Should i ask my friend if he is gay?

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    Oct 09, 2010 5:03 AM GMT
    the thing is this, I have this friend that I am 90% sure is gay, at first I hear rumors and payed more attention to him, later we became friends and although super nice and everything, his personality didn't strike me as gay. yet there is something and facebook has made things clearer.

    My question its because he has seem depressed to me for the last few days, and i wonder if it has something to do with that, I want to ask but I'm not really sure, besides how would you feel if you try to put an image of straight and realice it hasn't work, would it be something like going to the gym and nobody noticing? you know desapoinment after all the efford

    I think i just realize this is a stupid question after writting all of this, and i should just ask him, but still comment all your wise words. in my personal experience I remember I felt horrible when my father first asked and didn't want to get any alone time with him trying to avoid the subject, so i dont want that happening with him.
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    Oct 09, 2010 5:20 AM GMT
    It doesn't matter whether or not he's gay.
    What matters is whether or not he's into you.
    So your question should be worded with that in mind.
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    Oct 09, 2010 5:42 AM GMT
    well I do like him, but its not really about that. I am perfectly aware that he is in a relationship so icon_sad.gif

    Actually thats why I have doubts, he never talks about "her", she lives far away and although his facebook status is "in a relationship" its not linked to anyone, ohh and theres a guy that constantly puts comments on his wall and im pretty sure thats hes long dinstance boyfriend
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    Oct 09, 2010 5:44 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIt doesn't matter whether or not he's gay.
    What matters is whether or not he's into you.
    So your question should be worded with that in mind.


    What he said ^^^^^^^^ That's one of the most well-grounded emotionally sound pieces of effective advice I've seen on here given to another who's seeking it. That was beautiful! I'll have to remember this! icon_smile.gif