Have you contacted your former BULLIES?

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    Oct 04, 2010 11:52 PM GMT
    I am going to repost this because apparently a few took it the wrong way.

    I took the extra step over the years to contact my former bullies. They all said that they were young and stupid then and apologized. I even had a long conversation with one of them about former classmates.

    Have any of you spoken to your former bullies? You should try it. There are two parties involved in bullying. The bully and the victim. If you speak to the bullies, you will find out why they bullied.

    One of my bullies, Tim, is now a corrections officer for delinquent teens. He told me he bullied when he was younger because of his awful family life and he was bullied within his own home by his many brothers. He now hates seeing teens act like he used to.

    Bullies will probably not pay any attention to the "It Gets Better" campaign, which I think is awesome. But they will pay attention to other former bullies speaking out. After all, the root of the problem is not the victim, but the bullies.

    Another is happily married and just friended me on Facebook. People do grow up, you know. Some people.
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    Oct 05, 2010 12:10 AM GMT
    That's a pretty interesting point.

    I guess they get better too.

    Not everybody has its reason, but for sure, some of them aren't doing it just to make your life miserable. Sometimes, they're living the miserable life icon_rolleyes.gif

    But I'm not gonna pity them. They're doing it the WRONG way icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 05, 2010 12:12 AM GMT
    I just found this article. Some of the comments report same thing as me. People grow up and forget, and everything is cool.

    http://www.guardian.co.uk/technology/blog/2009/oct/01/you-decide-facebook-friend-dilemma
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    Oct 05, 2010 12:16 AM GMT
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    Oct 05, 2010 12:16 AM GMT
    its funny that you posted this because i was just thinking about this the other day. I used to get teased and picked on in 6th grade by this girl that was in every single class. I couldn't stand her and she made my life miserable but i spoke to her a while back and i didn't believe i was speaking to the same person. She was extremely nice to me and i was really surprised she remembered my name. She either had a change of heart or it might have been because she was working at the time and making my coffee lol
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    Oct 05, 2010 12:17 AM GMT
    Well fortunately theyre all back in the Philippines so we dont have to deal with each other. They probably would be shocked if they see how BIG ive got since high school, hahaha! I can beat the shit out of them now...
    Yeah go ahead, COME FOR ME BITCHES!!!
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    Oct 05, 2010 12:17 AM GMT
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    Oct 05, 2010 12:18 AM GMT
    I should try, i always think of the guy who molested me in high school, I still think we were both very attracted to one another, he just didnt deal with it i the right way... aftr he molested me he made up by buying me ice creams and stuff during the break.. I never held it against him...
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    Oct 05, 2010 12:29 AM GMT
    amar_m saidI should try, i always think of the guy who molested me in high school, I still think we were both very attracted to one another, he just didnt deal with it i the right way... aftr he molested me he made up by buying me ice creams and stuff during the break.. I never held it against him...


    Amazing that you said you were attracted to your bully, cause when I started out this thread saying that my former bullies were hot, I got chewed out by a couple of people. I believe, in many cases, that can be the reason why some boys pick on other boys or take notice of them. They don't know how to be nice and close to someone, so they do the opposite and pick on them. Sort of like a "You probably won't be my friend, so I'm going to make you take notice of me" thing.

    I was going to say that I contacted Tim when I decided one night to see "whatever happened to so and so" on the internet. I found his email in a bowling league list. I sent him an email telling him I was working on a wrestling documentary. I had in my mind that I would meet him as an adult, and instead of bullying, we would have a fun wrestling match or something.

    Anyway, I said "Hey, are you Tim so and so from so and so High School. I don't know if you remember me, but you used to whip snowballs at me after school when I was walking with my friend, John? What's up man? No hard feelings. What's going on with you and how's (town name)?"

    He responded immediately and we had emails go back and forth so much that we decided to talk on the phone. One of the best conversations I've ever had with a former classmate.

