Is age difference really a factor?

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    Oct 05, 2010 12:50 AM GMT
    I would like what you think about the age difference between you and your man? Has anyone felt the impact? In my opinion, love is a very beautiful feeling and you never know when your heart falls for someone so should you still decide whether or not to pursue what your heart wants or just go with your feeling ?
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    Oct 05, 2010 8:15 AM GMT
    I think it's depending on how much love and the reality of it. Let's say you're a 30-50 something. You score a fresh guy who just came out and he's not had anyone else... You don't think his mind is going to wander? Especially since you'll be his first and maybe his only?

    I think the experience on both partners and what they really want overpowers any number difference.
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Oct 13, 2010 7:30 AM GMT
    i dont think it should but sometimes it does. u have to have somethings in common or then sex.
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    Oct 13, 2010 7:32 AM GMT
    I think age is important if your young, since most people dont want to be seen around with their gramps. But I think when your older, you generally dont care anymore since it you been through the whole ordeal.
  • GQjock

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    Oct 13, 2010 10:11 AM GMT
    It depends

    It depends on how much the age difference is
    a few years here and there won't really matter
    but when you start talking about 15, 20 years they most likely it will

    also it depends on how close to you age you personality is
    .... if you have a 25 year old who is into hanging out every night and clubbing every weekend
    and a 40 year old who has been through all that it probably isn't going to work
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    Oct 13, 2010 10:23 AM GMT

    It does not have to matter. I know some guys where there is a really big age difference and it works well. But mostly in the UK, gay is young and guys just are not turned on by older guys - even the fit ones!
  • gary954

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    Oct 13, 2010 10:33 AM GMT
    Sorry to say yes. I never thought it mattered, just stopped seeing a 25 yr old guy, very sexy guy, but he wants to do the things i did when i was 25 that i no longer have any interest in. There is nothing wrong with that he needs to do that. Just does not fit into my lifestyle anymore. Need someone more settled.... Just sayin.
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    Oct 13, 2010 4:03 PM GMT
    ShinyToyTrev said
    I think the experience on both partners and what they really want overpowers any number difference.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Oct 13, 2010 4:14 PM GMT
    It all depends on the chemistry and emotional & intellectual connection between the two people, as well as their maturity and patience level. Love crosses many boundaries if it's real and both parties are committed to making it work.
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    Oct 13, 2010 4:24 PM GMT
    The only thing that matters is if you are happy.
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    Oct 13, 2010 7:20 PM GMT
    I dont believe age difference matters, if you like a guy older or younger than you there is nothing to be ashamed of. You cant help who you fall in love with. Intergenerational relationships are more and more becoming accepted, there is even a personals website now for it lol. http://www.intergengay.com/
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    Oct 13, 2010 8:20 PM GMT
    all the guys i dated so far could have been my fathers icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 13, 2010 8:27 PM GMT
    The biggest problem I have noticed with age difference is sharing common stuff, like choice of movies, things to do in spare time, kind of sports you like, what you read. Love is a good thing, but in a longer run you do need a common ground to establish a strong friendship with your partner.
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    Oct 13, 2010 8:44 PM GMT
    age difference has never been an issue with me or the guys that i see at all.
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    Oct 13, 2010 8:57 PM GMT
    age makes no difference to me, it depends on the guy really.
  • bryjeepguy

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    Oct 13, 2010 9:02 PM GMT
    It depends on the people involved, I am 25 I personally couldn't be with anyone younger than 18 or older than 36, those are the ages I feel comfortable with. I have been lectured before by 40+ guys saying age shouldn't be a factor and I am being closed minded etc.

    And while for some age isn't a factor, for other it is, I am still experiencing new things finding out what I like, I rather be around people who are also doing the same not someone who has already done that settled down and figure out everything they want and don't want and limiting me. And I while that is more personality associated with older than the actual age, there is also comfort I just don't feel comfortable in intimate settings with someone who could be my father.

    I have chatted with some cool older guys who and some real jerks who lectured me and talked down to me like I was a child, which is funny since I have one of the older personalities, I don't like to go clubbing, I am not a party guy, I enjoy dry wit and satire more than cheap comedy. Lecturing others on what to do and what not to do how to feel etc because you feel more wise since one is older is one of the traits I have experienced often in my interactions with big age gaps which is why I no longer try and now I get lectured for being closed minded since I gave up on trying, it seems no matter what people want to lecture me with things to do with age difference.

    While some might want to bridge the gap, often they still treat the other with attitudes for their age which can cause friction, like in my case old talking down to young, and young getting frustrated with being treating childlike, but I could also see young trying to get old to be more spontaneous and wild, and older get frustrated with the youth.
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    Oct 13, 2010 11:47 PM GMT
    BuckYou saidall the guys i dated so far could have been my fathers icon_razz.gif


    Haha me too probably :p
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    Oct 13, 2010 11:48 PM GMT
    yes it is
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    Oct 14, 2010 1:28 AM GMT
    I know a couple guys under 25 that are so immature but also know a couple that arent. so it really no biggie unless you let it be.
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    Oct 14, 2010 9:45 PM GMT
    I dunno, I usually tend to go for a guys a bit older than me, and I'd never consider going out with anyone younger than me... it's strange I know but just my preference. For example I'm 21 and the guy I'm very interested in now is 31, my last bf was 28... and I was 17. However I'd never go for someone who is in their 40's and up either, again just preference though.
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    Oct 15, 2010 1:24 AM GMT
    Kyle_Cutie saidI dont believe age difference matters, if you like a guy older or younger than you there is nothing to be ashamed of. You cant help who you fall in love with. Intergenerational relationships are more and more becoming accepted, there is even a personals website now for it lol. http://www.intergengay.com/

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  • binning

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    Oct 15, 2010 1:25 AM GMT
    i really can't afford to be picky. so: no.
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    Oct 15, 2010 1:31 AM GMT
    It do matters sometimes but I don't mind.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 15, 2010 1:42 AM GMT
    I don't know how to answer you on that one buddy. When it comes to age I really would prefer to date someone closer to my age. I will not date any guys in their early 20s and I will only date women who are mid 20's up to early 30's I would not date guys over the age 50. however, I have seen a few guys that might make me reconsider that thought. lol
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    Oct 15, 2010 1:46 AM GMT
    Yes, age matters.

    People change with age. Just as you know that babies develop and you look for the change in their abilities at different months and years. That doesnt stop at babyhood. We develop psychologically all thru our lives. And of course we age. It is not an absolute, but as the age difference becomes greater, so will the issues between the men become greater. And I pity the older guy who gets dumped. Cuz he is older and will have a harder time finding another partner.