Celibacy

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    Oct 05, 2010 8:54 PM GMT
    Ok so Ive been celibate for extended periods of time and I feel like Im about to explode.... Like theres all this pressure and I just feel like a steaming kettle whistling and about to blow on a hot stove....... Jerking off doesnt help at all, nor does porn, because it doesnt release any of the tension... Im pretty sure whoever is the next guy I date is going to get attacked by me, Im so fired up

    Has anyone here ever tried extended periods of celibacy? What do you do with all this pent-up pressure for goodness sakes
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    Oct 05, 2010 9:07 PM GMT
    Extended period? I don't know if you'd call 1 month extended... but I'm about to blow a gasket right nowicon_lol.gif I told myself I'm not going to be risky anymore and I have to find the right guy first.
  • mizu5

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    Oct 05, 2010 10:23 PM GMT
    I want to be celibate, but not sutre how to go about ittt
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    Oct 05, 2010 10:24 PM GMT
    Iv been celibate since September 2005. After so long it doesn't bother you so much.
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    Oct 05, 2010 10:29 PM GMT
    well Ive been celibate for periods lasting up to a year every time, up to ten times, I couldnt possible dream of making it last for five years..

    lol 1 month is bad enough haha

    And how to be celibate? just be sure not to meet anybody to have sex with...
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    Oct 05, 2010 10:48 PM GMT
    mizu5 saidI want to be celibate, but not sutre how to go about ittt


    Become a priest icon_wink.gif .
  • sportsdude12

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    Oct 05, 2010 10:53 PM GMT
    I know what you are going through because I've been celibate for extended periods of time as well. I hope to have a regular, consistant sex life one day because that is something I haven't experienced yet. I've gone months to years without having sex. In order to deal with all the pent up sexual energy, I usually jerk off, workout, or go do something to take my mind off sex.
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    Oct 05, 2010 10:55 PM GMT
    sportsdude12 saidI know what you are going through because I've been celibate for extended periods of time as well. I hope to have a regular, consistant sex life one day because that is something I haven't experienced yet. I've gone months to years without having sex. In order to deal with all the pent up sexual energy, I usually jerk off, workout, or go do something to take my mind off sex.


    Yeah, I think a period of celibacy is fine, but its not healthy to keep it going, I'm afraid im gonna get prostate cancer or something icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 05, 2010 11:04 PM GMT
    amar_m said
    sportsdude12 saidI know what you are going through because I've been celibate for extended periods of time as well. I hope to have a regular, consistant sex life one day because that is something I haven't experienced yet. I've gone months to years without having sex. In order to deal with all the pent up sexual energy, I usually jerk off, workout, or go do something to take my mind off sex.


    Yeah, I think a period of celibacy is fine, but its not healthy to keep it going, I'm afraid im gonna get prostate cancer or something icon_sad.gif




    Yeah, I've always wondered if my periods of celibacy would result in any negative health effects. So far I haven't had any problems and I'm not going to have a bunch of one night stands so I can fulfill my sexual needs. I don't like one night stands. I would rather be celibate and wait for a guy to date.
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    Oct 05, 2010 11:13 PM GMT
    amar_m saidOk so Ive been celibate for extended periods of time and I feel like Im about to explode.... Like theres all this pressure and I just feel like a steaming kettle whistling and about to blow on a hot stove....... Jerking off doesnt help at all, nor does porn, because it doesnt release any of the tension... Im pretty sure whoever is the next guy I date is going to get attacked by me, Im so fired up

    Has anyone here ever tried extended periods of celibacy? What do you do with all this pent-up pressure for goodness sakes



    Ha I can go years without sex icon_smile.gif It's all about self control and caring about yourself and how you treat your body!
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    Oct 05, 2010 11:35 PM GMT
    amar_m saidOk so Ive been celibate for extended periods of time and I feel like Im about to explode.... Like theres all this pressure and I just feel like a steaming kettle whistling and about to blow on a hot stove....... Jerking off doesnt help at all, nor does porn, because it doesnt release any of the tension... Im pretty sure whoever is the next guy I date is going to get attacked by me, Im so fired up

    Has anyone here ever tried extended periods of celibacy? What do you do with all this pent-up pressure for goodness sakes


    Yea like I've mentioned on here before I went three years celibate, from mid 2007 until april 2010 after a relationship ended with a younger guy. I had no desire to meet anyone new, no desire for sex, no desire for anything except him. I still feel a sense of loss over it. But in April I jumped back into the pool and started meeting people.

    I found that during that time of celibacy I was way more focused, I felt less lonely, and I was able to accomplish great things, build a business, make a lot of money, and channel the energy into the gym and working out. I never went online, never even to look.

    Now that I'm back on the market, life is less productive and I am more lonely. I developed feelings for a couple of guys who can never return them. Life is definitely more peaceful without the distraction of sex or men in it.
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    Oct 05, 2010 11:44 PM GMT
    CaliBoySwag said

    Life is definitely more peaceful without the distraction of sex or men in it.


