...Can we stay friends? The sex is GREAT and you are a nice guy, but not exactly the guy I want to be in a relationship with....

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    Oct 05, 2010 5:46 AM GMT
    Is it possible to part ways and not hurt feelings and stay on friendly terms...?
    I need to know how to do this without being a dick or a pussy....icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 05, 2010 5:54 AM GMT
    Sporty_g saidIs it possible to part ways and not hurt feelings and stay on friendly terms...?
    I need to know how to do this without being a dick or a pussy....icon_eek.gif



    From my personal experience... not usually, but who knows... it depends what you say and how they take criticism and/or rejection.

    You could bring something up like you aren't ready for a relationship and then tie in, but you'd like to remain friends. Usually it will hurt them regardless.
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    Oct 05, 2010 7:37 AM GMT
    Say it pretty much like the thread title, explain and hope.

    You can't tell someone how to feel and have them really feel it.

    So depending on what they've learned and developed, you can't really be "neutral" when telling the truth. Everyone is different. You just have to take a dive when you're honest.
  • HankFit247

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    Oct 05, 2010 1:48 PM GMT
    Yes, it is possible.

    I'd explain that all though the sex is great, your feelings are more in tune with those of a little brother, or good friend, and that you do not feel the spark that will turn into a love affair. That it is not fair to either of you to lead the other to believe that something more exists when it does not.

    Depending on the context of your current relationship, would the subject of continuing a FWB relationship take place.

    Give him time/space to heal, then invite/plan a few fun friend activities. Once the friendship is back in place wo any ulterior motives, then casually approach the FWB conversation.
  • rioriz

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    Oct 05, 2010 2:03 PM GMT
    The other person might be hurt and just give him time to deal. Eventually it will wear off then start initiating more friend stuff. And don't be disappointed if her doesn't want to stay friends. It's his choice as it was yours to end it1
  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 05, 2010 2:22 PM GMT
    i don't think so buddy because if he likes you and you had sex there really isn't no turning back after that.
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    Oct 05, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    Be honest and tell him why you feel that way. He will be confused as to what went wrong or what you think was missing. So sit with and talk.
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    Oct 05, 2010 4:37 PM GMT
    It depends on the guy, but in my experience, someone always ends up feeling hurt. Best you can do is try to explain it, but if he can't handle being only friends (and some guys who've been intimate with you can't just turn that switch off -- I'm one of them), then make sure you're prepared for that.
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    Oct 05, 2010 5:30 PM GMT
    I am battling this very issue internally right now. As hard as i have tried to turn off the feelings or move on, I am afraid that I am going to have to walk away from the best friend I have ever had. My situation is we started on the physical level, moved to friends with no physical, then i fell in love. Wish you luck. From your friend's perspective, tell him how you feel. If he doesn't know then the tiniest sense of hope will keep his feelings for you alive and strong.
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    Oct 05, 2010 5:36 PM GMT
    A couple years ago if you'd asked me I would have said no. But a cool guy I dated a while back changed my mind; good chemistry, great sex, on the same intellectual level, but something was missing. We talked, agreed, and remained friends.
  • coolarmydude

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    Oct 05, 2010 5:38 PM GMT
    Sporty_g saidIs it possible to part ways and not hurt feelings and stay on friendly terms...?
    I need to know how to do this without being a dick or a pussy....icon_eek.gif



    This is exactly why you should have straight female friends. They know exactly how to put men in the "friend zone".
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    Oct 05, 2010 7:16 PM GMT
    Hmm Id be disappointed at first, but Id be fine after a few days... can we at least keep having sex if its that great?? LOL