I'm in an almost exact situation as yourself. And yes, I sometimes/a lot of time, actually, overthink/worry about things.
I will also add that this is my first relationship type thing.
I've been seeing/dating a guy for roughly two months too, well, since Nov last year. I used to see him every weekend until recently. We live an hour apart by train, so I always took the train up to see him. And yeah, we went to great restaurants, and he showed places in the city, and talked a lot about his family and their connection to it etc..
Every dinner at his apartment or country house would be candles, linen, music, wine/champange..the works. And yes, we were intimate too.
I was away for 4 weeks over christmas, and we emailed and texted every few days. When I came back, he introduced me to two long time gay friends of his and their boyfriends. ALso said he'd introduce me to his dad one day.
We both said we liked each other etc.. He told me I was special and unique. He has a busy work life, and I know it can get stressful, and hours can be long.
Not long ago, I noticed a pattern..he seems to only want to see me every other week. The first time, I was sad of course, and for a couple of times after that. Maybe he just wants some space/time alone, and he used to call or text. That gradually became less, and the nature of his texts seem different. Now, he sometimes doesn't respond to my texts.
Last weekend, I found out that he wasn't out in the country when he said he was. Let's just say I had a feeling inside for a while now that made me feel things were different.
He doesn't have a computer or internet out there, yet he was online on a dating/hookup site(the site through which I first met him) around the time he was supposed to be out there having dinner with the neighbours!
I've also discovered he has profiles on a few other such sites.
What's worse, I created another profile, went online, and he messaged me(that profile), and asked if I wanted dinner, wine etc. Seems like he's been doing this for quite some time.
Anyway, I've found out a few other things about him. He claims that he has never been in love, because he doesn't know what love is, I am just one of the guys he has seen more of in recent months, and that he considers himself single and not in a relationship, and hopes to meet the man who will accept him as he is(I thought I already did!)
Patsfan, what does he do that makes you so sad? Maybe it's something to look at carefully.
I didn't want to believe my instinct/feeling, and brushed it away as paranoia/insecurity, and hoped it was..but turns out i wasn't too far wrong.
I hope things turn out well and happy for you and your man.