    If it was titled "Do you think the guy above you would make a great trans", THAT would've been pointless.

    But asking for point of views, I don't think that is pointless icon_smile.gif

    Now, my point of view is that I don't really care, since I've never really met any transmen. But I'm not gonna judge them. But tell me if I'm wrong, there's not a lot of you around, is it ?
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    Oct 04, 2010 6:38 PM GMT
    Foxglove said

    It might have helped if you made your own feelings known. It could have provided a little more insight into what you are trying to understand.



    I don't know; it was late. Was just trying to see the boards general behavior towards us- quite a few people I've encountered (even other gay men) have had this "them trannies don't belong in this neck of the woods" attitude.

    Either ways, all seems good.

    Cheers, and sorry for bogging this place down with a pointless topic. icon_biggrin.gif

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    No hun, your post wasn't pointless. In fact, more transmen need to make themselves known. Being vocal is the only way to do that.

    As for my own feelings about transmen, I think it's pretty obvious by my first post...I could care less if a dude was born a dude, or if some magic wizard sprinkled fairy dust on a princess and turned her into a dude. If he has a good heart and is physically my type, it's all good.
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    Oct 04, 2010 6:57 PM GMT
    I agree with Paul absolutely. If you have to judge people by their outward cloak instead of their inner spirit, then you are a doomed soul.....Brother, you're a brother, that's all that counts and you're fucking well welcome here anyday in my book.......Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Oct 04, 2010 8:57 PM GMT
    The thread is not pointless, just a little confusing to me. I wasn't sure where you were coming from. I was hoping you were not another one of those intolerant people that drive me crazy. icon_eek.gif

    As I said earlier, I treat everyone with the respect they deserve until they show that they don't deserve it.

    Good people come in all different flavors. icon_cool.gif

    Foxglove said

    It might have helped if you made your own feelings known. It could have provided a little more insight into what you are trying to understand.



    I don't know; it was late. Was just trying to see the boards general behavior towards us- quite a few people I've encountered (even other gay men) have had this "them trannies don't belong in this neck of the woods" attitude.

    Either ways, all seems good.

    Cheers, and sorry for bogging this place down with a pointless topic. icon_biggrin.gif

    Can't get the quote tags to work right now. T.T
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    Oct 04, 2010 10:32 PM GMT
    Something I have never understood about transgender men... and I have a question to put out there, which is:
    Why do transgenders still associate with a gay lifestyle?
    IF I was to have this done.. I would prefer to live a less gay lifestyle and take on the persona of a real woman, rather than a gay man who had his dick removed.
    I once had a friend in high school who was quite effeminate...and several years after graduation, I ran into him on the street. I would never had recognized him, but he spotted me and spoke. I was flabbergasted, to say the least. This was almost 40 years ago...long before it was a common as it is today.
    He was quite attractive as a woman..and carried it off well. Didn't see him again for several years.
    THEN, I ran into him about 5 years later...in a gay bar...and he told me that he was now a lesbian... and preferred sex with a woman.... WTF???
    I've never heard another story quite like this..but since I personally knew this guy, I know it's true.
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    Oct 04, 2010 10:37 PM GMT


    It's all good!
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    Oct 04, 2010 10:53 PM GMT
    Why do transgenders still associate with a gay lifestyle?

    Well, first off, transgender isn't the same thing as transsexual. Transgender is an umbrella term for transsexual, androgyn, genderqueer, neutrois, cross dresser, ect, ect; while a transsexual is specifically a person whose biological sex is diametrically opposed to their gender identity. So, all transsexuals are transgenders, but not all transgenders are transsexuals.

    IF I was to have this done.. I would prefer to live a less gay lifestyle and take on the persona of a real woman, rather than a gay man who had his dick removed.

    Why do peoples minds go straight to MTF's (male-to-female) when thinking about transsexuals? I mean, there's an equal amount of us FTM's out there.

    She was quite attractive as a woman..and carried it off well. Didn't see her again for several years.

    Fixed.

    It's rather impolite to address someone by the improper pronoun, yknow. =/

    THEN, I ran into her about 5 years later...in a gay bar...and she told me that she was now a lesbian... and preferred sex with a woman.... WTF???


    Sexual orientation=/=gender identity. A transsexual can be gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, whatever and still be a transsexual.
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    Oct 04, 2010 11:03 PM GMT
    Hey, i'v got love for everybody who has love for me....
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    Oct 04, 2010 11:10 PM GMT
    But i think that Foxglove has really opened up a topic on which most of us, gay or straight are pretty much uninformed...at least I am.....So i have two questions for FoxGlove and they are serious and not meant to offend:

    1) Are you a male that has surgically been altered to female or vice versa?

    2) If not, can you plse describe your situation? I find this topic extremely interesting and hopefully enlightening.....Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Oct 05, 2010 4:46 PM GMT

    FoxGlove:

    I sincerely thank you for your response!! I'm one of many who do not fully understand the whole concept...but your response cleared up some of my questions and misunderstandings.
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    Oct 05, 2010 6:11 PM GMT
    One thing that bothers meee is when there is a woman dressed as a man, bound down, and flirts with me as if she is a man. It does NOT bother me because she is trans/whatever the case may be. it bothers me because though she may be a man, she still has female genitalia. Therefore, I'm not interested you know?

    When i was 15 I dated a boy who was in my japanese class. 2 months in, when I uh...felt him up I felt some bandages up there and... well lets just say that ended fast ahaha.
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    Oct 05, 2010 6:29 PM GMT
    It's all about tolerance and acceptance....something we should all know a lot about, being on the shitty end of the stick.....Keith...

    I had a long chat with foxglove last night and it was one of the most interesting chats i have had on here. I think I now understand his position and correct me if I'm wrong...He has a gay man's soul/mind with a female's body......took a long time for me to get my head around it, but the light did finally come on...am I right or wrong R. ? ......Keithicon_cool.gif