    I'm afraid I'm gonna have to agree with this one...
  • rioriz

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    Oct 06, 2010 1:38 AM GMT
    I went 6 months before and 7 months another time...never again!!!! Like you said jerking off doesn't really cut it most of the time when you really just want sex!!!
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    Oct 06, 2010 1:39 AM GMT
    amar_m said
    sportsdude12 saidI know what you are going through because I've been celibate for extended periods of time as well. I hope to have a regular, consistant sex life one day because that is something I haven't experienced yet. I've gone months to years without having sex. In order to deal with all the pent up sexual energy, I usually jerk off, workout, or go do something to take my mind off sex.


    Yeah, I think a period of celibacy is fine, but its not healthy to keep it going, I'm afraid im gonna get prostate cancer or something icon_sad.gif
    Then come on over... I'll help ya keep healthy!
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    Oct 06, 2010 3:04 AM GMT

    Its been a year and two months for me now. And honestly i don't have the urge for sex, just for love and be loved.
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    Oct 06, 2010 3:21 AM GMT
    Since 2002.
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    Oct 06, 2010 6:48 AM GMT
    Tazo995 said
    CaliBoySwag said

    Life is definitely more peaceful without the distraction of sex or men in it.


    I'm afraid I'm gonna have to agree with this one...


    lol I dont know, I never experienced NOT being distracted by sex or men, its alwys on my mind, I wouldnt be able to turn it off, I can meditate, but once I stop meditating, my mind is back on it
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    Oct 06, 2010 6:49 AM GMT
    wow interesting how many people on here actually LIKE celibacy...

    What on earth is wrong with me? My mind just wont shut it the sex drive off
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    Oct 06, 2010 6:51 AM GMT
    maxbull said
    Its been a year and two months for me now. And honestly i don't have the urge for sex, just for love and be loved.


    Love I get plentifully , by the bushel, it doesnt replace it
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    Oct 06, 2010 6:56 AM GMT
    Haven't had sex since April of '09... -shrug-
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    Oct 06, 2010 6:57 AM GMT
    Uh... let's see... 22 years and 7 months, plus nine months for gestation in the oven.... Yup that was the last time any part of me was involved in intercourse.

    Granted I'd like to remedy that, but I'm looking for the right guy. I don't feel like I'm gonna explode as much as I'm running out a clock and pedaling fast toward a ridiculous Steve Carrell movie.
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    Oct 06, 2010 6:58 AM GMT
    The research agrees:

    " Indeed, in a small but significant study published in 2001 in the Journal of Sex Research, doctors from Georgia State University found that folks who are involuntarily celibate are frequently afflicted with feelings of anger, frustration, self-doubt and even depression -- all invariably linked to living without sex."

    It also mentions lower self-esteem due to celibacy.. something I know I have

    http://men.webmd.com/features/sexless-in-the-city

    And this is on webMD icon_eek.gif

    I seriously need to start a male prostitution business here or something, this is not good
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    Oct 06, 2010 7:11 AM GMT
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    mizu5 saidI want to be celibate, but not sutre how to go about ittt


    Become a priest icon_wink.gif .


    Uhhhmmmm CJ,,,,,Priest, Celibate,,,,??????? what church you going to brother??............Keithicon_cool.gif
  • metta

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    Oct 06, 2010 7:13 AM GMT
    I could probably be celibate forever. Right now, I have been celibate for over 2 1/2 years. I have had much longer periods than that prior as well.

    It is interesting for me to see how different peoples sex drives are. I feel fortunate that I don't feel the need to masturbate 5 times a day the way many men seem to feel they need. I would not want my sex drive to consume my entire life to the point where I could not get anything else done.

    I can take care of myself physically, and I'm almost fine with it physically. Hooking up does not interest me. I don't feel that I can get what I need from doing that. When I want to be with someone, I want more than just getting off so I feel unsatisfied from hookups. I feel that I can take care of myself better than a hookup and I don't have the stress or worrying about diseases or wondering how well I did....or feelings of wishing that it was emotionally more than it was.

    I will say that there are times that I wish that I had more...wishing that I could at least be able to spoon or hug with some sexy guy. But I don't approach people and I don't really let people approach me because I typically assume that they are just interested in a hookup...and if they start coming up to me by grabbing their crotch..well...what do you expect me to think.

    (I don't know if it is a good idea to be this honest .....but there you have it.)
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    Oct 06, 2010 7:14 AM GMT
    amar_m saidThe research agrees:

    " Indeed, in a small but significant study published in 2001 in the Journal of Sex Research, doctors from Georgia State University found that folks who are involuntarily celibate are frequently afflicted with feelings of anger, frustration, self-doubt and even depression -- all invariably linked to living without sex."

    It also mentions lower self-esteem due to celibacy.. something I know I have

    http://men.webmd.com/features/sexless-in-the-city

    And this is on webMD icon_eek.gif

    I seriously need to start a male prostitution business here or something, this is not good


    Happy to be yer first John,,,,,,,,icon_wink.gif Keithicon_cool.gif