    If you've gone to your 10th, 20th, and so HS reunions, you will know how much people can really change once they get out on their own.
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    Oct 05, 2010 12:34 AM GMT
    I don't contact former bullies often. I've talked to a few and they haven't changed a bit. Like Ron White says, "You can't fix stupid"
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    Oct 05, 2010 12:38 AM GMT
    I suppose when you're only 19 or 24 years old, you're not away from school long enough to see how people change. Wait until you're in your 30s and 40s. It's a whole new life.
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    Oct 05, 2010 12:40 AM GMT
    wrestlervic saidI suppose when you're only 19 or 24 years old, you're not away from school long enough to see how people change. Wait until you're in your 30s and 40s. It's a whole new life.


    The bullies that I knew only care about themselves and fucking every chick they find. They drink, smoke, and god knows what else lol. But you're right, when they fall flat on their asses and realize "Oh shit, life isn't all fun and games", they'll change...I hope so for their sakes.
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    Oct 05, 2010 1:26 AM GMT
    Standardsocal saidits funny that you posted this because i was just thinking about this the other day. I used to get teased and picked on in 6th grade by this girl that was in every single class. I couldn't stand her and she made my life miserable but i spoke to her a while back and i didn't believe i was speaking to the same person. She was extremely nice to me and i was really surprised she remembered my name. She either had a change of heart or it might have been because she was working at the time and making my coffee lol



    wow the same thing happened to me!!!! but in the 4th grade! haha exact same thing actually haha he was making my coffee too! those girls were ruthless back then!
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    Oct 05, 2010 1:29 AM GMT
    Yep, met'm at my 20 year high school reunion.
    They don't hate me anymore. In fact, they were sharing their alcohol with me.
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    Oct 05, 2010 1:30 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidYep, met'm at my 20 year high school reunion.
    They don't hate me anymore. In fact, they were sharing their alcohol with me.


    See, they're just taking a longer time than normal to get us to bed. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 05, 2010 1:30 AM GMT
    amar_m saidI should try, i always think of the guy who molested me in high school, I still think we were both very attracted to one another, he just didnt deal with it i the right way... aftr he molested me he made up by buying me ice creams and stuff during the break.. I never held it against him...


    Sorry, er...I hope that this isn't inflicting any pain, but sounds to me like you can't really molest the willing icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 05, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    I guess I was lucky... I was never the target of any bullies
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    Oct 05, 2010 1:48 AM GMT
    Most have apologized to me...because I got outta that hicktown and they realized I am actually a cool dude. A few have not and never will. They are drowning....in their own woes. I only pity them now...
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    Oct 05, 2010 1:49 AM GMT
    sdgman saidI guess I was lucky... I was never the target of any bullies


    I bet you were one, you hot little bully man. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 05, 2010 1:50 AM GMT
    Steel241 saidI don't contact former bullies often. I've talked to a few and they haven't changed a bit. Like Ron White says, "You can't fix stupid"


    I'll be your next bully... I'll bring some FEATHERS too lol
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    Oct 05, 2010 1:52 AM GMT
    wrestlervic said
    paulflexes saidYep, met'm at my 20 year high school reunion.
    They don't hate me anymore. In fact, they were sharing their alcohol with me.


    See, they're just taking a longer time than normal to get us to bed. icon_wink.gif
    It almost happened with one of them, but my flight out was shortly after the reunion. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 05, 2010 1:52 AM GMT
    IHG84 said
    Steel241 saidI don't contact former bullies often. I've talked to a few and they haven't changed a bit. Like Ron White says, "You can't fix stupid"


    I'll be your next bully... I'll bring some FEATHERS too lol



    Very funny smurf. By the way, tell Matt Hughes that I'm gonna whoop him very soon LOL
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    Oct 05, 2010 1:55 AM GMT
    no, I'm over it
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    Oct 05, 2010 1:56 AM GMT
    My bully is now the dude I love, he still feels bad about what he did but we're extremely close now, and he gets overly protective. We still beat up and poke fun at each other though, but no more broken fingers, ribs or noses lol.

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    Oct 05, 2010 1:57 AM GMT
    I don't ever want to see them, but I would like to know what became of some of them...